Have any of you cheated on your wives? Why? Did you/will you tell her? Do you regret it? I am soooo paranoid that my husband will cheat on me, any suggestions to keep him from cheating? Sorry for all of the questions and thank you in advance!!!
2007-04-11 16:02:39 · 19 answers · asked by casper 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you think your husband is cheating and he's not , but you make his life miserable with your paranoia he will cheat. Or worse he will leave you. Do you have legitimate reasons to think so? Look honestly at yourself. Do you nag or find fault with every little thing? Have you "let yourself go"? If he's happy in bed and feels wanted and needed around the house, you'll have no problems.
2007-04-11 16:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by ebs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I have not cheated on my wife, because I would never disrespect her and because I love her more than life itself, and last but not least, I read the marriage contract before I said "I do" and understood all the terms and before God swore that I would abide by everything that was spelled out for me. I did not ever have to tell my wife that I cheated on her, because I never did. I think you can keep your husband happy and tell him what he means to you and mean it.
However, it must be reciprocal. Marriage is not a one way proposition, it takes two people to make a marriage work.
Love, honesty, kindness,courtesy, respect, harmony, communication, warmth, and trust are all part of the formula which when practiced are a guarantee that neither of you will cheat on the other.
2007-04-11 23:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I have never cheated on my wife and I have no desire to. It would be like leaving steak for tofu!
Be careful about the paranoid thing. If you accuse him of wanting to cheat he may think, "Well, I'm already being accused of it so I might as well be guilty of it!" and then go out and do it. What would he have to lose?
My wife use to be afraid to trust me. It was very hurtful to me as I am a man of great integrity. It's hard to feel close when your wife is suspicious. So, if you're paranoid for no good reason, you're probably doing some damage to your relationship.
Perhaps this will give you some peace of mind:
If you are suspicious of your husband for no good reason, you are robbing the both of you of a fulfilling marriage! You should enjoy your husband as if he would never cheat on you. He will likely sense this devotion from you and it will draw you closer together. My wife and I drew closer when she started trusting me more fully.
But if you have a good reason to be suspicious that your husband is cheating, you shouldn't be married to him anyway. The right husband would never give his wife cause to believe he is cheating. So in that case I would make conditions even more favorable for him to cheat just to get the cat out of the bag and then divorce him. Then you can get on with a more fulfilling life.
The other possibility is that you are the type of person who is suspicious of everyone and everything and are just a big pain in the a$$. If that's the case, stop inflicting yourself on the rest of us and get some professional help!
2007-04-11 23:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No never have...never will. I was cheated on so I know how it feels....and it is a rotten feeling. How do you stop someone from cheating....well I guess there is no way of stopping someone if they really want to...all you can do....or anyone else for that matter is not only love your partner...but treat them as your best friend. Let them know that you are there for them no matter what...and that you are willing to LISTEN to them WITHOUT judging them. Sometimes people cheat for more reasons than just sex.....a lot of people say that there partner never really listened to them or seemed to care about there feelings.
However...I guess some people are just never happy with what they have waiting at home....and as sad as it is...the ones waiting at home have no control over what they do.
Best of luck
2007-04-11 23:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a married man.... I am the wife.... I have been married for ten years.... my second marriage..... let me give you some advise whether you want it or not..... First of all, I was one of those super paranoid girls myself.... I drove my first husband totally away w/ my constant accusations....which were totally founded.... he was an ***.... I started to worry at the beginning of my second marriage, but have come to this conclusion......... If you really suspect he is cheating, he probably is.... men aren't that good at hiding a real lie like that..... if you feel like you are just being paranoid and he isn't giving you a reason to think he is unfaithful...... than just calm down!!!!! You will end up driving him away...... Trust your heart, it will tell you what you need to know.
2007-04-11 23:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I have never cheated, and I don't plan to. You can't 'keep' your husband from cheating. You have to have trust. I've been married over 9 years now, and it hasn't always been perfect, but if you're truly committed, respect each other's feelings, and make an effort to communicate truly, you can always work things out. I completely trust my wife, and I would never want to betray her's.
2007-04-11 23:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by Alexander D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will never cheat on my wife. Her last husband cheated and it would totally crush her. But besides that I cant believe he would have cheated on this sweet loving woman. We have been married for only five years at this point but I cant ever imagine being that deceitful as to cheat!
2007-04-11 23:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work to make the relationship secure. Be a fun, understanding companion he can talk to. Take care of your physical health. Don't stress him out! Keep him enthralled in the sack. You may not keep him from cheating, but considering these tips makes it less likely! Good Luck!
2007-04-11 23:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I am not a man, but if you want to keep your husband, then you need to treat him right, love him, appreciate him, and respect him.
I would consider on reading, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage."
Plus, you shouldn't be paranoid at all, you married him and you should trust him.
2007-04-11 23:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! never will my wife is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I would not, could not hurt her like that.
Lot's of sex and communication, less nagging but really it comes down to sex and well more sex and being open to trying new things. Never a threesome.
Just keep him happy tell him how much he means to you, do stuff for him,
2007-04-12 02:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋