When i see a group in which i kno some poeple in, i dont kno how to go over there and join in the conversation. I dont think i can just walk up there while everyone is talking about a subject. I think it would be a little werid. What are some ways to join this conversation without looking werid like a person who comes out of no where and starts talking?
2007-04-11 15:34:47 · 17 answers · asked by Peter p 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is a bit awkward, but it can be done. Walk up casually and try to catch the eye of one of the people that knows you. When you catch their eye, smile and nod and/or say hi. Don't immediately start talking unless they talk first, because you might be interrupting. The person whose eye you caught first, if they're polite, should move over slightly for make room for you. Once they do that, move in gradually and listen to the conversation, adding bits as appropriate.
This won't work very well if you're approaching two people who are having an intense conversation. It also won't work well if you can't establish eye contact before you join the group.
If there are three or more people talking and none of them looks their way, find the person in the group who looks the least involved. Then approach that person casually and say hi, etc. But not too much talking unless that person initiates it. Otherwise you might be interrupting the other conversation.
2007-04-11 15:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get into the line of sight of someone in the group that you know - make eye contact, give them a 'hello' nod or something.
Next, approach the group and just listen in, like you're interested in whatever has captured your friends' attention.
Then, you can make an affirmative or inquisitive sound like 'ahh' or 'hmm', accompanied by a nod, or perhaps a head-tilt to the side.
At this point it should be okay for you to inteject with a short remark or perhaps a question seeking clarification. Questions are great, since they provoke the group into engaging further with you.
Be sure not to reject the views and ideas of the people in the conversation, otherwise you're likely to be sidelined.
-Rob
2007-04-11 15:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"May I join you?" / "May I join in this conversation?" / "Would you mind if I joined in this conversation?" Would be the polite things to say. Of course, if they were polite, they'd say yes whether or not it bothered them that you were involved with the conversation. Most people I know of simply begin talking, nobody seems to mind really. Unless they're being particularly unpleasant about the subject matter or in mannerism and attitude.
2007-04-11 16:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The general rule is if there are two or three people talking seriously (look at their body language and facial expressions) don't interrupt. If there are three or more people talking, it probably isn't private. Go up to the people you know and say hi in a friendly way. The other people will let you know by their actions if its appropriate to interrupt. If they are unfavorable to you, say goodbye and walk away.
2007-04-11 15:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly dont want to be judged as a busy body, right?
Well, dont meddle, but it's a common coutesy to greet people you know. Say 'Hi', greet them, and if they invite you in the conversation, then blend in. If not, just excuse yourself. That's pretty much it i guess.
If you really want to join the conversation, just stand there, listen. If you notice that people are okay with you listening to what they're discussing, wait for the right moment to put in a comment ;)
2007-04-11 15:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by williams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk over to them and wait for a break in the conversation and say hello. If you have something interesting to add to that conversation, say it when everyone is finished talking. Don't ever talk over anyone.
2007-04-11 15:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up and make some kind of contact(eye contact, physical touch) with someone you do know. After that, try to immerse yourself in the existing converstion but try to not be over-bearing. Listen to what's going on around you and join in on coversations you'd be able to make sense of
I hope this helps.
2007-04-11 15:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Teel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u know someone in the group, it's ok to walk to him/her and say hi. i mean if he/she notices u, i'm sure he/she will say hi too. if u would like to join in the conversation, just ask "may i join u guys?"
2007-04-11 15:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Deal Best 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just go over and stand and listen for a good time to speak . then after a bit introduce yourself if your friends don't introduce you first. that's about it . oh and i would be very neutral in what i was saying to them as i don't know them so it would all be sort of yes sure great that kind of thing.
2007-04-11 15:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could say im sorry i couldnt help overhearing and then voice to them your opinion depending what they are talking about or you could walk over slowly and then begin to talk so that they have a idea in there head like oh hes coming over here
2007-04-11 15:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mia More 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋