2007-04-11 15:22:52 · 13 answers · asked by keith_r83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you still love her, work it out. Forgive her. Forgive your brother too. But it would be hard to trust again....they would both have to earn that - BIG TIME!
2007-04-11 15:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does she still love you? You can't force someone to love you! And if there is no love from one of you, the child will pick up on that. It is not healthy for a child to grow up in a home where the 2 parents don't love each other. And where was the loyalaty from your brother. That is really bad that it was between her and your brother. If it were me, I would move on, but you are the only one that knows the whole story. You have to do what your heart tells you. But if she no longer loves you, don't waste your time. There is someone out there that will be faithful and make you happy. Good Luck!!
2007-04-11 22:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by oursnowbaby32 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. This is a tough one. Not only did you lose faith in her, you've lost faith in your brother as well. No one on this earth can tell you if you have what it takes in your heart to heal from this and continue a relationship with this woman as well as a relationship with your brother. I don't believe I could.
But one thing is very clear to me........
You are questioning if it is at all possible, you also say you still love her and it's clear that your child's security is important to you.......
Given that, I must say that I believe you would always regret it if you didn't at least try.
Whatever you decide, I truly wish you the best of luck, dear.
2007-04-11 22:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE! Why do you want to stay with someone who would not only cheat, but with your own brother! You don't still love her, you are afraid to be alone, don't confuse the two. Just because you have a child is no reason to stay together! Do you want to teach your child it is ok to be treated like this! Get some balls and leave.
2007-04-11 23:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by mimi s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family is sacred. Can be forgiven. Will take a lifetime to do. Is a situation that will never be forgotten. You are better off letting it go entirely or moving on. There are only shades of gray if you do not. Sorry to hear. Been there done this.
2007-04-11 22:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then forgive her...Does she want you back? Or does she want out? If she wants out...I would tell her why you think that that is a mistake, but ultimately give her what she wants.
If she wants you back then just forgive her for her mistakes... Sounds hard and in reality it is...But it takes a BIG man with loads of character to be the bigger person.
2007-04-11 22:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, that's messed up. It's your choice. You can take her back...I wouldn't suggest making it easy for her. It would be hard to ever trust her again, or your bro for that matter, but that is a decision that only you can make. Can you deal with that? That's what it all comes down to. Good Luck.
2007-04-11 22:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Pooky 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i know youre hurting,and not thinking clearly,but you should really think long and hard about staying with her.Its hard enough to accept infidelity if it was committed with someone you dont know,but a brother that will allways be in your life,I dont know if its possible to heal that wound.I feel for you and good luck
2007-04-11 22:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by gremey82 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I feel your pain, my wife cheated on me too, I was broken, hurt really bad, I gave my heart to Jesus, he has healed my pains, He has freed me, I can live again......Jesus loves you
2007-04-11 22:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her you can't trust her again she did the carnal sin. I know it seems like you could never love again but you can i know you can.
2007-04-11 23:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋