help! i have no friends serious question?

Question

im very shy and a total outcast. i dont fit in a school and have no friends. im always at my house and usually spend weekends with my grandma. i feel really upset about this all the time.

Answer 1

Do you eat alot of tacos with your Grandma? Why don't you cook some tacos and give them away to people, then you will make friends, and hanging out with your Grandma is cool!!!

Answer 2

So long as you remain the sole guest at your pity party nothing will change. You don't say if this is a new school or one you have attended for awhile. If this is a new school it is sometimes very hard to break into the mainstream. If this is one you have attended when did you notice you had no friends? Did you once have friends and now have none what is the reason?
A little more information would be very helpful...can you add more? It's very had to answer your question without knowing more about your situation. I will tell you one thing that has served me well in every situation.
Momma said, "When you enter a room keep your head up and a smile on your face. If you make eye contact with anyone say Hi or at the least nod acknowledgment you recognize they are present." She was right I have moved many times and have never failed to meet at least one person I connected with. It's not the quantity of friends it is the quality.

Answer 3

Hello!
You know, most of us felt like this in school.
It takes time to find ourselves and our confidence.
Some kids find it easier and earlier, and some just end up taking more time.

You need to get involved in after school activities.
You will be involved with people, and some of you will click!

Don't try to be anyone but yourself, but take a look in the mirror. Do your clothes make you look "happy"?
I'm not saying buy all new clothes, but tuck in your shirt, layer two t-shirts, something.
How about your face? Nobody thinks they are gorgeous - but (if you are a girl) let's look at your eyebrows, and your make-up. A little eye liner and tweezed eyebrows make a difference. How about your hair? Would highlights help?

Also - posture is very important - it sends a message about your body language - which is part of your first impression.

Stand up straight, be confident - look "happy" and do after school activities.

High school isn't forever - there is so much waiting for you - enjoy as much as you can now and know you can't even imagine how great and how different college will be!

Best wishes!

Answer 4

Hi i was very shy at school and always spent my weekends at home with my parents. Just concentrate at school get good grades and just start take care of yourself (if that makes senses). After i finished school went to TAFE made different new friends and they changed my life completely as from now im very talkative and just trying to enjoy life and meet as many people as you can and keep the special ones close like your Grandma. Hope this helps !!

Answer 5

Sometimes it's better to have no friends than bad ones. Yeah, I get lonely too, but remember there's a God out there.
Tell ya what, we're both shy. Just make a point to talk to someone you don't know at least once a week. At school, at the store, anywhere. Then, conversation will start coming naturally and the result of conversation will be a friendship.

Answer 6

I'm the same way, but there are people who'll accept you.

First, remember to be your own person. Don't feel bad about yourself just because you don't have any friends. You don't have to like or accept your situation, but you do have to like and accept yourself. Don't base your own sense of self-worth on others' opinions. This'll help you in life, no matter where you go or what you do.

The easiest way is to get involved with some kind of group or project. Get involved with some kind of program that gives you something to do and which requires you to work with others as part of a group. Most of the friends I make are people I work directly with. You can also become a tutor for your peers; this will help you to learn to interact with others.

Answer 7

First, as you probably have figured out that most of us answering your question have a shy streak. We've been there.

Second, consider yourself blessed and ahead of the game of life soley because you have a good relationship with your grandmother. You would not believe the number of people who never had the chance you have to be close to a grandparent and learn from him or her.

Now to my suggestions:

(1) Join some sort of club at school and interact with people there. Get a list of possible organizations you can join and join up. Get involved with something you really enjoy.

(2) Realilze that some people are just "school friends," someone you interact with at school but not necessarily out of school. Be happy with them. Laugh with each other in class and at lunch or in gym class.

(3) Related to (2) there are all kinds of friends. Some other categories of friends include best friends, casual friends, and close friends. Lots of people don't have best friends (especially guys) and seem to be perfectly happy. In life you will probably develop a few close friends but several if not many casual ones. Something I can let you in on right now at your age: Don't knock the casual friends -- the ones that are not really close ones but ones you might do things with or talk to casually (but would not necessarily confide in). Build up your casual friendships and don't necessarily use all of your energy attempting to get that one special friend right now -- he or she will come along.

(4) The best way for you to get guy friends is to hang around a group of guys at your age; or if you want gal friends, hang around them. If this is not you, then see if you get along well with someone who has the same interests as you in something: a school subject, a class, a hobby, or some kind of sport or other activity, maybe even pets.

(5) Do you interact with anyone now around your own age at your place of worship?

(6) Do you interact with anyone now in your neighborhood?

(7) Who do you interact with now? Think of who your ACQUAINTANCES are (and not your friends). Could a friendship develop with one of these people?

(8) It's perfectly okay to have a platonic friendship with someone of the opposite sex.

(9) Did you ever ask your grandma if she had any suggestions for you -- as to how to gain friends?

(10) Do you interact with other relatives now, like any siblings or first cousins?

I hope this helps you. All I can say to add to this is that there is someone out there who will be a good friendship match for you. Don't give up.

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

first how old are you...and second don't worry u will get friends as you age...I was the outcast all up until i was a senior in high school...and I now have a very close group of friends who are awesome...and spend time with your family now...because u might not get to later

Answer 9

i think that you should just be yourself...

i mean, lets see... if you dont belong to a group of "cool people" then, dont mingle around with them...because that's not your thing. if you belong to a group of people that's good in something, and you have the same interests, go to them and talk to them. try to hang out with them. if you dont have the courage to do that yet, you need to gather up your self-confidence and self-esteem. the right time will come. and try spending your weekends in the mall or an arcade or try inviting a person(classmate) in your house... i mean, the person you have decided to invite would be very glad to the thought that you've invited him...

or maybe... find someone thats also lonely... and try to cheer him up and maybe in the end... he/she will be your bestfriend.

BE YOURSELF.... thats the only way...

good luck on that!

Answer 10

Dont be too worried about it and dont go trying to be somebody ur not.., eventually people who like and see you for who you truly are will gravitate towards you... but you could try talking to others and maybe on weekends try hanging out at places where you think other people who have similar interests as you may hang out...eg..bookstore, ice cream parlour and then you can take it from there..