EX-Husban Need Help Getting on with life What to do?

Question

I have asked this similar question before: Yesterday was 1 year since my ex and I split up: I orginally thought it was both of our falut but the more I play it over in my mind i realize it was more him than me. Now don't get me wrong I was not perfect. He has already re-married, but the woman he married he bad mouthed to my sister about her wieght and bratty children, he wasn't very good with the one child we had together or his nehews. I am trying to move on with my life...but its almost like I can't move on until he apologizes for the way he treated me and I know not to hold my breath. How do you move on after a divorce? I have to get on with my life. Help Please and how did he get on so quickly?

Answer 1

You may as well forget an apology from him.Use your time for something constructive instead of waiting on him.He has moved on and now it's your turn.There's not really any trick to moving on you just have to make up your mind to carry on and quit living in the past.

Answer 2

I think for whatever reason, men tend to move on quicker from divorce. Maybe its because they are less emotional about it, and that helps them move on. Maybe it's an instinct that's been developed through the ages. Maybe it's that many men have someone already on the side.

I understand that an apology might give you some sort of closure, but is it really that important? Suppose he does apologise. Then what? How is that going to change your life?

Time is a finite gift. You now have a freedom that you didn't have when you were married. Go out and enjoy it. You may find yourself remarried someday, and the time you have to "find yourself" may be traded in again.

Answer 3

You may need some kind of therapy to help you get over this, it sounds like you have quite a few unresolved issues from your marriage that you need to get out with someone. I'm glad you realize that your ex probably isn't going to apologize to you. Another thing, you could keep telling yourself how glad you are to be rid of him, because quite honestly, he sounds like a jerk to me.

Maybe try to pick up a new hobby, take a class or something in something that interests you. Get out in the world and meet new people, that will help you get over the divorce as well. The rest will just take time, and some people get over things faster than others. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

You cannot move on if you keep holding those grudges. Forgive and forget. Go out with friends and spend time on things that you like to do. I do a lot of little things with my friends, and volunteer work helps me cope also. I travel and see different parts of the countries. I also take up dancing (contra dance). It's a lot of fun.

Answer 5

if he got on with his life faster then you did, it was because he was emotionally done with the relationship before the relationship even ended. and you need to face something. he's not going to apologize. they never do. why do you need someone to tell you to your face why they don't love you? don't do that to yourself. and as for you getting over the ended relationship...it will happen if you let it. it may take days from now or years. but it will happen when you are ready.

Answer 6

been there and seen it. you have to get pass this. start getting interested in other things, like hiking, join a club. get new friends. just move from the past and look forward to the future.

Answer 7

Quit asking "similar" questions

Answer 8

i know how u feel, its hard to move on, but we have to, try to put it in the past, things will get better

Answer 9

you give yourself a makeover and be totally beautiful and confident. Redecorate everything in your life.