I've been with a girl for 4 years, and recently she's been trying to get help by him to get a job, not working with him, just the same company. Well they used to like each other many years ago when we were all friends, actually I met her through him. Well we had a falling out and now I don't like him. Well she had been hiding text messages, emails and calls from me.
When I ask if something is going on she denies anything. However, I'll ask her, "What if he liked you, what would you do?" and then she says "He doesn't so its not an issue" and I'll ask her again, "Well just say he did like you, even if he doesn't, if you find out he did like you, what would you do?" And she'll say. "He doesn't!"
Well to make matters worse I told her about the time he got jealous and had bad mouthed her, telling her that he called her "ugly" many years ago. She seemed offended and hurt.
Anyway... do you think there's something going on?
2007-04-11 14:11:49 · 9 answers · asked by andrew a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that unless you two TRUST each other then you're fighting for a lost cause.
Her hiding her new "friendship" with him is not cool, but why are you bringing up intentionally hurtful things? This helps NO ONE.
Tell her you're not 100% comfortable with her being so "friendly" with him. Ask her how she would feel if you were so friendly with a chick that she dislikes. Take it from there. If she refuses to stop seeing him, then there's always going to be that trust issue and only more problems will arise from it.
Good luck.
2007-04-11 14:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by notsoswan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky. Your mistrust in your girlfriend will most likely destroy the very foundations of your relationship but trusting her and then having her go off with the other guy will destroy u in a similar way. Guess the best approach is a hybrid of the 2. keep a healthy amount of skepticism while still trusting her
2007-04-11 14:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like there might be something going on just because of how defensive she is getting over the issue. if it wasn't a big deal than she would be like i wouldn't do anything i would tell hI'm im w/ u. Just keep trying to talk to her and see what happens.
2007-04-11 14:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by HOTSEXYONE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's been with you for four years. Remember that. If you don't want her having anything to do with him, then sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel instead of beating around the bush.
2007-04-11 14:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Doll 101 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's probably hiding stuff because she doesnt want to cause drama. I respect my husbands opinions, if he doesnt like something, I wont do it. He doesnt like my work, I'll quit and find something else. but you shouldnt try to hurt her feelings so you can feel assured.
2007-04-11 14:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sounding like a scared , jealous, small man. Back off.
2007-04-11 14:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If theres not, there will be if you keep acting jealous.
2007-04-11 14:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you trust her...or you don't. and only if you are sure she's hiding anything from you, dump her....don't explain.
2007-04-11 14:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, there is something going on!
2007-04-11 14:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋