Why are modern day marrages failing so badly?

Question

What would you consider to be the key to keeping a marriage together?

Answer 1

Open communication, Love and desire, trust and sex/romance. Spartan

Answer 2

Hard work, Love doesnt stay alive without proper care any more than you do. If you stopped giving your body the nourishement it requires how long would it function before " falling apart"? Not long right. You have to give a relationship nourishment as well. You have to feed with your relationship every day just as you eat every day or else it will begin to starve and eventually die. People tend to take relationships for granted and expect that they will always be there. They pass up simple oppertunities that could make their loved one happy to do things that economy deems more important. Instead of spending quality time with your loved one you spend it with money or television or whatever it may be.Not that you shouldnt do those things, but somewhere you have to make time to just love each other, just enjoy one anothers company. Another thing that causes marriages to fail is the fact that "sex" is overrated. You can have sex with 1000 different people but it will never compare to the sex you will have with a true love. I guess people are not okay with that and want to keep trying on others you know, but if they would just sit back and enjoy what they have instead of being curious about what they dont they might finally come to the conclusion that the grass isnt always greener on the other side, maybe you just need to tend to your own lawn to make it what you desire, do you understand? The key to a great marriage is dont ever quit working at it, you get what you put in.

Answer 3

True love and not pre-marital sex. Moving-in adds a kind of guilt to staying together and getting married. Being compatible and knowing what is the other person really saying when there is a problem or what is their real moral character? Communication and really talking with quality time is absolutely necessary. You can't teach a dead horse new tricks so don't think you can change someones character and make them behave better. Moral is Moral. Drunk is a Drunk. Pot head is a Pot head. Beauty is only skin deep and fails in most marriages because we shop for the mannequins and they are sometimes not real. Dating has to continue even though kids and job erodes at the marriage. So the answer is compound and each couple has to go through some kind of CSI stuff and introspection of what is this person to me and what do I really want so I don't have to go through a divorce.

Answer 4

Modern day marriages fail today because nobody respects a marriage anymore. If someone goes to their friends and say hey, I think I want to marry this person, They will give every reason in the world why they shouldn't do it. marriage is a wonderful thing if done right. Also people want to rush into marriage. Get to really know each first. Be friends first and don't marry for money or sex.

Answer 5

People and marriage are the same as they were one hundred years ago. Some are good some are very bad and most are somewhere in between. What has changed is society's expectations on marriage. Where once is was almost unheard of to get a divorce, it is now very acceptable. The two people in a marriage were expected to tolerate any **** that was handed them, no matter what is was, while today people are saying "no, I desire better, I desire to be happy in this life time". Unfortunately it doesn't always have a happy ending especially for the children involved.

Answer 6

I would value honesty would be the key ingredient to a marriage as well as forgiveness. I know in my last couple relationships this was a very hard thing for myself as well as my partners to keep committed by. If you can be honest as well as forgiving, and open about things, then you should be able to work through anything. I am not an expert nor have I been married, this is just something I have experienced to be a breaking point in most of my relationships.

Answer 7

Modern day marriages fail because couples rush into marriage, and don't consider whether they are really compatible. Commitment is the key to keeping a marriage going.

Answer 8

Why stay married divorce is so easy, a majority of people get married under the bed of roses syndrome. There under the impression that the married life is easy. But being married is not always easy you have to take the good times with the bad times. They have no understanding about communication or what true love really is. Mistakes will be made that's part of life you fix it and move on. Well not really you get divorced right? Love honor and cherish till death due us part? Maybe some forgot about those vows when they got married..........

Answer 9

Take it from one that is going through a divorce I have been married for 32 years now. Trust is a big factor, communication, everyone needs friends. Partnership marriage is a partnership, not the man is the king of his castle I've heard this till I had my fill. What the man says goes! Bull; it take two for the marriage to work not one, It takes two to sign for the house when you finance a home, two to pay the bills, two to start a family, so please before you decide to get married remember it is a partnership, no more no less.

Answer 10

I believe that people today do not come from 2 parent homes and then do not value the importance of it. My parents have been married almost 41 yrs, my in-laws almost 36 years. My husband and I both believe that you stay married and work through your differences because we lived it and know that it can be done. It is not easy by any means but patience and accepting to be different from each other is a big part of it to me. We choose our battles and know that our lowest moments will become the most memorable things to look back on a few years later.

Answer 11

People used to realize that marriage, just like all other aspects of life, is not perfect.

Today we strive for perfection and we have so many tools to help us get that much closer to attaining mental, physical, and emotional "perfection". If something doesn't work as well as we may have hoped, we abandon it for something new and improved.

I'm sure you see where I'm going with this.

We forget that marriages are made up of two people who are not running off of some genius computer program. We forget how to fix things because we're so used to just throwing them away and starting over. And that, in a nutshell, is my take on why so many marriages fail. We get frustrated, bored, and give up too quickly.