If you think (but not sure) your Mother/Father is having an affair..you should?

Question

If you think (but not sure) your Mother/Father is having an affair..you should?

Answer 1

If you have valid proof something needs to be said. If you only suspect why not ask the suspected person? No sense in beating around the bush with something as serious as that.

Answer 2

Boy is that a hard one.
I would be tempted to put my head under the pillow and hide, but my light side would probably win out with action.

Do you think the other parent knows? If so, let them hash it out, they will know what they want to know.

If not, perhaps I might talk to the "offending" parent and let them know that I thought I knew what was going on. Of course they are going to lie to you oif they ARE having the affair, and that is up to you if you want to let them lie to you or not.

this is the perfect defining time for you. What do you believe in? Where is your integrity on the scale? Where are your boundaries as a human being? These are not judgement questions, simply a guide for you to begin to work out the things and feelings that will define who you are growing into. this, believe it or not, is a gift for you. take it as a gift and develop yourself they way you wish.

The event of the affair is not truly about you, just your reactions and feelings are about you.

Good luck and good love.

Answer 3

Well it depends. Are your parents still married? I always think about what Dear Abby would say, probably that the other spouse needs to know due to health issues that arise out of an affair. If it were my husband having an affair I would want to know. The person who told me wouldn't matter.

Answer 4

You can name your baby whatever you want that includes last night. As long it is not for illegal activities. Also you don't have to put his name on her last name. You can even hyphenate it if you want. But I would go with what sounds good. I would also suggest you get on the states website and start learning family law so you won't ever fall for a stupid threat from your baby's dad. Trust me it will help you in the long run. And all state laws are public so get looking. He probably can't be on the Birth Certificate unless he signs some papers and he will either have to be there or file them through your state. So, don't be expecting him to be on it.

Answer 5

i actually have some experiance in this area.. i had a 'feeling' that my mom was having an affair..just by the way she was acting ..and the things she was doing.. so what i did was,..
confronted her...i asked her what was going on..and she at first lied to me.. i then told her what i thought was goin on...
it took about 4 weeks and she finaly came to me and told me that she was infact having an affair..and she begged me not to tell my father.. IM A DADDIES GIRL..so that was a hard position for her to put me in... what i told her was..i love her.. i HATE was shes doing and i WONT suport her in it.. i gave her 2 weeks to either break it off with this man... OR i was telling my father... i never wanted the day to come that he looked at me and said.. 'why didnt u tell me?'.... so things kept going on.. I WENT TO MOM..i said im telling dad tonite..this is NOT right...
SO...i went and i told my dad... and u know what.. mom was happy i did.. i did her dirty work... BUT for my dads sake..i HAD too... every story is different...and this is mine..i hope u take it for what it is..maybe get an answer to your own question..if not just know this is not just your story..and your not alone..

Answer 6

I think you should ask them outright if you have the nerve. But be aware that if one of your parents is having an affair it could end their marriage and your life would change dramatically. Think very carefully about what you do. And do not ask questions you don't want to know the answers to. Good luck.

Answer 7

As of right now, until you witness something (like actually see one of your parents cheating or find e-mails and/or sites that have some relationship to cheating) you should probably not jump to conclusions.
You're a child and this is their business. I'm not saying you shouldn't care because you have the right to worry about what is going on. But, if you haven't seen or heard anything then you should probably just go about your daily life... and remember sometimes it's best to stay out of adult business, only because if something is going on with your parents, they might not want you to know just yet.

Answer 8

as hard as it this isn't your problem or your fault , its a stupid thing adults do and believe me sooner or later whom ever is cheating will get caught out unfortunately you will have to ride the waves till this happens then ride some more through the whole thing of there fighting etc !! my advice just go on like you know nothing and live your own life !! Your parents are grown ups and sometimes they make mistakes we are all human , even living with your parents we don't know how they are behind closed doors and what is going on in there relationship ( just try to remember they both love you and you love them no matter what happens ) :)

Answer 9

This is not your fault or your problem. This belongs to your parents. I suspect the spouse already has their suspicions (gut feelings) and if not they will sooner or later. If you need to talk about it with someone talk to someone you can trust like a minister, guidance cousellor, teacher. If you really wanted to confront one of your parents (which I do not recommend) make it the one who is having the affair. If your parents decide to split up remember - this is not your fault. take care

Answer 10

... ask for some alone time in a public place and inform them of your suspicions. Let them know you want to believe the best about how they would treat your other parent, but you are compelled to let them know you cannot support it. An ultimatum would not be good. And depending n your age, you may have to prepare for the backlash if you are wrong....or worse...if you are right.