Why is it people don't like me? PLEASE HELP!?

Question

People who I know & those I don't know-They don't like me, they look at me like I'm a germ & I'm extremely attractive, smart-I'm a teacher (The parents at my job dont like me much) but I dont have friends, my dad even left when he found out my mom was pregnant with me, my step-sisters HATE me, the people on my job (my bosses and co-workers) cant stand me. Ive never had a boyfriend because guys for some odd reason never find ME attractive & Im PRETTY! Then everything I try to do successfully-never works out for me. I wrote a novel & tried to get an agent--I contacted 81 agents-all of them said no. I cant get into film school-because for some odd reason the admissions director wont respond to my calls requesting for an application! I feel like I'm cursed & that I don't belong here on Earth with everyone else. I feel like I'm unwanted here and that makes me want to cry & I'm only 22! Can someone tell me why is all this happening to me and why are people reacting that way towards me?

Answer 1

You have to distinguish between things which are personally related and things which aren't.

For instance, it's extremely hard to get an agent. It is almost certainly nothing to do with you personally.

I suspect your self-hatred is the main obstacle to your social success.

I advise you to sek assistance through a therapist.

Answer 2

Have you looked in the mirror? I mean truly look at yourself. Many times when a person says "no one likes me" then its usually something that the person is doing. You may not even be aware of what you are doing. You really need to analyze you. NO ONE is hated by EVERYONE. You keep saying you're pretty. Looks aren't everything. What are you like on the inside? Are you confident in your abilities? Other people will see the confidence and start believing in you. As far as your dad leaving. That wasn't because of you. That was because your dad had problems. The novel may not have been what publishers are looking for. Hardly anyone gets a novel published on the first try. Look at ways to improve it and keep trying. Why are you asking the admissions director for the application for film school? Go to the school and get it or see if it is on line. Call the admissions school and ask to speak to a clerk. Ask the clerk to send you the application. Next I think you need to speak to a therapist about this self defeating attitude. Good luck.

Answer 3

well, i'm 17, and i already feel like i'm a little more mature than you (and i'm not trying to be mean) you may be attractive, but do ohther find you that way? what i'm trying to say is, you may be really pretty, but is your attitude ugly? you sound like you want people to tell you that you are gorgeous and "how could anyone ever hate you? you're wonderful!" this is why they probably look at you like a germ. youre dad was probably afraid to take on the responsibility of a child at the time youre mom got pregnant, so don't think he left because he hated you. he just hated the responsibility. your step sisters, now, if you're as attractive as you claim to be, they are probably jealous of your beauty, and they find ways to make fun of you because of your attitude and the way you talk and act. you sound like you're willing to tell the whole world your life story, and thats a GOOD thing. DO NOT lose this quality, more people need to learn to accept it, not reject it. people tell me all the time that i'm pretty b/c i'm tall, blonde, skinny (they think), but i also have trouble with guys. my aut and uncle asked me to baby sit on valentines day, and when i agreed they were shocked because they thought i would have someone to spend valentines day with besides thier three year old son. the talent agents? every talent agent is "busy", or they'll "get back to you", but they're probably looking for perfection (aka - 6 ft, size -2, long hair, foreign or from the south, with absolutly no chest or ***, and can't even spell the word "monkey". talent agents want people to be stupid so they will say yes to anything the agents throw out at them) film school? just go to the actual campus and recieve a hard copy. or how about this, www.insertnameoffilmschool.com. be posotive about yourself. not everyone can hate you. pray to god, and he'll give you an answer. the reason you are going through this is because god knows you can handle it.

Answer 4

First of all, your dad leaving your mom before you were born had nothing to do with you. If he left because your mom was pregnant, what kind of a man is he anyway? Not a very good one. That is not your fault at all!!!!!! You must be pretty confident to say your extremely attractive. I hope thats not being conceided though instead of confident because people don't like that in a person and that could be one of your problems. It seems you are totally down on yourself and sometimes when things go wrong, they all go wrong at once and it seems your whole world is falling apart. I am actually thinking you may help yourself out alot by seeing a therapist or psychiatrist. Trust me, everyone can use one now and again and it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. They just help you to understand whats going on in your life and figure out why you may be feeling the way you feel. I am thinking it may all stem from the fact that your father left before you were born but I am no shrink. Seriously, think about seeing one. It helps alot if your open to it.

Answer 5

I love to hear stories like this.

My wife and I have a saying. Pain is a means to an end. Not the end itself. You can tell how large a tree will grow by how deep the roots are. Once the roots have settled the tree begans to grow. You are in the development stage of your life and you need to realize that because it will effect everything in your life going forward. This is a test from life to see how large you are to be. You need to realize that those rejections from people, bosses, agents and school are just that rejections. It's not the end of your life. You're 22 and have a long way to go. Once you began to see success within yourself, it will project out to everybody around you. Roots are the foundation of a tree, in which nobody can see. It begans within. Look within yourself and begin to really appreciate what you've done without anybody's approval. Know your end and where you want to be and react that way in your everyday life. Act as if your already a famous writer. Act as if you are very important on your job. It'll become contagious. People will wonder why and be drawn to it. It doesn't take their approval, only yours. Work on the inside of your life first and stop to trying to project it to others. 100 rejections from people don't equal 1 approval from you. Their insights are very shallow and distant, but, you know you and can really be proud of all the work that you put in to be the tree that you strive to be. Compliment yourself and soon you have others doing the same.

Answer 6

every person is special it is not you so do not blame your self for anything there are some cruel people out there, you are still young and have a full life ahead of you. someone eventually will notice you and want to be your friend and some day maybe not now a nice guy will come and sweep you off your feet.
Remember this phrase beauty skin so deep.
Give it time you'll find the right school where you will fit into
Do not cry you are not a germ you are one beautiful person inside and out keep on teaching focus on important things for now do not bother to care what others think.

Answer 7

Here's the paradox, I don't like anybody so I say nobody likes me, I don't love anyone so I say no one loves me, I have to give to others to receive, my door on life and love opens from the inside. I have been in here for a long time and sometimes I make it work and other times I don't and just stay shut off as long as I like. I had a horrible time when I was your age and it took me years to get better with therapy and most of all I had a child to love that I gave my life to. I was so disappointed in becoming an adult and not knowing how to cope. But for whatever your faith, connect with the power of the universe and ask for guidance and then be still and listen. That is what will carry you through.

Answer 8

I have the same problem as you. No one likes me and no one ever has. I have no idea why they don't like me but I really don't care. I got used to it. I used to feel lonely but now I like to be alone. I'm a really nice person so I never understood why people don't like me but I think I may know why they don't like you. You mentioned twice in your question how you're pretty and very attractive, do you tell people that you meet this?? Because if so they could find you conceited and most people don't like that. If you were cursed you wouldn't have a good job. Do you know how hard it is to get a book published?

Answer 9

Stop worrying.How you do know the parents dont like you?You simply have a poor image of yourself.Everything I do I get rejected too because of prejudice. Dont give up.Try and wtite another novelor rewrite your novel to make it more readable. Sometimes novels are not accepted because they lack something or need something added.Ask the publishing companies how the book can be improved.To improve your hopes of getting your book published do a writing course so that you can achieve your dreams..I amstudying to be a proofreader so if you can send me a draft of your book Iwould like to read it.Thousands of people apply for jobs and dont get anywhere.You just to have to keep knocking on doors.

Answer 10

I think you're overly sensitive. Also, you're projecting your lack of self confidance onto others. You could be picking up on their stress level that has nothing to do with you. If people are recoiling from you, it could be that they perceive you as too needy or too intense. As far as the book goes, you can try to publish it yourself.
If you are pushing really hard for something and it does not develop, it could be that your timing is not right or it was not meant to be. As far as the film schools go, you can request or fill out an application at one of these schools online.

Answer 11

You're very hard on yourself. All of those people probably don't hate you. Do some soul searching and look at all of your good qualities. What are qualities you like and dislike in others? Do you have any of these? That's a good place to start. You're still very young and have a lot going for you. Things will turn around for you. Some days are harder than others, so don't forget that.