what about me?????????

Question

over the last 6 months i have lost 3 family members,and another 2 have been really ill.And at this moment,i dont know how serious that may be.I have always tried to be the strong one, who doesnt show too much feelings on the matter.But really i am suffering the same sadness as the rest.
I think the cracks are starting to show.As im becoming angry and bitter towards the people who care about me.I was always a very confident ,livley,person till then.But since then i have been feeling so low,which i guess is natural.But i cant help thinking its getting to the point of being bloody personal.I mean,how much is a person supposed to take.I had just got over depression,and started to feel like i could move on again in life ,and then another bloody blow comes to knock me straight back down again.SOME MAJOR WORDS OF WISDOM PLLEEAASSE.

Answer 1

Being strong emotionally isn't about not showing emotions any more than being strong physically is about not lifting weights.

And that's the point, isn't it? You are still feeling the emotions, you're just pretending that you don't. No wonder you're getting upset with the people around you, if it's for their sake that you're doing this.

The solution? Be strong AND experience your emotions. You have stuff to do. That's okay. But part of that stuff is being human. You may find that if you share your experiences with your family and friends, it might actually bring you closer to them. Then, instead of being a column that stands entirely alone, you can be like an arch where each stone supports the others.

And if you are strong, you can be the keystone of that arch.

Answer 2

You should rid yourself of the idea that it's good to not show your feelings.

Let those who care about you know when you are sad.

Yes, it's certainly natural to feel low under so many losses in such a sort time, and the uncertainty of the condition of even more.

Your top-level question says "what about me?"

Well, if you act as though you aren't saddened, and refuse the comfort of your loved ones, you're in effect telling people not to care or support you.

So stop doing that.

There are times to be strong, such as when making arrangements and decisions, but when you aren't needing to focus on practicalities, let the people around you know how you feel.

And don't blame them. They're responding the way you've been telling them to.

The reason you're angry and bitter is that you've been shoving down your sadness, rather than expressing it.

Answer 3

What you are feeling is natural, in fact, often your emotions race when experiencing traumatic experiences. One minute you may feel peaceful and the next have a total anxiety attack. One minute you might cry like crazy and the next feel pure anger.
The anger you are showing towards others is you venting your frustrations. No matter who is in the way, you are frustrated you can do nothing about the situations, thus, you take your anger out on people you believe you can talk to.
I would suggest seeing a doctor and having him prescribe anti-depressents such as Paxil or another drug. but not prozac ( will make you looooon !!!!) I would also pray to God through Jesus and ask him to take all your burdens and put them on himself... And he will.
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Answer 4

I am sorry to hear about your loss. You may wish to consider grief therapy.