I have been going out with this one girl for about two weeks. Kinda like her a lot... so i am trying so hard not to loose my patience...
she told me that she is dissapointed with me cause she thinks that I have not still gotten over my Ex. which is not TRUE!!! but she wont believe me... I guess she does.. but she is just taking her time to trust me, I guess.... I just want things to go back to normal.... girls... please I need a word of advice... what can I do to get it back to normal...
2007-04-11 12:34:33 · 13 answers · asked by webdesignsperu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK first of all, two weeks is not long enough for anything in a relationship! Your just going to have to give it time. Really there is nothing you can do. A girl makes up her own mind really. She will decide if you like you ex or not. You can tell her over and over until you are blue and it will not work. Just let her know it bothers you that she thinks that and you have not giving her any reason tho think different! Leave it that.
2007-04-11 12:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by carmel1978f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only so much you can do to convince someone of your honesty when you ARE being honest. A good first step is to never lie to her about anything; it builds good rapore.
That said, do you talk about your ex? Reflect on your ex in any way? If not, there's nothing really to give her suspision other than paranoia. Think -- maybe it's not an issue with you. Maybe it's her. Maybe she's been burned in the past, or maybe she's just paranoid or insecure?
Stick it out, and stick to the truth. Ask her what you need to do to convince her, if at least to make her reflect her suspisions.
One more thought -- more often than you think, people reflect their personal guilts on others. Maybe SHE has an ex she can't get over? DON'T accuse her of this, but keep a mind about it.
In the long run, stick to your guns, and the truth. If she continues on, there's no peace for you in this relationship. Otherwise, just give her some time to come around and trust you. Whatever you do, don't let this behavior become a habit in your relationship. Some people like to bring up the other's past and act paranoid as a weapon of guilt and manipulation. I pray that this isn't one of those girls.
2007-04-11 19:43:30 · answer #2 · answered by chrishankhah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she thinking this stuff? Do you talk about you and your ex alot? Do you talk about your ex and things the two of you did while together? These things of course would mean you haven't moved on!
However if she is just jealous and talking sh*t to be talking, I would get another girl. I wouldn't waste my time on someone who couldnt trust me...
2007-04-11 19:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a relationship there alwaiiz has to be trust...no matter what..i mean some gurlsz know dat some guys cannot be truszted(playas)...give thisz gurl sum tyme...and if later she still sayz sumthing about ur ex then compliment her..by flowers or by making her feel special...make her seem as if she'z the onlii one in ur life
girls only want to seem wanted and feel special
hope this helpz
2007-04-11 19:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a jelouse and insecure person and sometimes there is nothing you can do to change that in a someone. If you cant get her to trust you now, she wont ever trust you completely.
2007-04-11 19:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...if you and your new girlfriend are together and your ex passes, say something like, "You know, her outfit would look ten times better on you." That will let your girlfriend know that you think she's better than your ex...
Or, you could just flatout tell her that if she's not going to trust you and believe you when it comes to your own emotions then she shouldn't be dating you.
2007-04-11 19:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by msxcheshirexcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a hard thing to get and easy to lose. 2 weeks is not a llong time. Be patient with her.
2007-04-11 19:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when youre around your ex focus ALL of your attention on your gf!! ignore the other girl basically!! always look for ways to make her feel special, call your ex ugly in front of her lol... uhm dont ever talk to your ex when theres a chance your gf or one of her friends could see ... basically show her that you dont like the ex.. saying it isnt enough
2007-04-11 19:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by cestmoi! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK its one thing to say u don't have feelings but its another thing acting it out. and what i mean by that is sit her down (ur girlfriend) and let her know that its her u want and no one else. and let her know that its her u think about all the time and u don't want her and that ur SORRY that she thinks that because its not true. even if u don't have anything to be sorry about, let her know that ur sorry anyways
2007-04-11 19:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by slim_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two weeks and she acts like that....when did you break off with your ex, the day before you started going out with her? she is insecure and you dont have to prove anything to her. stop being with someone so insecure and start living your life like you deserve too. happy is a good place to start...
2007-04-11 19:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋