My ex and I dated for 3 months last summer, and fell completely head over heels for each other. In mid October, he was diagnosed with brain cancer and went to a hospital out of state. After Thanksgiving, I did not hear from him for almost 6 months. In his last email, he broke things off and said that he couldnt write me anymore until he got better and doesnt want me to go through the pain.
I thought he died. I didnt hear from him or his family. So I started moving on and dated again and had sex with another man. But Im single now. Yesterday, I got an email from his sister saying he was still sick, but doing better and might be coming home soon.
Did I cheat on him? What do I do? Did I do anything wrong? Because now that I know he is still alive, my love for him [that i thought was gone] is now stronger than ever.
2007-04-11 10:47:11 · 7 answers · asked by sweetblueyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has been in Florida for about 5 months. I emailed him everyday, but never a response after Thanksgiving. About Valentines day is when I started to move on.
He did not tell me the name of the hospital he was at. He insisted I get on with my life because his was ending.
2007-04-11 11:08:08 · update #1
I live in Illinois.
2007-04-11 11:10:21 · update #2
You did not do anything wrong. nor did you cheat on him.You had no way of knowing if he was alive or not, and still no way of knowing what shape he is in or whether or not he is going to survive and what kind of life he will have. Remain friends with him,and encourage him to get well and take it from there. DO NOT load yourself up with guilt.
2007-04-11 10:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve done nothing wrong here. You were only friends and nothing more. He basically told you to move on and not to wait for him which you did. No reason to feel guilty here. The most I see here that you could possibly have done wrong would be abandoned a good friend in time of need but then he told you to move on and am not sure about that which depends on what level relationship was on at that point. So quit beating yourself up and go from there. Good luck
2007-04-11 11:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an exceedingly ill mama dogs is an exceedingly annoying subject. and that i understand your anger at numerous the solutions which you gained. that's widespread so which you will choose to vent back to those human beings a number of your anger and frustration. So, attempt to stay calm and save your concentration on your dogs & doggies. do no longer enable this cloud your real objective - a healthful dogs. And confident, i could choose to understand this consequence. Kudos to you to your speedy action in taking good care of seven doggies! that's no longer basic! I wish that extra human beings could understand that there are circumstances that stump even the perfect of vets. whilst the calicum challenge is the main worry-unfastened with those indications, that's no longer the only reason. And your dedication to this dogs and her doggies is extremely, very admirable. So, you recognize which you're responding to this disaster interior the perfect way achievable. you're doing all you're able to do in an exceedingly difficult subject. enable God address the rest. Peace
2016-10-21 21:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You thought the man that you loved was dead so you moved on with your life but in the meantime, you didn't check to see if he had passed away? How can that be love for someone? I don't understand the fact that since you found out that he is alive the love that you have for him is now stronger than ever because he's alive???????????
2007-04-11 10:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't bother write to you or keep in contact with you for a period of time long enough for you to get over him and start dating another man, and this was during a period of time when he was likely to die. You thought he was dead. He didn't give you a sign otherwise. Tell him what you did, and ask him to forgive you. It is his fault for ignoring you for that long, but don't say that. Break it off with the other man if you still have feelings for Mr. Cancer Survivor there.
2007-04-11 10:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by dee_pwns_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. You said yourself that he was the one who broke things off. Don't beat yourself up for being human.
I hope things work out for you.
2007-04-11 11:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have stuck by him even if he said not to, he was probably testing or love for him and you failed honey.....I would just keep going on with your life and let him do the same...don't hurt him even more by letting him find out you slept with someone else..It's not love you have for him, love doesn't work like that
2007-04-11 10:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by jbmhgs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋