Why am I lying to my spouse?

Question

my spouse moved back home with her mother (who is controlling but thats not the issue here) a few months ago anticipating the birth of our son, since then, I have been telling her little lies, nothing large, just saying that someone else bought a pair of headlamp bulbs as opposed to me, or that I bought one gallon of milk instead of two, that kind of stuff insignificant stuff like that, and I did it habitually,without even realizing it, why am I doing this, it is now severely compromising our relationship

what Can I do to correct this action?

Answer 1

So you guys aren't living together?

I probably shouldn't be answering this at all because I'm not a psychologist, but are you reacting to her essentially moving away from you (at a monumental part of both your lives--the birth of your child)?

Maybe you feel that she has broken a bond with you (by leaving your home), and you are going to do the same to her (by telling lies).

I think by recognizing that this is a dangerous practice and making the effort to stop and, as another person said, correct the lie immediately, you may be able to stop doing this.

Answer 2

Are you sure your mother in law is not controlling?

I would suggest that your small lies are an attempt to regain a small level of control in your life.

A lot of us in stable relationships can often feel that the world continues despite us. 'Trapped' if you like and being a cog in a wheel. There is a need to reaffirm that we can still control our lives even if the life we have is the one we always wanted.

Perhaps and I mean perhaps, this is happening to you.

What to do? A hobby you alone can be passionate about. Its your domain and under your control. It may help...Good luck and advance congratulations for your new child.

Answer 3

well I believe you know the answer, your angry at her for moving home with mom, rather than her dealing with the situation at hand, she left and went home to mommy or maybe you were not being the man that GOD intended you to be in your house hold, and I realize you stated she was controlling theirs only a few things you can do about this situation is deal with this effectively: you will be required to deal with one another feelings, emotions, and spirits. Additionally you may be feeling somewhat alienated, but this is not a excuse your lieing, she may have a issue with controll but you are doing something worse, if you attend to kindle the sparks you and your wife once had, so stop that and tell her how you feel, and that you want her to come back, and you and her as husband and wife will work together as one as GOD has attended not with her mom.

Try not to play the passive aggressive in your relationship and expect for things to get better be straight with her and your self put in some time with GOD and prayer and be the man GOD intended you to be that's if you believe in GOD

Answer 4

think before you speak. and if you're about to tell a lie, you'll catch yourself before you tell it to your wife.
you may be doing this out of guilt. you sound as if you're feeling guilty for buying things. even things that are needed. maybe you're doing this because you feel that by buying something for yourself, the household, or anyone else, you're using money that you should be using to buy things for the baby.
I think that you're stressing too much. just take a break, take some deep breaths, and know that everything is going to be alright.
Best Wishes! I'm sure that you'll be a great dad.

Answer 5

Stop and think before you answer. Immediately correct after you have said something untrue.