My ex and I were together 14 years, he got involved with a nightmare, he left me for her, cause he could not deal with the guilt of what he did, though he is still in my life, sexually, emotionally. She knows we are very much connected, so she has gotten pregnant twice, both times she loses the baby, she harrasses me constantly, and though he lives there now, he cannot formally live there, he is unhappy, and does not stay away for long, I love him more than I can say, I can not seem to move on, though I have had lots of therapy, he is the love of my life, he is unhappy, and I just can't seem to make him see, that I forgave him so long ago, I just don't know what I should do, he will not say good bye, he will not stay away, we talk, and laugh, and spend time together, but I want him home, with me, and I don't no if I can make it happen, I have lost 40 lbs, and 7 sizes, I look awesome, but it is not enough, I feel lost, though when I see him, I feel so much joy, for days Help
2007-04-11 10:29:53 · 4 answers · asked by mattymycat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are living a life of what ifs. Your hoping he will come back and what is to say he will. He still is with this other woman and yet you hope he will come back. He has the best of both worlds, he can come to you when he wants and lives with her. Please see what this is doing to you. You deserve so much better. I know you love him, but he doesn't fully return that love. Stop living in the past and start living in the future.
2007-04-11 14:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats really keeping him to come home to you for good? all the elements are there, and why would a person stay with a nightmare especially a guy.... He needs to make a choice and willing to come home with a new start to your marriage...the past is the past cant change it and you have moved on and forgave theres not much more you can do its all up to him....
2007-04-11 18:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be so much better off if you wouldn't let him use you as a door mat honey he is walking all over you, take your awesome self and find someone who loves and respects you and want to be with only you
2007-04-11 17:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He makes a conscious decision every day he stays away, NOT to be with you. He is only using you! You deserve better than that!! It is in your own best interests to move on, and leave him to his trifling ways!
2007-04-14 12:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋