He is great person, no problems in relationship from last 8 years. We have 2 wonderful kids. Few months back, he said he have to finish this project, so he started to work at night. Then same excuse again and again. He would say he is not sleepy why don't you go to sleep. He would not come to bed till 3 am. I day I caught him talking to other lady. He was talking to her four hours. He said there is nothing there. they are just friend and she have some problems and want to talk to him. I told him not to talk to her again. He said he loves me, and will not call her again. Does he really loves me. Will he stop calling her.
2007-04-11 10:27:03 · 24 answers · asked by annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Alarm bells are set off for a reason......if you're hearing alarm bells, listen to them.......
2007-04-11 10:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes he loves you. You have had no problems in 8 years, that is a long time. Maybe he was just being a nice guy and trying to help a lady. If you arn't sure maybe you should look at the relationship more closely. See if you are doing something wrong that he is not willing to talk about. Instead of him talking to you about it he might be looking for something better. Tell him how you feel immediatly and talk about it when you are both willing to talk. Don't wait to long.
2007-04-11 10:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I bet he does love you. And you are right to be suspicious of an affair. It happens.
I would consider being more vulnerable with him, not because you are a woman, but because vulnerability (tenderness) is the source of intimacy and closeness in relationships. Instead of telling him what to do, which is understandable, it is more effective to tell him that you missing having him in bed with you, that you worry that you two aren't as close as you used to be, or sometimes you worry that you will become one of those couples who aren't as close after eight years.
In intimate relationships, it is vulnerability that tugs at the heart. Though telling him not to talk to her again is in order, he could be feeling "bossed around". Letting him know that you worry about it interfering with your connection with him will help remind him why you are married to begin with.
All my best.
2007-04-11 10:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure your husband does love you otherwise i don't think he would even bother giving you excuses. if he didnt love you he would just leave . maybe he is kind of bored with the relationship maybe you guys should try to go out together and talk about things and try doing some exciting stuff too. good luck
2007-04-11 10:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he really loves you , but you should bay him more attention , because the man in the mid age want to be lovable and waned by women , so you should be this woman and don't let any other woman play this role in his life , make him feel that he is your world and he is the only man in the world , give him more emotions and love . and after sometimes he will stop talking to others and be totally yours .
2007-04-11 12:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional affair: even if he is not physically touching her he is playing around. Any time a guy talk for four hours about anything he is trying to get laid. Bottom line. He's plaing the "nice guy" angle w/her. Same as (I assume) he played w/you, and this could only lead to bad results.
2007-04-11 10:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by csiders30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one knows if he really loves you but you. Will he stop calling her, you can flip a coin on that one. Clearly he is not satisfied with his marriage and has started to look outside. You can either kick him to the curb now, or figure out a way to reconnect.
2007-04-11 10:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you know what they were talking about, you have no proof that this was an affair.
you need to speak to your hubby and sort things out. also, be interested in his work- ask him about his work so you understand his work and him.
also, ask him who that woman was. introduce her if just a work collegue if he has nothing to hide and if theres purley nothing going on there and you know that- im afraid you cant stop him from talking to other women.
you seriously need to talk though or you will be pushing him to talk to someone else and you'll both grow apart.
2007-04-14 21:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is something going on. it doesnt sound right. what kind of woman rings a married man for four hours because she has problems? what she has no friends? highly unlikely isnt it. make yourself a cup of coffee and before you drink it, smell it. your either being cheated on or are about to be cheated on. sorry.
2007-04-11 11:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a man doesnt sleep with you doesnt mean he doesnt love u.
Although 4 hours is an extreme. Depends on other signs.
How has your sex life been ? Does he hold you and stuff ?
marriage can be boring at times.
2007-04-11 10:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether he loves you or not is not the question. It's whether he is fooling around on you. You won't know for sure until you catch him. Just don't accuse if you don't have proof positive. Been there. He still loves me today but we are no longer together.
2007-04-11 10:30:41 · answer #11 · answered by katobow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋