i love this 35 year old man ....he is married and he has 2 kids. i saw him last night and he tried so hard to hide his feelings from me but i know that he knows that we belong together.i just want to be with him and hold him and touch him everyday but HE IS MARRIED!!!! what can i do???? i sleep with his picture under my pillow at night thinking of what we can be ......but i have no idea how to get thru to him and make him love me. help me....i`m desperately dying!!!
2007-04-11 09:59:45 · 27 answers · asked by dog head 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't love you, he has a wife and kids, go find a therapist before you turn into a rabbit killing psycho.....oops...probably too late for you.
2007-04-11 10:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My mother had this issue. She fell madly in-love with my father when he was married with three kids. My father, who was open to the idea of having a mistress, also fell in-love with my mother. My own birth was from this relationship ... so, I can't judge you.
After the glamor of the falling in-love wore off; my father grew bitter about his decision. He beat me frequently and had more extramarital affairs. When I was 14 years old, he had a stroke ... and then my mother died of a broken heart (actual heart failure).
I was troubled for years about feeling like some sort of 'cosmic accident'. But, I did learn a good lesson from this: husbands shouldn't 'screw' around; too many lives are at stake.
I hope my story helps you in some small way to consider rejecting this man ... for the sake of everyone involved.
2007-04-11 10:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is probably the least thing you want to hear right now but my answer comes straight from my heart....
I think you should leave him alone, he is married with 2 kids, it is not your place to come between that. The fact alone that he dosnt show any respect to his wife & kids should let you know what type of man he is, the type you shouldnt want to be with because you should be worried that he will betray your trust just like he is doing it to his wife & kids right now.
I suggest you leave him ALONE NOW BEFORE YOU GET ALL INVOLVED & INTO IT & IT WILL JUST BE HARDER FURTHER DOWN THE LINE! There are so many young single sexy men in this world why settle for someone with all this baggage?
2007-04-11 10:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by $D*Da*Spoild*1$ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest. He is married and has two children - leave him alone. There are too many innocent people who could be hurt. This is one of those times that you have to take other people into consideration (children especially) and do what is right for them and deny yourself. It's called being a mature adult.
There are other men out there. Get rid of his pictures and stop seeing and talking to him. He's not available. Find someone who is.
2007-04-11 10:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let go of your thoughts and the ideas of being with this marry man with children.....How do you know he belongs to you instead with the woman he took vows with. That is not your place to create problems for a couple who have children together and who are maintaining a home. You need to find your own partner and build your own life with. You shouldn't have to make someone love you if they don't......
2007-04-11 10:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are providing some type of unmet need he is lacking in his marriage. What it is, only he knows. There will be a day where he is going to make a decision and where will that leave you? Do you want to be partly responsible for breaking a marriage? He knows deep down what he's doing is wrong.
2007-04-11 11:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If hes hiding his feelings form you MOVE ON sorry but he is using you as much as that might hurt it is so true don't let yourself get hurt any more. sadly married men like this kinda thing no commitment. I'm sorry try to move on you will be much more happier. Dot you think you would have a hard time trusting him if hes doing this to his now wife do you think he wouldn't do it to you?? think about that one long and hard. Good luck
2007-04-11 10:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, he's married w/ children. Even if he told you he loved you and wanted to be w/ you (which he didn't, mind you), he's not going to abandon his family for you. Find yourself a single man, and forget about this guy. How selfish to want to take a husband away from a wife and a father away from his children.
2007-04-11 10:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a married woman whose husband is cheating on her and i can say from the bottom of my heart that you need help. Married men are married for a reason - they are hands off! Shame on him for carrying on with you and shame on you for letting him. He doesn't love you or his wife or he'd be willing to make the choice. You should confront the wife and see how she feels this maybe? Do you think maybe she has a say in this? Shame on you. Shame on him.
2007-04-11 10:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
whatever u do don't wait for him 2 come around u don't have to give up on him u can always get w/ him later if he decides 2 get divorced or something i'd go out and meet some guys so i'd have someone else 2 think about its never a good idea to get hung up on just one guy plus youll probably find someone you like more anyways
2007-04-11 10:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by cheshire cat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would move on and leave this man alone. Why would you want to bust up his marriage and hurt his 2 children. There are plenty of single men out there and what you are wanting to do is undesirable.
2007-04-11 10:04:07 · answer #11 · answered by Debbie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋