I am 15 years old and I haven't had a date or a girlfriend b4. everytime that i find out that a girl likes me i become too scared to make a move, then eventually someone else does and she ends up with that person because i didn't move fast enough. Then when I like a girl I end up thinking of all the things that could go wrong if I asked her out, like maybe she has a boyfriend or what if she says no or what if she dislikes me in some way and will try to make the rejection as embarrasing as possible. this has led to me not being able to even get a date. what can i do about this!!!
2007-04-11 09:38:25 · 21 answers · asked by music_king 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just be yourself and the girl will come to you if she is interested.
2007-04-11 09:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a really good way to spend some time with someone initially is make plans for a group of friends to go hang out--movies and pizza, putt-putt & ice cream, bowling, something like that. I have a daughter who's a freshman in h.s and her friends like to spend time together this way. That way there are other people so the pressure's not entirely on you and one other person to come up with the entire conversation. Hopefully the person in whom you're interested will be there so ya'll can spend part of the time talking and getting to know what her interests are. Beyond that, maybe it'll be a little more comfortable getting her number. Then you can text or call and see where it goes. Please don't let the thought of rejection be a deterrent--you sound like a nice guy and I'm sure there are girls out there who would enjoy spending time with you. Take care!
2007-04-11 16:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i know its hard but u just have to take a chance and go for it the worse thing taht could happen is rejection and not every girl is going to reject you especially if they like you, girls have the same fears and it only makes it worse when the guy you like does too because most girls are too scared to ask a guy out becasue if the same reasons, so just go for it and at the possibility of rejection you can move on. i am 15 as well and know what you mean
2007-04-11 16:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by softballqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, there! I am 35 years old (too old for you!) but I still remember being 15 like it was yesterday. I was a cute girl, but no guys ever asked me out. Finally, when it came time for the prom, I was desperate, and I had to ask guys to go with me. Nobody said "yes". Very sad for me. (I swear, I was not that ugly!)
But, if you are shy, that's ok. Think about asking a girl to do something with you that is not really a date, like just say "Hey, can you help me with this homework assignment?" or "I have a really cool dog, would you like to see him and take him for a walk?" If she laughs and says no, she probably doesn't like you, but you won't be embarrassed because it's not like you were asking her out on a date. See? So, if she wants to help you with your homework assignment or go see your dog, she probably likes you, and you can hang out and get to know her a little bit.
Good luck! Being 15 is hard. I remember it well.
2007-04-11 17:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything that happens in highschool is kinda petty. But I was a girl who was not very shy and I liked a boy that was very shy so I made him notice me and became friends with him. I introduced him to all my friends and I always waited for him and wrote him notes. Made him fell confident. Then he made more friends and girls noticed him and he started dating. I didn't date him because I already had a boyfriend but I thought he was to cute to go unnoticed. You need a friend that is a girl to help u build your cinfidence in talking to girls. Don't waste your highschool years being scared of what people you will never even think twice about when your an adult think about you. Girls love a guy with confidence.
2007-04-11 17:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by mandibabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to just have to start taking chances. Maybe you should just try to make a move, and just find someone to be friends with and work on your communication skills. Girls aren't looking for a guy with all the right pick up lines, just be her friend and you will find someone, if not you will atleast come out with a good friend.
2007-04-11 16:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by shelby_dawn21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all relax. Take a deep breath. If a girl likes you , take that and run with it. But what you must do is get over your shyness. Ask her out to a movie or something of that nature, and if you are too shy to ask her face to face, write her a note, call her, or text message her. Shyness is something you will probably get over with age and maturity. And when you do like a girl you do have to add those pros and cons in like if she likes you back or if she has a boyfriend. My advice on that if if you like a girl, break out of that shyness and flirt with her, because you might find out that she likes you back.
Good luck and God Bless!!
2007-04-11 19:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♫♪2 kids+1 wife=magical♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes asking a girl out too early can freak her out.
Jut become friends with her, but try not to show you like her like that, just talk to her like your tlaking to your cousin thats a girl. that way when u become friends, you will know if she has a bf or what she likes guys to do and stuff.
But becoming a friend and becoming a stocker are two different things.
Be careful and good luck.
2007-04-11 18:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to suck it up and get out of your comfort zone. Think of it like learning to ride a bike... You are going to fall over a lot at first but if you keep practicing, you will get the hang of it. Next time you like a girl, start slow by talking to her. If that works, get some friends together and go on a group outing (not a date). If that works, get friends together again and go on a group date. Baby steps. :o)
2007-04-11 16:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you my friend need to calm down and be positive!!...ure just thinking in the negative sense! ok if you come to know that a girl likes you, get to know her more! ask her out, hang around with her, talk about mutual interests...if you dont make a move on time then she will naturally accept some1 elses proposal...and if you like a girl, just find out if that girl is single or not, try to get to know her, talk to her, and if you feel she likes you ask her out...dont worry what happens or else youll lose every oppurtunity u get in ure way
2007-04-13 07:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend use to act like that, but he finally step up to the plate. We've been together for almost 6 months.I love him for who he is and I dont try to make fun of him in front of people, instead I show them whats it like to have a good man who cares about you and is happy being apart of your life. Even though others or hating on him because he has me,It doesnt matter because we are happy with each other.So go for it,you sound like a nice guy.If she acts stupid with you,let her go because she doesn't deserve you,but if shes like me shes a keeper.Do
2007-04-11 17:17:08 · answer #11 · answered by •´`·.·´`•Mother.To`·.Be•´`·.·´`• 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋