My dad is in Iraq and im worried. My dad left last year and my mom was pretty upset. Me and my brother missed him alot(im 13 and he is 10) My mom got over him leaving pretty quickly. Then i walked home from my friends house an hour early. When i walked upstairs i walked in on my mom with my neighbor Alex. Should i tell my dad?
2007-04-11 09:34:33 · 6 answers · asked by E Fuller 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and if i tell him do you think they will get a divorece?
2007-04-11 09:45:35 · update #1
PS My dad comes home for a while in 3 weeks and this has been happening since V-Day also he is 28 and my mom is 39 is that bad
2007-04-11 10:03:47 · update #2
okay i would talk to your mom and tell her you know and if she doesn't tell him you will, but give her the chance. i would wait till your dad is home in 3 week, because if he's in Iraq and you tell him now it could be bad. when stuff like this happens that's all that's going to be on his mind and when he's over there he doesn't need this on his mind. when he gets home would be safer. my husband is in the army and his friend got killed over there because his wife called and told him she was leaving him for another man they went out on a mission and he was not preforming at his best he had other things on his mind and well he died and so did 4 other soldier because he was not paying attention to his surroundings. so i would say wait till he's home in a safe environment to tell him, but give your mom a chance to tell him, she might be planning on leaving him anyways but waiting for him to get home to tell him. if you need to talk feel free to email me. good luck and i hope all turns out well
2007-04-11 11:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. CuTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh...that's a tough situation. First of all, no one can tell whether or not they would get a divorce--a lot of couples work through stuff like this and come out with a better relationship in the long run for it. So try not to dwell on that, because there's no way to predict whether they would get divorced or not.
I'm trying to think how I would feel and what I would do if that had happened with my parents (they got divorced when I was a teen, but not because of sleeping with other people--I'm 20 now)...I think you should talk to a relative you trust, one who's an adult. Tell them about the situation. It is important that your dad knows (I think), but that's some big news, and you're not in a good position to deliver it--that shouldn't be his 13 year-old daughter's job, if you know what I mean? That's a job for an adult, who can talk to him about from an adult's point of view. I've been in positions like that, where I need an adult with a better point of view to talk to somebody for me, and I've asked them. They're happy to help. Remember, it's not just you--you're whole, big family--aunts, uncles, grandparents--your all in this together, even if they live far away! If you haven't told your brother yet, I wouldn't tell him, because (like you know, I'm sure) it's a hard situation to deal with.
After an older relative (or close family friend) talks to your dad about it, I think you should talk to him about it. It's tough to walk in on your mom and anyone--your dad, a neighbor, anyone--and your dad can be there for you. Be sure to talk to adults you trust, in general, about the situation too, because they'll have an easier time listening than your parents, since your parents are a part of the situation themselves.
Good luck, and I'm sorry you're dealing with that. Hope some of this helps!
2007-04-11 17:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by kacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age isn't bad at all. It's fine. But you should bring this up with your dad. I know you miss your dad. I haven't seen my dad in four years because my mom kicked me out of the house for getting pregnant. I loved my dad so much, and he didn't want to kick me out, but my mom did anyway. Just hang in there and stay strong. You'll make it through.
2007-04-11 17:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should talk to your Mom and tell her to talk with your Dad because you not going to be responsible for anything between your parents
2007-04-11 16:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by katherine7star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should tell your dad. That is horrible! Your mom should be ashamed of herself. If they get a divorce, it will be for the best. Your mom doesn't deserve your dad. Your dad is a hero. Your mom is a slut.
I feel really sorry for you. I wish I were your big sister or your aunt, and you could come live with me. Hang in there, sweetie. Tell your dad he deserves a REAL woman who would love and appreciate him and be faithful to him.
Sorry!
2007-04-11 16:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think your mom should tell him and if she doesnt and she stops doing it then just let it be part of the past but if she continues and she doesnt tell him you should
2007-04-11 16:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋