My Mom will be gone six years now tomorrow...it still really bothers me! I guess I should get over it but, I just can't. Am I just being a baby or is it normal at all to still mourne someone after all these years?
2007-04-11 07:38:43 · 18 answers · asked by Cindy J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you never get over your loss of your mother. She was the first person to know you and love you. Once you are a mom and realize how much a mother loves you, you appreciate it even more, and its a love you can't get over. She is who helped you become you, your first best friend, the keeper of your first secrets. how do you get over that loss?... you can't. Grieve, cry be sad when you need to, but then quietly think of her, concentrate on her and you'll still feel all her love. Its a love closest to God's and you can still feel it if you listen with your heart. its God's promise that love does not die. You will see her again, but until that day think of her with love and smiles because that is how she thinks of you. She is not really gone, just somewhere Else, waiting for you.
i am sorry for your loss
2007-04-11 07:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by debbie v 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom on Friday it will be a month and I went and go counseling and i read this book .After all of the that on thing stays the same it will always bother you and you'll never get over it. I hope this makes sense If you get over it you'll forget it and how can you forget it. The reason it still hurts is because you loved you mother and you still feel you needed that motherly figure.The best ways to DEAL are to pass on the things you enjoyed the most about your mom.Someone said this to me and i hope you appreciated as much as i do : Today will be worst then tomorrow and so on and so on. But remember any feeling you have about this is normal you lost someone you thought you could count on always being there. I will keep you in my prayers
2007-04-11 07:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by angelintown2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally normal to miss...cry..mourn..daze..about this person... You can't help but miss them when your use to having them be there all the time. Not a day goes by that I don't forget about my friend who passed years ago.. Your not a baby and your free to cry if you want. Its not good to hold anything in. A mother especially is a big part of peoples lives. Don't forget a part of you is always with you and no matter how many days go by..years go by...she will always be in your heart. good luck..>God bless...
2007-04-11 07:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is perfectly normal to still be upset! She was your mother! I lost my grandfather nine years ago and I still mourn his death almost on a daily basis, it will get easier eventually but I don't think the pain of losing someone so close ever really goes away.
2007-04-11 07:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kendryxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in their own special way as we all are different. If you and your mom were close, no wonder you feel the way that you do. What really helped me when I lost my mother suddenly was being able to speak to her. I know this sounds weird but I know you know of those shows like with John Edwards wereby they speak to the deceased? I consulted a psychic about this and she was able to speak to my mom and relay the messages to me and I finally feel like I've got some closure. If the death was sudden this may help. I hope you feel better soon. *hugs*. Certain times of the year are worse than others.
2007-04-11 17:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by KokoJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon at all but, depending on how engulfed in sorrow you are can be unhealthy. Your mother wouldn't want you mourning her still. She lived her life for you so don't make what she did be in vain. As hard as it may be to move on, six years is long enough and you may now start being your own person. You will never forget your mother and will always have her in your heart but, you must realize that she lives on in you. Good luck
2007-04-11 07:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lost my mom-in-law on April 5, 2007. I know the void it leaves in your heart. I think normal mourning is individual and that it may take longer for one person than another. There is no time limit for mourning. It hurts when we lose someone who was such a huge part of our lives.
I'll pray for you as I am for myself and my family.
2007-04-11 07:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You ok some people go all their life mourning over a love one.My sister-in- law lost her son 10 years ago and she have a hard time.His room is still the same nothing is removed she just change it around every so often.So you will one day get better and if not you not the only one so i pray that you be ok.
2007-04-11 07:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From my perspective, I’d say that it’s normal. Having lost both my parents as a young boy, I’d guess that most people move on from the loss of immediate family, but never truly get over it. It’s just human nature to be selfishly possessive of our loved ones and want to keep them here with us on this plane.
2007-04-11 07:52:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my father has been gone from me for fourteen years and I just got through crying I mean my father died when I was three and on the 25 of this month it will be fiveteen and I still cry over him everyday there isn't anything wrong with that your just how passionate you are for my mom and that ya'll had a real connection so don't feel like a baby cause the only way to get rid of that problem is to cry it all out cause you never forget about your mama so just cry all you want
2007-04-11 07:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋