friendship with a girlfriend!!!!!!?

Question

i stopped talking to one of my close friends about 6 months ago because she honestly treats me like crap....she thinks she's really funny, makes fun of me and other people constantly and i couldn't handle the negativity! so, she called me and we went out to dinner, i must have forgotten what a mean girl she was! at dinner she kept saying i was on probation to be her friend again, and then would laugh hysterically for 5 minutes, while i lauged along so she didn't feel like a complete jerk! then she completely missed my birthday, it's better she wasn't there, but still! i want to, in a very very nice way, tell her she is hurting my feelings and if she doesn't stop i will not be friends with her anymore. how do you tell someone they bring you down whenever you talk to them! she calls me everyday just to complain, and i love life and am a very positive person! help!!!!!! nice suggestions

Answer 1

Just tell her exactly how you feel!!! You seem like you are a positive and energetic person, you do not need any negative people near you, it is not healthy.

Answer 2

To me she sounds like she is childish and has low self esteem. People like that really does bring you down. When she call you to complain try to change the subject. If that doesn't work., don't answer the phone the next time she call. You can be honest with a person without being mean, its all about the tone in your voice. Let your friend know in a calm voice that she hurts your feelings and if she doesn't change, you can't hang around a person that treats you like that. Anyone that will treat you like that is not your friend.
Don't be scared to tell her how you feel. Honesty is the best policy. Put it all on the table, don't hold anything back. If after you communicate honestly with her and she does the same things to hurt your feelings, cut her loose for good.

Answer 3

Personally, I believe you have 3 options.
1) just ignore her and let her know you don't want to be her friend anymore (honestly, if she is that bad, just cut her out...a relationship, in any form, is give and take...you give and you get...what are you getting out of the relationship?)
2) Act just like her and see how she likes it.
3) (I would suggest going this route)...Go to lunch or get some coffee and let her know that you need to talk to her. Start out by saying you don't mean to judge, but you are her friend and want to be honest. Than honestly explain how you feel and how she makes you feel. Lay it all out, and if she can't respect the honesty, just end it.

Good luck...
P.S. It is possible that you are way too nice...you laugh along at digs on you so she won't feel like a jerk...If she could care less about your feelings and is outwardly trying to make you feel bad...why do anything to prevent her from feeling bad or awkward while she puts you down.

Answer 4

I used to have a friend like this. Tell her that is does hurt your feelings. Just try to be straight forward about it though. Don't talk to her about this with other people around, you don't want them to join in and overwhelm her. The nicest way is to tell her in private. If she doesn't stop, don't be friends with her, it sounds like she wants to be friends with you only when she wants to be friends.
Another way to look at it is that she thinks she's being funny and doesn't know it hurts your feelings.
If she doesn't stop, hang out with other people. You will relies that there are so many other people who will be a much better friend.
When I was hanging out with a friend like this, I couldn't remember what a real friend was like.

Answer 5

You sound just like me. When I was in h.s, I also had a girl best friend. But she was so mean to everybody and she thought it was so funny when in reality she did just like you say and just hurt everyones feelings. I never had the nerve to tell her so our friendship ended in bad terms once I found a boyfriend and she really disliked him. She started talking alot of crap behind my back and we stopped talking. After a couple of years we did eventually talk but never the same of course. We talk once in a great while though. Sucks, good luck to you. I hope you find a way to tell her how she is making you feel, and hopefully it turns out well.

Answer 6

i had the same thing go on with a friend and I when i was younger...this girl is immature to treat you that way, come on, if thats the way she treats you, shes not a ture friend..you need to tell her how you feel no matter how bad you feel, dont start off in a mean way but tell her, or it wont stop, and you will be feeling this way for much longer! the best of luck!

Answer 7

if she puts u down in hurting your feelings, shes not a real friend, try doing the same to her, give her some of the same medicine she gives you and see how she'll react to it. Or maybe she treats you like that because she wants more than a friendship with you, maybe she wants to have a relationship. Sometimes when you like someone you mistreat them because you dont know how to be affectionate with them, thinking they might reject you. Ask her if she likes you, not as a friend but as in having a relationship.

Answer 8

No reason to be nice about. Just tell her how you well, but you don't have to be mean about either. I had a friend like this myself. One day I got feed up with their attitude and had to tell them point blank.

We didn't talk for awhile, but I guess time heals all wounds and we are now hanging out again. But we will never be as close as we were. Live and learn I guess.

Answer 9

Hmmm, this sounds familiar. I know someone who acts the same way...the world is against her, her life sucks...blah blah blah. If I were you, I would try to talk to her and tell her how her behavior makes you feel. If the talk doesn't help, then "politely" stop answering her phone calls and she will get the hint. Life is definitely too short to waste time on people who don't enjoy it. Good Luck!

Answer 10

To me it seems like she is playing you like a toy wen ever she needs you she has you and wen ever she doesnt she leaves you behind. You should tell her this friend relationship isnt working out feelings have gotten hurt and you defenately dont need this in your life and also dont forgeet to mention you care for her dearly but hings happend for reason! sont forget to tell her this in person so she wont feel attacked in the situation