Does this family friend who is a grown man have other intentions then helping out our family?

Question

My grandmother just had a stroke and she is home with my mom, brother, and I. However, we have a friend who is friend's with my Grandfather. However, he met my mother a couple of months ago. And, asked for her phone number. Since then, he has fixed our computer, does errands with my mother, and helps out around our house. Problem is he is around sixty years old and is married with two grown daughters. When he comes over to our house his wife or daughters are never with him. One time, he invited us to dinner at his house when his wife or daughters were not at home. He calls my mother at least three times a week and comes to our house at least two times a week. Even though my Grandmother is sick right now and he seems to be helping out. Is it weird that he never take his wife with him? Does he has other intentions besides helping out? Does it seem like he has a crush on my mother?
Is this situation weird?

Answer 1

It is very likely that he just wants to get away from his wife.

Questions:

1) does he really have a wife and kids, have you actually seen them.

2) is your grandmother someone that a 60 year old man would want to cheat with (probably not)?

3) is the man someone that would want to cheat or is capable of getting a woman?

4) how is your grandfather in this little show? Is their relationship solid, and is he in good physical shape

5) do your grandparents have anything this guy would want?

6) why would he ask for your grandmothers phone number if he is your grandfathers friend? There is something missing in your story. Don't your grandmother and grandfather live together?

I have a feeling you are seeing something that is just not there. He is your grandfather's friend, men at this age have a lot of time on their hands. They like to spend time together away from the old lady and just putt around and fix things. This is what they do.

Answer 2

Does a man always have to have a secret motive for helping out? Sometimes a person, man or woman, will see something in someone that reminds them of something. I don't know how old this man is, but could he see his mother, wife, daughter or sister in this woman?

I agree you should keep an eye out. But don't jump to conclusions. Want to get the the bottom of this? Tell him that you are so appreciative of his help, that you want to take him, his wife and family out to dinner. Or make dinner for everyone at your house or theres. Talk to everyone saying how glad you are to have someone like him around. If something's up, his wife will bring it up to him either in front of everyone or shortly there after. Problem solved.

Also, ask your grandmother. Is she concerned? Be a good communicator. And be a good observer.

Answer 3

He asked your mom for her phone number, and is acting like a good husband, and keeps his time with your family separate from time with his family. How would like to be his daughter, knowing he is with a woman's family that is not your mom's, that he keeps away from your view, that he asks to dinner when you and your mom (his wife) are gone.
Ask him a bunch of nosy questions about his wife, anniversary, daughters lives etc. Send thank you note to his house. His wife and daughters may not know you exist. Men have no intention of being friends with women, ask man when is drunk like Mel Gibson, he'll spill the truth.

Answer 4

He is probably a nice man who likes to be needed,maybe he's had difficult times and understands your mums worries so he is being helpful, his wife may know he is trying to help you.I think if his intentions were dishonorable he would ask your mum round to his house on her own. Perhaps he has an unhappy marriage and is looking for another family to care for. Whatever the reasons for his attentions carry on dealing with it in your own sensitive way.

Answer 5

I think it is kinda of weird that he hangs around your family so much. I can't believe he didn't introduce you guys to his wife and kids. You can never be to sure if his intentions are bad or not. But maybe you should try and ask him to introduce you guys to his wife. You know he could be just trying to be a good friend but you can never be tooo sure. So be careful and investigate.

Answer 6

This is fishy... there's obviously something going on! He's definitely interested in your mother. No-one does THAT many things out of the goodness of their heart - especially when they have a wife and kids! HE WANTS SOMETHING IN RETURN!!!!

Answer 7

Looks like he and your mom are having an affair.

Answer 8

i think he want to get in her panties