having locked our 3 1/2 month old baby girl and the keys in the car yesterday.
I had to pop the windows to get our baby out because the car was like an oven. We stopped by my office for about 1 hour and she went out to change the babys diaper and accidentally locked the car with the keys and baby inside.
The baby was locked in the car for about 3 minutes, our office manager called the fire department, I determined our baby couldnt wait that long so I poped the window.
Has this happened to someone else.
2007-04-11 06:08:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It could happen to anyone. It was an accident. It's not like she left the baby in there on purpose while she went shopping or anything. Since the baby is fine, no harm done. (Who cares about the window!) It'll probably just take a little while for her to get over it. I would probably just want to be told that it was an accident that it could happen to anyone. And, that since the baby is fine, everything is going to be OK. For the whole first year after my baby was born, I felt like my brain was on strike and I was forgetting everything. Maybe she can blame it on "baby brain".
2007-04-11 06:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by CLICK 2 $AVE! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does happen all the time. I know several mothers that have done this.
There are magnetic boxes that you can get at the store to hold keys that attach to the car. They say that car thieves know to look for them, but it does provide some mothers a great peace before or after this happens.
She does sound like she is probably a little obsessive over this too, and it's understandable that this was traumatic for her. She probably isn't noticing the hundereds of times a day when she does everything right with the baby; feeding, clothing, diapering, smiling, hugging, kissing. Try to point the good things out to her so that she understands how amazing and non-destructive her care is for your little one.
2007-04-11 06:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Siciliene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a whole lot you CAN say or do, ALL of us I think would feel pretty bad. Keep harping on 2 points:
1. Your Baby Girl is ALL RIGHT. NOTHING HAPPENED TO HER.
2. Your wife learned a lesson from this and will not let that happen again. Maybe both of you could learn from this to have spare keys in about 5 different places and/or get one of those services that unlocks the door by satellite remote control.
Your wife made a mistake, that's all. She is NOT a bad Mother. Bad Mothers would have no feelings over this.
2007-04-11 09:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I worry about this EVERY time I'm putting stuff into or taking stuff out of the car and am constantly looking for my keys -- they always seem to disappear in all the baby gear. Sometimes I just leave all the doors open, just in case I accidentally locked the door after I strapped baby in and while I'm loading groceries etc. Your poor wife. I feel her pain. You did the right thing and I'm glad to hear baby is OK.
Tell your wife that it was an accident, we all make them, and it's not like she did it on purpose or the baby was stuck in there for a long time and got injured. Feel free to share that others worry about this exact same thing. We're only human.
I'm sure time will heal the wounds but she's probably going to worry about this from this point on every time she's loading or unloading your girl.
2007-04-11 06:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by NewMomma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is one of many moms who will do this sort of thing a few times in life. AND she will be able to give someone advice someday.
We all have a story to tell I am sure of it.
While doing childcare in my home my 2 year old locked me in the powder room and took the half of the door knob off.
I had 4 little ones alone for a few moments. I yelled help
and was going to jump and hope the bush broke my fall.
However somehow rustled up a little trick and got myself out. I can't even begin to imagine all the little mishaps I have had having 3 kids - and she will laugh about this one day soon!
Baby is fine and being a mom we're always thinking about two-10 other things at one time.
Welcome to parenthood.
2007-04-11 06:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by kelly e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I’m not sure what you can say to her. That’s sort of a personal thing that she’ll need to get over on her own. It really is no big deal. People leave their kids in those situations on purpose – she did it accidentally.
If this is the worst thing that ever happens to your baby, that’s pretty lucky.
Many more things like this will happen.
My loosely similar situation:
Tuesday night, at about 12:30 am, I heard my 2.5 yo fussing in her bed as she will sometimes do. I felt such an urge to go get her and bring her to bed with me. I really really wanted a cuddle for some reason, but I didn’t want to give her bad sleeping habits so I didn’t go see her and I let her calm herself back down and go back to sleep. When I went to get her the next morning, I found that she had been sleeping in vomit. I guess when I had heard her in the night, she was being sick and I ignored her and didn’t go get her so she had to sleep in it. Aside from that was that I ignored the urge to get her. I felt really really bad and regret that I didn’t go get her, but it’s done now, she still loves me and she’s not sick so really, no harm done.
Reading the other posts also reminded me of the time I forgot my new son in the car. He was about three months old and I was supposed to be picking up my sister to go do something. I remember I was really annoyed at something and when I got to my sister’s apartment building, I parked my car on the street and went in still fuming about whatever was bothering me. I got into my sister’s apartment and she asked me where the baby was. Suddenly remember that I had a baby in the car, I blamed my sister “you were supposed to be ready. I thought you were coming right out” and then I ran to the car to go get him. Felt kinda bad at the time, but it’s making me giggle thinking of it now.
2007-04-11 06:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Total accident! I know how she must feel though. When the baby is that new, you feel like an ax murderer for even the tiniest mistakes. The baby is fine and is incredibly lucky to have a mom who cares so much! But the baby needs a mommy who is happy and positive so the baby can learn to be happy and positive. She should feel good that she feels bad...it's a good sign...and then move on!
2007-04-11 06:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens all the time. I hope to God it never happens to me, but it does happen. My sister-in-law did it, with 2 kids in the car. She called 911 and the fire department came right away. You did the right thing.
Tell her there are moms and dads out there who go to work and forget they had the baby in the car at all, and leave them there to suffocate. At least she is not that stupid!
Give her a hug, and tell her it's ok. Thank God nothing happened, and move on!
2007-04-11 06:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes, I've done this when my baby girl was only a little over 1 week old at wal -mart! I called the cops an it took them forever to arrive, here they couldn't help me so then I waited another 40 mins for the locksmith!! It was soo cold out, I was terrified & felt horrible, But they told me that it happens alot! So just explain to her, accidents happen! Your baby is fine & will be fine! :)
2007-04-11 06:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to feel bad something happens to every new parent like that.
Heck, when my son was 6 weeks old I was wedding dress shopping with my mom and my sister (for her dress) and I grabbed the diaper bag and shut the car door, my mom had to remind me that I had forgotten to grab my son...and it was December. It was kind of comical, because I realized what I did immediately, but it goes to show how it can easily happen to new parents....
New routines and everyting...it takes a while to get used to the whole parenting thing.
It happens to everyone.
2007-04-11 06:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋