she was on concerta but chose to get off because of the way it made her feel. It has been difficult to get her to focus in regards to schoolwork and has a lot of anger towards her teacher and her mother. She hasn't seen her mother in a month.
2007-04-11 05:48:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This girl may need someone to talk to professionally. Anger is one of the biggest causes of depression.
2007-04-11 05:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by kiratess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not put her on any other prescription medications. I have tried this all natural, over the counter anti-depressant called Amoryn www.amoryn.com; it works amazingly well and I had zero side effects. (I lost a baby and was a mess for over a year until I tried this med...I also tried Paxil and Zoloft too which I was miserable on).
I would also say spend some quality one on one time together; having support from you will lessen her frusteration and anxiety with everything else going on. Don't press her too much about the situation with her mother; she will come around when she's ready. It will only make her more upset and she will resent you because she'll take it that you don't understand or are not on her side. Teenagers are TOUGH to get through to in this regard, if you're inside the "circle" count yourself lucky and try to stay there.
You have to find a healthy balance between being friends with your teen while making sure they know they still have rules, expectations and limits. Some loving discipline and direction is good for her when needed. Let her know that letting school slide is not going to benefit her and is not tolerated. Let her work with a tutor if needed (her school probably has these resources).
Girls usually become promiscuous when they don't have a good relationship with DAD not MOM; that's based on hundreds of studies. I think it would be incredibly helpful to get her into some counseling with someone she really likes and trusts. Best of luck to you and kudos for being an involved, loving dad!
Some recommended reads if you can make the time:
"Stop Negotiating With Your Teen" by Janet Sasson Edgette
"Staying Connected to Your Teenager" by Michael Riera
"Queen Bees & Wannabes" by Rosalind Wiseman
2007-04-11 13:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by MommyTaylor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 year old that has asked to live with dad. Dad and I have discussed it, but he's really not in a position to have her live with him. I am taking her to see a counselor next week. She has anger issues, not only with me, with school, kids at school, etc... She's going through a rough time right now. She's always been a bit chubby, not fat by any means, so kids have always been incredibly horrible to her. She's now moving that "chubby" to her body, and becoming a woman. She still sees herself as fat. She tries so hard to be "cool" and get people to like her, that she often pushes them away instead. After a long talk, we came to the heart of the matter, she had hoped if she moved in with dad, that she could have a fresh start at a new school, where no-one knows her, and she could make friends. Girls go through a stage, from about 12 and a half years, to about 20, where they are going to clash with mom, over everything. They're just trying to find out who they are. And if you think back on your teen years, you'll probably find that your daughter, is much like you. Good Luck!!
2007-04-11 12:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Keekers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would see about maybe changing her meds, finding something that will work better for her. A lot of meds will have some not so comfortable side effects that disappear after continued use.
Secondly, I would explain to her that it is perfectly normal to feel angry, but that she needs to work through it. Maybe she should talk to her mother and tell her why she is angry. Maybe she could just write her a letter. However she wants to go about it, I would let her know that she needs to let her anger go and work through it. But I would definetly get her back on some medication that will help her to focus more on school and not on her anger. She might be frustrated because she isn't learning or understanding because she is unable to focus.
2007-04-11 12:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by niki h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why I hate the idea of medicating children. When they are medicated during their formative years, how are they supposed to learn who they are? She is confused, and rightfully so. Once the drug is totally out of her system, she can begin the process of mental growth, which should have begun as a little kid, but was denied to her because someone thought she couldn't "focus". Give her time.
2007-04-11 12:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a counselor in school or doctor because if she doesn't get this anger out of her it's only going to get worst.good luck!!!
2007-04-14 01:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.Handsome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woww i feel this girl.. ahh let her be.. hoenstly.. she has anger kus it hurts her.. of w.e happend between her and her mom obviously it hurts her. she doens't relaly know how to handle it.. i say just let her be . if she wants to be mad at her mom let her. Kinda the same situation only with my dad.
2007-04-11 13:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by cupcakess69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her in some counseling before she starts sleeping with every guy in school or some other self destructive behavior
2007-04-11 12:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a pediatrician and see if there's another medicine she can take. she might also benefit from counseling, if she'll go. talk to her teacher(s) and guidance counselors for help.
2007-04-11 12:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when parents divorce or don't stay together, they usually lose control and the kid becomes the huncho ...good luck!
2007-04-11 12:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋