What should I do about this guy?

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What should I do about this guy?
I came across a guy who was staring me down with this serious look, it was Monday and I mumbled something about him being a fat pig, he said "What?", and I walked over and said "You know not for anything, but why are you looking at me like that?"......

He paused and two little kids ran over to him and he said "I was looking at my kids, get a grip JESUS".

And I was like ok, and then he chimes "And don't stare me down either". And I said "Im not staring you down", then he gave me this pissy look, and I said "Im sorry, ok?", trying to diffuse it, then he turns beat red, runs up to my face screaming, with his finger in my face and pulls out a badge saying "....(I forget), IM A COP, so STOP BEING AN A**HOLE," then I backed up, and apologized, quivering while he was breathing heavy like he wanted to belt me.

First off, I called him out for his chaperone look, but did he have to abuse his authority like that when he wasn't on duty? Any ex-cop or cops friends who respond negatively to me like im some punk will be deleted and ignored.....I was not being a jerk.....I could have just ignored it and went on my way, but you know you can't always be the nice guy all the time...

Why was standing up for myself almost land me in trouble? And why did he have to make a scene like that in front of his little kids? Was he making an example out of me?

This still pisses me off and bugs me and it was 4 months ago......

GLSigma, here's what YOU need to know. He looked at me like I was under surveillance when I was going to the bank, so please don't respond if you don't understand that people do have the right to stand up for themselves if someone crosses them.

Robbocop, I think you need to do your homework. First off, I called him out because he was being a jerk by giving me that look. And i tried defusing it, and he got more mad about it. He's telling me "Dont' stare me down either", like he was looking for it.

If you want to pander with him, fine. But don't patronize me by telling me to avoid public places when im a very outgoing, public person as is.

Answer 1

i hear about this sort of thing more and more and i think it may be getting to be a problem.

yes, that's abuse.

consider what happened to me this morning.

i was driving to work and traffic was heavy - at one point i merged between this big truck and this sedan. it was a tough spot for everyone - traffic was heavy.

the guy was a cop and pulls up next to me and says 'i'll be the guy sending you a ticket in the mail' and drives off.
he didn't say for what or why and it probably doesn't matter - the guy got cut off in traffic and has the authority to issue a ticket.

i'll fight the ticket and i think that you should have asked for that cop's badge number and who he reports to.

cops are getting out of control and wasting their time abusing their power on people like you and me, while the criminals laugh at them and get away with more...

Answer 2

It was unprofessional of him to use his authority in such a way unless you were breaking the law. But you called him out. You approached him first and insulted him. He probably wanted to belt you like most other people would, but knew he shouldn't due to his career. He was wrong to threaten you, but so were you wrong in initiating the confrontation. If you don't want to be looked at, then perhaps you should avoid public places.

Answer 3

My guess is that you might have caught him on a bad day, and he made a bigger deal of it than he should have.

Being a police officer is a stressful job, but I think he should have acted better. You can try and file a complaint, but if you don;t know his name or badge number then that might not be feasible.

Answer 4

You weren't being a jerk but you called him a fat pig under your breath. What, are you 12?