What's up with these young girls?

Question

I don't know if any of you have seen the posting from the 11 year old girl that is possibly pregnant. I saw it and was amazed because it made me read other questions in this category about babies having babies. I was just wondering what is up with the parents of these children. We can't just blame the girls because the boys are at fault here to. My daughter is going to be 8 in a couple of months and I have started touching the topic of sex with her. Now let me explain that I haven't gotten to indepth with it, but I think she is getting the picture. I guess my question is... Where are the parents at and why aren't they talking to their children before it's too late??? I was 30 when I had my daughter and it was hard at times, I just can't imagine being in my teens or younger and going through that.

Answer 1

Maam I hear you and understand you. I was 19 when I had my first child and am now 24 with 3; 1month- 5years. I am married now and wish that I could have been starting out. Me only being 24, I can definitely see a big difference in these babies and kids today in when i was their age. they are way more advanced in almost everything thna when you were growing up and even when i was growing up. these babies, have little to no guidance or rolemodels. we live in a society where these kids look up to and want to emmulate these rappers, vixens, singers, actors/actresses,nba,nfl,nhl people and television, and we let them. no one monitors what their kids hear,listen to, watch, do, or see anymore and it is sickening. just as long as we don,t have to take and spend time with our children; cause we are so busy trying to do our own things, that we can't pay attention and do our things too. so it is one or the other; let the kids do what they want so they won't bother me or take time out with them talk to them get to know them take them on a family trip or to the museum. but there is no such thing as family anymore either people don't believe in doing things together anymore as a family but that has got to change or the world will do nothing but get worse. the younger you talk to and teach your kids about sex, drugs, and alcohol, the less likely they will be the ones your hear about. kids will be kids and they will do their things but it a matter of that principle and foundation that was laid at home first and if you laid it, your kids will come out everytime.

Answer 2

I went through a medical program when I was in school, we got to watch babies be born, one in paticular was a 12 year old girl and she had two boys there and she had no idea which was the babies daddy. That is sad I didn't watch her have her baby but I was at the nurses desk in OB when I heard her screaming IT HURTS, it does hurt can you imagine how bad when you are 12 and still developing. I see it alot where I am at. I can go into a resturaunt and see teens come in from the movies. They range from 10 to 16 no parents. Girls wearing mini skirts and low cut shirts, that is where it starts. They should have a parent accompaning them to the movies. They should not be left alone at any time with the opposite sex untill they are older than at least 16. They definetly should not be dressing like that. They are curious and they explore, next thing you know mom I am pregnant. My mother started that talk with me when I was 3. I was curious about my sister on the way. We got the gory details when I was 13. I think that parents should watch their kids more closely. It can happen in your own home or in the friend that they went to stay at's home. I have two girls and I am dreading the days when my kids get into that. I will be there for them and I will watch over them even more than my parents did I don't care if they feel I am mean or cruel or not trusting. I was 16 when I first had sex and I was 18 when I got married, 2 months after I was married I got pregnant, I don't want my kids to do the same. I remember those days it wasn't too long ago and I have grown up since then. I think that if you have a strong bond with your child youi will have no worries. Watch how she acts and how she dresses. When she gets that first boyfriend let them have some privacy but not too much keep a check on them like every so many minutes. One of my exes mom would bring popcorn and then 10 minutes later she just rememberd the drinks then 10 minutes later she'd come refill and then clean the bowl and then she'd bring dessert and so on and on until the movie was over and it was time to go home. TALK TALK TALK to her, if she rolls her eyes keep trying until she is seriously ready. I was shy so I'd blush during the talk my mom took that as a sign that I wasn't ready when in reallity when the talk came again at 16 I already had i just blushed at the subject.

Answer 3

First, I personally agree that 11 is too young to be thinking about being pregnant. No 11 year old in my experience is ready for this kind of committment. But, I do want to say that I have seen some very young girls get pregnant accidentally and on purpose who seemed more than able to mother a child.

For example, my best friend got pregnant when she was 14 years old.She worked two jobs at night and put her daughter in daycare while she was in school. She finished high school two years early, when she was 16. She has now finished college with her masters degree and has a bigger house than my parents do. She is only 20 years old and her daughter has just turned 5. It can be done. She had no help from anyone.

I believe that the age that someone is does not matter. The ability to mother a child correctly is not age determined. Physical, mental, financial strength is aquired at different ages and times in life. You may not have been ready to have your daughter until you were 30, but there are others who are ready as early as 16-18. We're all different.

In other words, God decides. :o)

Answer 4

I understand your point. My son just turned eight, and when he found out that I was pregnant, he was able to tell me how I got that way. His father and I were shocked. After looking into the stats on children his age, it seems that over 80% know what sexual intercourse is, but none seem to know the possible outcomes. My son's best friend is also 8, with an older sister that is 12. A girl in her school, which by the way is just 10 years old, just had a little girl last week. I have found that most parents that I know are still under the impression that their children are just too young to know what is going on, but they aren't. Teenage girls think that having a baby will lead to having somone to love them unconditionally. That is what I was told when I asked several of them. It's horrible that we live in a world that has our children thinking that way. Teenagers, as well as adolescents, have an idea of child rearing that is similar to nothing more than a daydream. It breaks my heart.

Answer 5

I read that too. I have a son (16) and I have always told him everything about sex, what to do and not to do, I took him to the Public Health people to learn about pregnancy prevention, I always bring home the free condoms from my doctors office for him to "train" with - but I don't know how much he'll remember when he is with a girl. He told me the other day that he knows more about sex then all the other kids in his class and that is sad - especially since several of those kids HAVE sex. But yet they don't have a clue because their parents don't talk to them about it. So I don't think we should blame the kids - they are often too young to understand what's going on. But the parents need to talk to their kids and not just say: Don't have sex! (yeah, like THAT works!). And the sex-ed in our schools is a joke because the teachers are not allowed to get into detail for fear of offending someone. It's all wrong! Go into detail! I had to watch a movie when I was about 14 about childbirth and the camera angle was full view between her legs. It took me a long time after that before I had sex! And I still remember that video.

Answer 6

I'm with you on that! I didn't have my first until I was 31, and second at 33. I can't imagine having them any sooner than I was ready. Anyone who has an 11yr. old that's possibly pregnant has some serious issues going on in their home. Either someone in the family is having sex with the child; Or she's been allowed to run around freely with no supervision or guidance whatsoever!! That's all there is to that! I have a 12yr. old daughter that ask me to "drop" her off with friends at the movies all the time....but she can ask until she's blue in the face, it's not gonna happen for about 4 more years! That's what's wrong with alot of these girls; their parents are either too nieve, or just plain stupid! I see alot of my daughters friends run around with a cell phone glued to their ear, wearing their jeans down to their butt-crack, and the shirts up to their belly-buttons.......And their parents wonder what happend to their child when they wind up pregnant, or have a slutty reputation?! Wake up people! If you're not watching your kids closely, believe me, someone else will, and it most likely will be some horny boy!!

Answer 7

I doubt that's real but anyway, I don't think it's always the parents. I doubt many parents are afraid that their 11 year old daughter is having sex because they're still supposed to be "innocent."

It's not always about the parents, people are going to do whatever they want to do. My parents don't really have much say in my life and it's not like they have ever tried talking to me about sex and drugs and drinking. All they ever said was "don't do it" and even that was rare yet I don't smoke, drink alcohol, or do any drugs. I started having sex at 16 and I haven't gotten pregnant. There was a period when I wanted to have a kid but I was smart enough to realize that it would be a terrible idea at 16.

I know of other people who's parents are there to tell them the dangers of drinking, smoking and drugs as well as many aspects of sex and those people are the ones doing all that nonsense.

Answer 8

I saw that question, too, and it broke my heart. I have a daughter who will be 11 next month. We have had the "talk" already and started discussing things like that when she was about 8. She knows about STD's, pregnancy, and the consequences of having sex at a very young age. I hope that she never ends up in a situation like the girl who posted that question. I was wondering, too, where that child's parents are. Poor kid, she has a long road ahead of her.

Answer 9

I think that's definatly sometihng tha tparents need to be more aware of. No matter how much of an angel their kid is. I'm not a mom but it wasn't that long ago that I was a teenager and I'll never forget the way my best friends mom though I was overreacting when I told her that he daughter was anorexic an bulemic and cutting herself. She said something along the lines of "My daughter was raised in a good home, She knows that's not right so she she wouldn't be doing it. And, if she was, she would talk to me about it. Or I would notice it." Basically she made me the bad guy because she didn't want to think that something was wrong with her child. Sort of the same with sex at a young age. I think that parents just don't want to think about it. they just turn a blind eye towards it a pretend it's not happening. When really, their kids are crying for attention. For all you moms out their, please be involved, no matter how much your kids don't want you to be. Stay involved, know thier friends, nag them to be home on time etc. They'll thank you for it later.

Answer 10

These kids today...
Seriously though, I was still playing with dolls when I was 11 years old. I never had children, by choice. I don't know what is going on, but I do agree this is babies having babies.