I'm sure you all heard the saying "if you love something let it go, if it comes back then it's yours"...but why is that, why bear the pain of letting someone go if you really dont want to...is that the only way of telling if their/it's really your's? *ugh* Love sucks! Just speaking from a broken heart
2007-04-11 04:51:47 · 28 answers · asked by dangerously_inlove_01 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
That's where you're wrong. You have a very nice picture, I'm sure... the problem is that you're looking at the wrong side of it.
Let's put it this way: What love can really last forever in the same form? Even if you find the perfect person and spend the rest of your life together, one or the other of you will probably die first.
So the point is you have to get into the game expecting change. You have to consider that there are different ways to love people, and different things you can do about it. You can love people who aren't alive. You can even love people who you've never spoken to. You can love who a person USED to be but isn't now.
Your love NEVER has to die. But it DOES have to adapt. You will always have the good parts of your love if you choose to keep them. Learn to pick the good from the bad.
Look at the picture you once liked so much, not the edge where the picture ends.
2007-04-11 08:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really want a love that was only yours because you were holding on so tight that it could not leave? The basis of the saying is that if you let it go, and it leaves and does not come back, then it was never truly your love to begin with.
Keep your chin up. Keep your eyes open. Love might sneak up on you when you least expect it. When you find your true love, you will know it AND you will be so happy that you let your "false" love go.
I have been married for 32 years and we have been together for 36. Someday you will know the joy of spending the rest of your life with your best friend. It may be hard now....but better times are coming.
2007-04-11 04:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by toothacres 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all my heart. Why is it someone u love goes away from u and leaves u with pain and no hope? but then I think, what good is it to have someone along who doesn't love u. If at first he loved me he would never leave me.I love him above everything, couldn't he have stayed with me for that sake only.why was I sacrificed when something less important could have been sacrificed. This makes me think that I was never as important to him as he was to me. This means that he didn't love me. If this is the case with u then u r in a great problem.I still love him although its been 3 years since I last saw him.
Let him go, involve urself in something else and don't wait for him because waiting will go u only pain and no Tom, Dick and Harry can enjoy the pain of love.
Love sucks!
2007-04-11 05:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by mssk_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point of the saying is that if you try to keep someone who doesn't love you, you are living a lie, and that will make you feel bad inside. My sympathy on your broken heart. As hard as it is to believe now, it WILL mend and there WILL be happiness in your future. All you can do now is take good care of yourself while the time passes until that happens. Love doesn't suck, but it can really hurt. But the rewards are worth it in the end.
2007-04-11 04:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, love means that you care about someone's wellbeing so much that you would rather let them be happy than you. Haha, like that really applies to real life. But some people are like that, even if it kills them...
Love is good and bad. If you find true love, you'll be happy for the rest of your life.
Love can also hurt like a *****. You learn and heal, though. I got my heart broken, but I eventually moved on, even though I was thinking suicide at the moment.
But love always comes with hurt, no matter what.
2007-04-11 05:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by live_your_life_598 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard another version of that advice and it goes like this : " If you love something let it go, if it comes back then it's yours, if it doesn't...hunt it back and kill it!! "!! I know it hurts but I don't think that a romantic advice like the one you mentioned is the only way to tell!! You can tell if it's right for you from other things, not tests and sayings, things like the way it behaves when you are there, does it listens to you when you talk, is it interested in you and what you have to say, does it love you so much that is capable to give up something for you and I don't know, stuff like that but what's more important is what are you willing to do for that person!! Just some advices I have put into practice myself!!
2007-04-11 05:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by zanazorilor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Courtney Love
2016-05-17 09:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by madeleine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not need to let someone go in order to find out.
You said why let go if you really dont want to.....that statement lets you know that there are no need for testing your love...that statement means that just because you love someone...DOES NOT MEAN THEY LOVE YOU!!!!
If you do not let it go...then you will end up in a mentally, physically or emotionally abusive relationship. You cant win them all...Remember if it was really love.... than letting go would not even be an issue. Sometimes we dont want to accept reality, this is because its not what we want... In your case you do not want to let go because somehow he makes you happy. Bare the pain of letting go because in the long run you are avoiding yourself a deeper pain...one that is way harder to get out ...trust me i speak from experience....I was once in your position... I should of let go.... now I' am in deeper Shi*. Now I WONT LET GO...no matter what because it has been too long for me to give up...i have become someone i do not recognize due to tolorance of all kinds of abuses,,, all because i chose to keep trying instead of letting go at the first signs that he was not the one.
Trust me if it does not work the first time... it wont work the second time.... time away only buys affection for when you get back together..the make up lovie dubbie part. but after a while ... it will happen again... in other words if it was meant to be, you would not be breaking up in the first place....
2007-04-11 06:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by karen g 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally as far as axioms go... I prefer;
"You have absolutely no control over how a person will choose to treat you. The only thing anyone ever has control of concerning other people is what YOU decide to do with that experience as a result."
Love doesn't suck... People do.
Love is beautiful... unfortunately, most people live entire lifetimes never learning the concept of what; "Without condition." actually means concerning it... As the best definition I can conjure to describe love is "Unconditional."
and even when they do... they lack the wisdom to know that you don't have to BE with someone and suffer them, to love them. Nor should you ever expect anyone else to suffer you in order to be with you.
2007-04-11 06:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
But, is the point of love to posses something or someone or is it to co-exist and grow together? If you just want to posses that person then you will hold onto them tightly. You'll hold on even if they don't want you to hold on because you want it so bad. If you want love to grow you have to let it be what it is. You can support it, you can let that person know you do love and care for them and if they feel the same, they will come back.
2007-04-11 07:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋