My boyf and I....?

Question

My boyf and I are in love. Major love, We have been dating for 2 years, we always talk about getting married and having kids;; I told him I wanted to wait until I was married to become unpure and he accepts that. But he wants to propose to me...right now [I am only 14] If he asks me what should I do??

My name is Patience... lol

Answer 1

If he proposes u may say yes,on condition that he waits for the legal minimum marriage age of both of u, and keeps u pure till the date of marriage.

Answer 2

It may be illegal for him to ask you to marry him.

I do not know how old he is.

Show him this, say no, tell him to wait.

I think both of you are very young.

This is the time for both to study hard, play some and build a carrier, enjoy the youth, once it is gone its gone forever. If at age 25 if you have same feeling for each other then do get married.

If things do not work out then, and when you are over this affair, and you are at least 25 years old, try this, or similar sight.

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PS:
Getting married and having children are both blessed events, there is nothing unpure about it. But there is time for every thing and everything should be done when time is right, this is not a time for you to get married or make any commitment, you are not old enough to enter a contract and the marriage is a most pious(holy) contract of all the contracts.

Answer 3

That was very wise of you to tell your boyfriend you wanted to wait until you were married. One. And two: I think you should wait to engage to your boyfriend. You are only a 14 year old GIRL. You are still in school. Education and stabilizing your life so you can have a bright future should be important right now. At 14 you still have plenty of time for marriage. Slow down and try not to grow up too fast. You have your whole life a head of you. Enjoy your childhood while you still can.
Wish you all the best and God bless.

Answer 4

The best thing to know is that according to God's definition of love, and He created it, "love is patient..." the Bible says. That means true love can wait to have sex or do anything sexual at all, AND it can wait for marriage. Love and all that comes with it is beautiful and to be cherished and I applaud your longevity in your relationship. Follow God's instruction and you'll be blessed far beyond that which you could if you accept so young. I know youth hate to be called "young," I know I did, but there is no harm or shame at all in being young. Technically, I still very much am myself! I've been dating the same girl for five years now as of just days ago, and we've been engaged for nearly two years now. We're waiting to be married and also to be intimate or whatever else comes with the territory. Trust me, patience is a virtue, especially when it comes to love worth having.

Answer 5

Before he has the chance to propose, start talking about "promising". If you become "promised" to a boy, that means that you are waiting until you are both old enough to become engaged. It is like the bridge between going steady and becoming engaged. This way, you both, and others, know that you are serious about your relationship, but wise enough to wait until you are older to make a commitment. Often, the boy proposing becoming "promised" will give his girl a nice ring to wear on her ring finger. Something that isn't too expensive, but not exactly a cheap thing that will turn your finger green either! Jewelry stores in the mall will have something he can purchase around 40 to 80 dollars. They are often made of a lower grade of gold, one that is less pure than the pricey pieces they sell.
Good luck, and good job remaining pure! I, and all of the other parents here in cyber space, applaud you!

Answer 6

Girl are u out of ur mind???getting married at 14.firstly its illeagal to get marrierd at 14 then what do u think ur parents will say???
i suggest that since he is so much in love with u make him wait till ur r 18 and then u both can live happily ever after.
U should first build up ur life and career.this is not fanatasy world u need to earn money to live.get back to ur stiudies how can u be even thinking abt relationships now think about ur board exams.At the age of 14 what u think is love is actualy just a fling u will soon gow out of it .
SO GROW UP AND GET A LIFE.

Answer 7

You started dating him when you were 12 and are thinking about marriage? All I can say is wow. I'm 15 and chose to not get into any relationships until sophomore year (geez, that sounds dorky), so if you found love--that's great. But you're 14, which is really really young to commit like that. I've noticed changes in every bit of me in the year from turning 15 to almost 16...chances are you're going to break up sooner or later. Don't make a relationship harder by committing like that. Think about it this way--can he handle your bad days? Like the REALLY bad, screaming, crying, plain-ticked-off-at-everything days? Can he handle your tears? Will he stand by you when you are going through rough times? Really think about that, okay? Don't jade yourself. If you still feel like he's The One For Now, make a promise with him to stay friends, keep your virginity, and always be true to each other. If the relationship ends, there will be fewer feelings hurt.
I wish you both the best!

Answer 8

OK sweetie 1st of all your to young to get married ur just 14 and you should wait. How do you really know if ts true love yeah right know you say that maybe because his your 1st boyfriend. But you'll grow older in a couple of years and get overr it or still ove him. You should just wait maybe until 21 or 22 yrs old. But your to young just wait and if he stills keeps on bugging you just let him go maybe there's someone better for you out there. But don't do a big mistake. Just wait and enjoy life and whatever you do don't have sex with him what if you decide to be with some one else good luck.

Answer 9

If you want to get married, then get married! Nobody has the right to tell you that you can't, except for your parents, lol. They will have to sign papers for you to be legally married, since you are under 16 or 18. If you are truely in love, everything will work out for the best. Just stay true to your heart! If you really believe in waiting until marriage to have sex, than stick to it! We all have that peer pressure everyonce in a while in our lifetime, but the really strong people are the ones that stay true to themselves, remember that! If your boyfriend always talks about kids and marriage and you don't, just don't reply. He will get the message! If he really loves you and wants to spend every day with you, He will understand :)
Best of luck :)
From the mind of a 13-year-old girl :D
~Rebecca <333

Answer 10

Yes- you are too young to think about getting married and have kids.
Grow up and with passage of time-you will become a good young girl which can take up responsibility of motherhood.

Right now- both of you should understand that marriage is a responsibility. And you can not get married by law also [ In india it should be M=21 and F=18 ]

Answer 11

whoa!!!!!!!!!!!!! you are way too young, although you sound mature for your age------who knows somehwere down the road when the "TWO OF YOU" are old enough and MATURE enough this will all work out and you will be married. Right now the two of you have so much ahead of you to deal with that this type of so called "serios" relationship needs to be put on hold. You can tell him for right now you are very flattered that he is thinking about a future with you, however because the two of you are so young you would like for him not to propose for at least 4 or 5 more yrs. If this is meant to be and the two of you are meant to be together, then it will happen. Right now you are just too young to be concerned about marriage.