Okay this is what happens when im alone with my best friend we have the greatest times and i feel happy, however when were both with our friends together he practically ignores me and talks to everyone else and only talks to me sometimes. When hes with them, he ignores me when hes with me we have a great time.. what do i do?
2007-04-11 04:14:44 · 15 answers · asked by kc c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ooh, you're a victim of Danny Zucco Syndrome. It is the name I have given to that sort of behavior, because like you know in Grease, where Danny's all nice to Sandy until his cool friends come around, and then he acts like a total d**k to her? It's like that with you and your "best friend," except you're both guys, I assume. First of all, this guy may not be doing this on purpose. Have you talked to him about it? I know guys aren't super-good at talking this stuff out because you don't want to sound like a pansy going, "Why do you ignore me???" But I bet you a million bucks he probably doesn't even realize he's treating you any differently when his other friends come by. Some people just aren't good at carrying on conversations with multiple people at once. I had a friend for like 10 years who did the same thing. She and I went to school together, and then after we grew up she got married and had a baby and all, and she was always inviting me to things like her wedding shower and baby shower, and she'd talk to me on the phone for like hours sometimes, and then I'd show up to the event, and she would baiscally ignore me in favor of chatting with the other Stepford wives at the shindig about stupid crap like potty-training. That always made me feel all lame and invisible because it especially sucks when the one person you know at a party is not even hanging out with you. My point is, I eventually severed communication with her because she couldn't get it together with being a good friend to me. but it's a shame though because we used to be very good friends. Go talk to your friend. Just say what you feel, and if he's your real friend, he will listen to what you have to say.
2007-04-11 04:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What You Need To Do Is Talk To Your Friend About It And See What They Have To Say About It.
2007-04-11 04:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, not to sound strange, but it seems super weird to me. I think he's probably not so much a best friend. I think you need to find some new friends and just hang out with him once in a while. I am so sick of reading about people who say their BEST FRIEND is treating them like crap. You don't deserve it- he's not a best friend, so stop calling him that!! LOL
2007-04-11 04:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like much of a best friend to me!! All you can do is ask whats up with that-if you don't get a satisfactory answer I would say its time to find a new best friend!!!
2007-04-11 04:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by SidTheKid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him alone and ask him what's going on when you're in a group,.. Ask him why he seems to ignore you. Communicate!
2007-04-11 04:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is taking you as a 'spare tyre"...If his friends are around, he prefer to talk to them. If I were you, I will ask him privately whether he is aware of his actions and this is bothering you. If he still persists, dump him.
2007-04-11 04:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best friend acts like you, the attention can't always be on you and it's not that he's ignoring you, you need to try to be more social with his other friends i want all my buddies to be coo' with eachother so stop acting like he belongs to you and get to talkin!
2007-04-11 04:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by Téa LaFaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to think of it.He is your best friend,but are u really his best friend..?maybe he just uses u to keep himself busy when all others are not around.I'm not trying to be persmistic but I think dats it.or beta just try to ask him why he's doing it...you should be as free as dat with your best friend.
2007-04-11 04:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your feeling. Is he trying to hide the relationship between u n him?
2007-04-11 04:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Adrian Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how you feel and he should understand its better than having a friend that hit you all the time i wish you luck
2007-04-11 04:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋