Should a man ever hit a woman?

Question

There are usually two opinions on the matter:

1) A man should NEVER hit a woman. Even if she comes after him, due to the differences in strength, the most a man could do is restrain her until she calms down. Because a man is naturally stronger than a woman, he should never use his strength against her even if he is threatened.

2) A man is allowed to use force against a woman when he is threatened or for self defense. If a woman attacks a man with the use of a weapon (like a gun or knife), he is perfectly entitled to use force.

What do you guys think? Although I feel a man should never lay a finger on a woman even when provoked, if she came after him with a weapon (thus having the advantage) then a man should be perfectly allowed to protect himself.

Serious thoughts only, please. No wife-beating jokes......

Answer 1

i think it would depend on the situation. there are some women out there that are bigger than men and there for force would be required if they were attacking someone. i think minimal force should be used if being attacked. it's not fair that he should just sit there and take it but i don't think they should use it as an excuse to hit. i think a guy should block or be able to push a woman off of him if he's being attacked but i think that's the ONLY acceptable time to lay your hands on a woman. and even then it should be minimal force and just enough to prevent the woman from continuing her attack. besdies that never, ever is it acceptable to hurt a woman or use force

Answer 2

This is an interesting question for one reason most of all; Don't you think that the man's strength and the gentleman's thing is long past due and an old fashioned "tradition" any more? You have to consider that possibility. I've met women that were stronger in character and even physically than some men! And the women are trying hard and working to erase that ancient 'whimpy" image.
I think that image and that tradition is what leads ME to believe like you, that a guy should not raise a finger against a woman, and out of respect for one's own mother and sisters, etc. BUT maybe that's based on simple "tradition" from when women stayed home and raised children and depended on the guys --which they hardly ever do any more!!
ALSO, I KNOW for a fact that a guy can defend himself from a woman's attack without ever hitting her and YES, he can usually restrain her, BUT it is NOT the normal impulse when one is attacked, so the woman better know that she's putting herself in that situation should she get hurt.
At any rate, the law usually sides up with the woman for the previously mentioned "customs," and I think that is unjust.
You say a man should be allowed to ptotect himself, but I'll tell you what, HE'D BETTER be able to prove that it was necessary. The law doesn't always look at it that way. That's just the way it is.
Back to your question: SHOULD a man EVER hit a woman? THERE ARE chicken-**** guys that think it's normal to do that and those are abusers that seek that kind of women to get off on, but there are ALSO women who want to be dominated and provoke guys to do those things. Should it happen? NEVER! Violence of that sort is best avoided and guys who practice it are out of order in my mind. They'd probably do it to children too!!

Answer 3

I guess everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I think if someone no matter what was coming towards me with a gun ready to shoot or a knife trying to cut me I'm going to hit them or push them down.

I don't really believe in spanking/beating kids but sure as hell better believe that if that kid had a knife running at me I'd smack him/her and knock them down.

Some woman might just be trying to scare a guy but some woman are nuts and I am a woman and some would kill or try to hurt the man and in that case I wouldn't say punch a woman but shove her push her knock her down yah.

Now in a normal case if she slaps him in the face or pounds on him no NEVER SHOULD HE LAY A HAND ON HER...when a woman is upset like that the man still has the advantage of being bigger and stronger even if they appear to be the same size...thats just how were made he could restrain her until she calms down or the police came.

Answer 4

I'll probably get some "thumbs down" for this one, as I am more in the second category.

I agree that a man should never hit a LADY. But if a female attacks or slaps me, she is no longer acting like a lady and I am no longer obligated to treat her accordingly.

I will never hit anyone else (male or female) no matter how upset I am at him/her, that's just my belief. But it's also my belief that I don't have to stand there and take a slap if I can block it. You can bet the farm that I'll physically defend myself against anyone that physically attacks me, man or woman, weapon or not.

Consider the flip side: suppose I was angry at a woman and backhanded her across the cheek because of something offensive and insulting that she said to me. Would I be consoled for having my feelings hurt, or would I be arrested for assault? Would you wonder what she did to deserve getting hit, or would you blame me for losing control of my emotions?

If she hits me, then she opens up that door to be hit in return, and it's NOT my fault if I'm stronger and can hit harder than her. She should have considered that before escalating the incident into the realm of physical encounters. Again, suppose I throw a punch at a man that is obviously bigger and stronger than I am. Is it my fault if the ensuing right hook breaks my jaw, or should I have expected him to use the minimum force necessary to restrain me until I calm down?

The bottom line is that I don't believe anyone should hit anyone else, and that it never solves anything. But don't dish it out if you can't take it.

Answer 5

I am thinking that like some have said in most cases a man should never hit a woman. As for the guy that said the gentleman thing is outdated....why? Sometimes women appreciate a gentleman more than a macho man......

Answer 6

First of all, its best to avoid women who you think may react badly in times of stress, it helps you to avoid getting shot. In normal circumstances a man must NEVER hit a woman, for the reason you mentioned. If she has a gun, you have a problem, and if you get close enough to hit her I imagine you might get shot anyway, its probably best in this situation to talk her out of shooting you.... say whatever you think she wants to hear. Then when the situation has diffused, run like hell and call the cops. If she has a knife, don't hit her, don't get close to her, work your way towards a door, then walk through it and run like hell

Answer 7

#1 no a man should never hit a women!! i'm a man and my dad told me when i was a little boy that you don't hit girls and women and i have told the same to my boy's and if they do they will have hell to pay from me! like i would have from him. #2 yes if a women comes after you with a( knife or a gun ) yes you need to stop her with all that you have if you have to hit her or knock her out do it or you will be on the floor dead! so yes if you have to hit her to stop her do it!

Answer 8

1) A man should never hit a woman and if he is presented with a nut-case woman he should then walk away or flee to a friends house and call the police.
If a man is provoked and has no time to flee he should certainly protect himself but mostly with trying to hold down the woman or push her away from him or get the weapon from her and then flee, but I believe in most cases, the man should be able to get away from the woman.
Some women are phsyco and need to be reported to police if they are a danger to others and themselves, and they should be made to seek counselling.... but a man should NEVER hit a woman.

Answer 9

A man should never hit a woman. Never ever. No matter what happens.

Answer 10

no a man should never hit a woman or anyone else in fact.
the only exception would be in self defense ie if she had a
weapon and only minimum force to disarm her.