how to get reveng on inlaws?

Question

i want revenge on my inlaws i am getting devoriced from there daughter and they are constantly bad mouthing me spreading around false information about me and telling my kids bad untruthfull things about me trying to turn my kids aginst me

Answer 1

The best revenge is to do nothing at all and be as nice to them as possible despite the way they treat you. They want to prove to your children that you're as bad a person as they've made you out to be and get you to do things you normally might not because they're treating you badly. If you ignore them and treat them well and be respectful then your children will see that and know that they are the wrong ones and not their father. If your children repeat things that your inlaws have told them then just tell them not to believe a word they say about you and leave it at that. It will really really irritate them too knowing that they're not getting inside your head!! That, it's the right thing to do, and your kids will learn a lot about being a good well rounded person as a result of the whole situation.

Answer 2

Take the high road, and don't try for revenge. If you do, you'll look like so much trash in the gutter.

Tell people the truth - you're getting a divorce, and that the inlaws are spreading lies about you. Say you can't help what they say, but that you hope that the people who know you will understand that these are lies. Tell your kids that you're sorry the divorce happened, but that you still love them and want to be part of their lives.

And then mean it, and prove it to the kids.

Answer 3

Right now you're speaking from anger and hurt, not a good time to be making such decisions.

Take a deep breath, and then remember that seeking revenge will take a lot of time and energy on your part, time and energy spent on people you can't stand. Do you really want that? Wouldn't you rather spend that on loving and caring for your children, and for yourself? The rewards will be greater and longer lasting, and you will be proud that you did not stoop to their level.

Be the best father you can be, and no one will be able to turn your children against you. Your children will recognize what's true, and then your in-laws will have to explain themselves to your children - which will automatically put them in a truly uncomfortable place, to say the least.

Perhaps that would be the best "revenge"!

Answer 4

Dan, revenge is not a solution.
No matter what people do, let them continue doing it. You remain yourself and keep your calm. Also,think of the people around you like your friends, extended family etc... You don't want to make an issue out of this in front of them,do you?
Their bad mouthing you shows that they are immature and are not able to handle the situation well. And it will only result in more chaos if you get affected by all this. Maybe this is exactly what they want. Maybe they just want to hurt you because they too are hurt.
Maintaining silence over here will go to show that you are strong and unaffected. This way, your children will grow to respect you.

Answer 5

If they are saying things that are untrue and if these things try to end up in court have them punished under the penalty of perjury. Plus what they are doing to you is slander and depending on the nature of it it can be considered a crime. If things are getting to ugly file to have custody of the ids until this has been settled or get a court order for them to stay away from the kids. Unfortunately her parents are acting immature but I am basing my opinions off of your word.

However, I am sorry you are getting a divorce but this is your fault as well as the woman you are getting married to. You have kids and they get to go through this and its unfair. Rather if someone cheated or there is just to many problems its both of your faults. If you have tried to do everything in your power to work it out and keep your marriage then this is the only option left but if you just gave up then its pathetic.

Answer 6

Dear Dan,
First get yourself a dictionary so you can learn how to spell "divorced" and the proper use of "there" as in place or "their" as possessive pronoun (belonging to them). Seriously, divorce is never as easy as the Hollywood folks would make it out. Continue to live your life and don't worry about "revenge". When you are with your children talk about things they are interested in and don't rise to the bait when they relate what their mother or in-laws may have said. Move on to some other subject, preferably something that the children are more interested in, such as a Chocolate Sundae.

Answer 7

you are getting a divorce, but since you have children, you will still be in the lives of these people for ever. Revenge is pointless. Do you really want to stoop to that level? do whats right and set an example for your children. Looks like if these people are the way you claim then you need to be the role model for your kids. good luck

Answer 8

Don't make an already bad situation worse by adding fuel to there fire. Be the bigger man and let it go. Your kids aren't stupid and they will see what you do and lose respect for you for taking the low road. They should be your main concern now, if the in-laws need to lie about you to make them selves feel better or to justify their behavior, your kids will see through the lies also. Give it some time and keep strong you will come out on top. Good luck

Answer 9

This is negative attitude & I'd never advise to take revenge of what they did. After all, it is not your ultimate aim of life too. Forgive & forget them or u'll constantly face health problems. Do not talk of old closed chapter which is as dead as history. Wise men never look back, rather they look forward. Have positive attitude please for God's sake. Jerk off all neagative thinking , pray God regularly; be soft , sweet , sincere & tolerant in words & actions. Be cool & try for your remarriage to a simpler girl. After that pass simple life. When they will see your better successful life , they will stop all nonsense at once & your problem will vanish.

Answer 10

No - it really is not any longer useful to snoop. every time i flow away my mate seems after my pets and that i understand finished properly she's been having a sturdy previous nosey - in the adventure that they're some thing like me they're going to keep in mind that pot has moved a fragment of an inch to the left!