why do women seem to need/require constant affirmation of our love for them?

Answer 1

We don't need it constantly, but once in a while is appreciated. Why? Because we are emotional beings and we want to know that we are loved.

Answer 2

'Constant' might be a little strong. Perhaps you perceive it as constant because it seems to be so demanding to you.

Women, just like all creatures need to be loved and appreciated. But I will be the first to say that it is those LITTLE things that mean ALOT. i.e. Opening doors, getting a light jacket for her on a cool night WITHOUT being asked. Small considerations for her comfort, little things to bring a smile on her face. I caress of her shoulder as you pass by. A gentle squeeze of her arm, holding hands (Even in public!) ...all of these mean things. My dh brings my favorite candy for no reason at all. He has brought me a rose bush with my favorite blossoms. He has made lunch for me, instead of vice versa. I have come home from shopping to find the floors mopped and vacuumed. YES we like to hear the words 'I love you' ' I adore you' ' I worship you'. But there are a thousand ways to show it as well. My EX husband once told me, ' I love you and if I ever change my mind I will let you know.' Needless to say, he is my ex-husband.

My point is that constant may not seem so much of a burden and perhaps feel less demanding if you learn to express it in little ways as well as the verbal ones. Otherwise they are just words.

Answer 3

Why do you ask? Is it such an outrageous request? is it such a grave burden upon you? Does it require too much time and energy?

If all your woman wants is more affirmation, then be glad. Some women want presents, some want acts of service... etc


And it's not women. Men are that way too.

Answer 4

That’s funny cause I’ve always wondered why it is most men equate the amount of sex they get in a relationship to how much we love them? Like if a woman isn’t in the mood, for that one rare time, he acts petulant & assumes it’s him, when in truth it’s us—just tired or not geared up on a switch to be turned on & off on a whim. But I think in regards to women, that depends on the woman & the situation. Sometimes we just need to hear it because we’re insecure about ourselves or the state of the relationship. Sometimes we want to just hear it because you’ve neglected to affirm that in a while. Sometimes, we’re starved for affection & attention because some of you all are so self-important you don’t realize that we need something more than just physical love, which let’s be honest isn’t love that’s lust. It’s basically for the same reason we as if we’re pretty. We know we are, we just want to hear you say it because it’s nice to hear. Take it as a compliment that she wants to hear it from you.

Answer 5

When i ask my husband "why dont you do... anymore?" His response "Cuz i got you now". Men get "used" to us and kinda change toward you after a while and we start to question what we are doing wrong, if you still love us. If men didnt stop being affectionate (not just sex) towards us after however long then we would have no need for constant affirmation because you'd already be giving it. In short - its not us its you :)

Answer 6

I think it's because men are so "casual" about how they feel a lot of the time that we sometimes after awhile can't tell how they still feel. Women are more emotional than men, we're wired differently, you know? Men don't honestly think that way so that's a good part of the reason we feel that way.

Answer 7

Because were human...Physical contact for most women makes us feel happy, when your being touched by the love of your life it makes you feel special, even just holding hands or a blow in the ear every now and then. I know for me it's a big turn on.

Answer 8

I certainly dont think most of us need constant affirmation, I know I dont. It is nice to hear it every once in awhile though.

Answer 9

becoz a woman's capacity to love is much more than a man's capacity. women love and care more deeply. we have a habit of expressing our love time n again.. and even though we understand that most guys cant express love that deeply even though they love us.. we do expect them to do atleast something once in a while.. or else we feel that we r the only ones making all the effort

so it wont hurt u to show ur love more often.. it'll make ur girl happier

Answer 10

I love to hear any comment from my husband that shows his love or attraction for me, but I don't worry if he doesn't tell me anything for a while either. If he said it all the time, I would begin to wonder if he truley meant it or was just saying it to appease me. When he tells me I look nice, I know he means it.

Answer 11

Men say it through making love and women want it through words. I get I love you's all the time from my 9 year boyfriend lover. Its nice you know