Last night my boyfriend suggested I put some sexy lingerie on and although it was pretty late and I was tired, I agreed because we hadn't done anything in a few days. So he went outside to talk to his friend on the phone while I was getting ready. Well, obviously he didn't care that I was waiting for him as he didn't come back until half an hour later. By that time I was really mad because there I am, freezing with almost no clothes on and he's chatting on the phone. And that's not the first time he's done that so I told him I wasn't in the mood anymore and I'd rather just go to sleep.
He got mad and today he doesn't even want to talk to me. Instead of admitting that he ruined our night he makes me feel like I'm the guilty one now.
Ladies, what would you do in my place? What do you think about his behavior?
2007-04-11 02:40:03 · 24 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Usually when you ask this kind of question, you already know the answer. You don't sound happy. Don't think of whether you're guilty, think about whether you are really happy. I don't think you are.
2007-04-11 16:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to me.... the difference is he was just watching tv and I was ready to do everything in bed. I think one thing that man should know is that never let the girl waiting that long becoz once girl gets tired of waiting, dont expect the girl makes move anymore, unless the guy will do something to make you in blaze again.
Well I think just tell him you dont want to be waited that long or else nothing will happend to both of you unless he makes move to bring back your mood. And, if you may add, maybe invite him take a shower together so you'll forget what happend last night.
2007-04-11 12:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by gandakoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you both should talk about it and I think he's wrong becasue he asked you to do somehting and he just totally didn't think about you and personally if I were you I wouldve gone and get him, seduce him, be sexy, If you were just there waitng then DUH! most probably he'll just stay talking. In a relashionship, sometimes you might be tired, not wanna have sex, yeah, yeah, but once you get in the mood it's good and you have to satisfy each other. If one day you say no, then another day he'll say no and the relashionship dies, becasue you have to work it out in both part. The relashion ship depend on giving to each other and receiving (not only fisically), if one is giving more then the other and not receiving anything back then it's not a relashionship. It's wrong on both parts.
2007-04-11 10:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by jadaifrias7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry just yet. I think he was a bit busy but just keep a watchful eye on him. I mean, he left you for half an hour he might be up to something. For now, I suggest that you shouldn't take it so seriously. Maybe, you should try talking to him about it, he probably does not realize what he is doing.
2007-04-11 09:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like typical male behavior, nest time you leave him in the bed waiting and freezing while you chat on the phone.
2007-04-11 09:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by doubletree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they major reason for couples having issues is lack of communication....
if you could do it all again, maybe you could have called his cell phone to tell him u were ready... or when he left the room - tell him to come back in 5mins or else! make it a game....!
although it may not be as sexy... i think we women need to tell the men what we want - they are not mind readers and they r a little simple @ times... he was thoughtless, but then a lot of men can b - it's not really their fault - it's the way men r... my advice - communication :)
2007-04-11 09:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by aj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that he ruined your night? Don't assume that he knows you were waiting for him and freezing and tired, or that you felt he was being rude. He may just think you got mad at him for no reason. It may seem obvious to you why you were mad, but it may not have been clear to him.
2007-04-11 09:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be finding a new man. Sounds weird that he needs to go outside to use the damn phone.
I'd be pissed enough about the getting sexy thing, but even more so about the stupid phone.
Kick his butt to the curb. He'll blame everything wrong on you no matter what
2007-04-11 09:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the beginning of a very unhealthy relationship.
If you don't want to put on something sexy.....don't. He may have been put out but he'd get over it. If you did to avoid him getting angry then you have the makings of a controlling relationship which eventually leads to abuse.
2007-04-11 09:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would've gone downstairs in my sexy lingerie and demanded that he join me right away or he would miss out!!!! But you didn't do that so, I would explain to him how you felt and then why not be the bigger person and dress up for him tonight and show him what he missed last night!!!!!
2007-04-11 09:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋