my family is against our future plans for marriage, but i love him to death. he treats me right and we are both in love. he is divorced and his daughter is my age.
2007-04-11 01:46:50 · 31 answers · asked by quillera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you are both consenting adults so I see no reason why you shouldn't, or any reason they should have a problem. I wouldn't have married a 48 year old man at 24, but I'm not you, it is YOUR decision. Not your family's. The only problem I can forsee is him having a child the same age as a grandchild, but like I said, that's not anyones problem but yours. Tell your family to butt out.
2007-04-11 01:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy that is the bottom line.
To play devils advocate though, he is twice your age and has had twice the life experiences to create the person you are in love with. Think of dating a person half of your age... You would have little in common with a 12 year old (jailbait jokes aside) because of the experiences that make up who you are.
I am not trying to say it can't work, but he has 24 years of life and wisdom to draw from and at a certain level that much of a difference seems like it may make for some degree of unequal footing in conversations and very important decision making.
As energizing as it would be to marry a 24 year old, I personally would find the life experience gap to be a real concern when considering the give and take needed to have a successful marriage.
2007-04-11 08:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Steve V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. As long as you two have a common ground to connect on, go for it. Since you want marry him though, do be prepared for say, 20 years from now. You will be 44 and he will be 68. Also think of any potential children. He will be in his late 60s to early 70s by the time the child gets out of the house. If none of those age related factors bother you, go for it, and best of luck to you!
2007-04-11 09:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that age difference doesn't matter when You are in love but you have to ask yourself ,have You lived Your young years to your satisfaction? just think of by the time You reach his age he will then be 72 so if you have the perception that life is pretty good at 48 will yours be as fulfilling experiencing it with a 72 year old I can also understand Your families concerns I'm sure it's only because they love You & want You to have the best life You can, if You ask yourself these Q & are still convinced he is for You forever then pour your heart out to your family & tell them how happy he makes You good luck.
2007-04-11 09:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If you are both in love, who cares if his daughter is OLDER than you!!! As long as you really do love him and he loves you, then age is nothing but a number. Besides your 24 years old, that makes you a woman and I'm sure you can make wise decisions. Its not like your 13 going out with a 30 year old. Your past legal age, at 24 you should know what you want! Don't listen to anyone who tries to let you down. Always listen to your heart! Good luck ;-)
2007-04-11 08:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by curious789 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 30, I fell in love with a married man that was 32 years older than me. He was wonderful to me and I to him. We had a great five years together.
My family didn't like the fact that he was married however, their feeling on it was he was good to me. My mother always said if a guy treats you with respect and treats you like a lady then he is worth your time.
Age is only a number. You're not a little girl. If he treats you well and loves you and you love him....what are you waiting for? Your family will get over it.
Good luck!
2007-04-11 09:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by larkin_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says a lot about a 48 year old man who is on the same level as a 24 year old. He is old enough to be your father. It tells me he hasn't progressed which should come with aging. a 48 year old should have nothing in common with a 24 year old to be frank.
2007-04-11 09:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Tina L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am telling you from experience don't do it. I was involved with a man 15 years older he was 38 I was 23, but the problem was he acted like he was 78 instead of 38, he was completely lazy wanting everyone else to do everything for him, he was like a huge baby, eating, sleeping and going to the bathroom. I would think twice before getting married.
2007-04-11 09:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea22306 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing is wrong with it..my dad was angry when he found out about my bf a few years ago i was 14..him 20
but im now 17 his 24 and we are still together and happy (but my dad don't know) .. if your in love nothing else is important, age is only numbers.. my bfs sister got married in 2005 she was 20 him about 40..but it was only to get to france (as they're in tunisia) and his a doctor so thats why she didn't reject him..its normal there for age gaps 4/5/6 years and here in uk too i think..just forget about ur families opinions
2007-04-11 08:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Joy89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out why he's divorced. If his wife cheated on him, and he did not cheat on her, then it might be okay. Most of the time, however, people get divorced for selfish reasons and you shouldn't remarry such a person.
I think this is more of an important factor than your age difference, and I would say to not listen to others and go for it.
2007-04-11 08:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Joe C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋