i am always scared of my boss, i work in a rest home and love it. When she calls me in she talks down to me and i cant even defend myself, i tell myself all the time i wont let her bother me but every time she gets the best of me, this has gone on for 10 years, ive actually quit 3 times due to this. i have gone over her head but she is the social worker that runs everything.
2007-04-11 01:12:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You need to stand up to your bullying boss. She will never show you any respect nor treat you like an adult until you do. Next time she starts hold one hand up and say "Stop. I will not tolerate being talked down to or treated in this manner any longer and will not discuss this issue with you until you are ready to start treating me like an adult." Then you walk out without saying another word. If you boss backs down and starts treating you properly...great. If it continues, stay there but look for another job then quit as soon as you know they are going to hire you. If you go ahead and quit without having another job lined up you still might be able to collect unemployment on the grounds of bad work environment, depends on your state though.
2007-04-11 01:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by ModelFlyerChick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
How many days do you have left on this planet?
How many more do you intend throwing away, working in an environment that you hate?
How much longer will you let someone else control how you feel?
Life is far too short to stay in your position. And you are too important and too special to keep taking that punishment.
10 years? Sadly after that much time you might have convinced yourself at a subconscious level that you deserve the bad treatment (even though consciously you know you don't).
It might be advisable to ask yourself some questions like:
If I could do anything at all in life - and there are no boundaries - what would it be?
If time and money were not objects, what would I be doing right now?
What makes me passionate, happy and excited?
Unless you answer these questions your life will just drift and you will ultimately be unhappy.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life and that means making your own decisions about what you want to do, who you want to become and what you want to have in the future.
You might need to take a dramatic turn in your life, but the dramatic turns bring the most impressive results.
And finally, you appear frustrated? We get frustrated when we feel we are not in control. Being in charge of your life and making solid decisions about your career and your future, and taking total responsibility for your life from this day forward, will eliminate any frustration and set you up for the greatest gift we can enjoy in life... happiness.
I sincerely trust this is helpful.
Warmly,
Slav
2007-04-11 08:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi...first thing you must do is...compose a 'grievance' letter, in the form of a complaint about the way she treats you etc...and make sure when you put your letter together to have the words 'grievance' and 'complaint' in the wording of the document letter.
this will make her realise that if she does not stop her bullying, that you could and will take her and the people/company you work for to an Employment Tribunal, and also add this to your letter wording.
legally this will cover you, plus it means you mean business, and will not tolerate any more bullying.
plus and finally, if i were you i would seriously be looking for another position...that way when you get one, then think of all that satisfaction when you face them up and quit and tell them the reasons why and that you may possibly inform your local paper of the unprofessional way they conduct themselves.
good luck and keep strong, especially against that bully.
2007-04-11 08:28:34 · answer #3 · answered by chrisbell3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my boss tried this on me once,talking loud and getting in my face p.s. my boss is a man, when he saw that he could not make me back down or cry like he does the other gal, He quit trying to bully me.I'm an adult if you have a problem tell me what it is and I'll fix it, if I can, but I won't be spoken to or treated that way.
2007-04-11 08:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bullies bully cause they get a reaction.Surely there must be a cintrolling board or something you can report this behaviour to and they must have certain standards of conduct? Otherwise just do your best and let your work show her up as a bully to all her superiors.
2007-04-11 08:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Unicornrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she talks down to you, say, "don't talk to me that way." u might have to practice it. my boss is a bully but in the time I've worked here i've gotten much better at standing up to him. it might take you some practice, so don't be afraid to say to yourself in a private moment, don't talk to me that way. You don't deserve to be abused! Life is too short to put up with that kind of stuff!
2007-04-11 08:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by njyogibear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years??? You've worked in these conditions that long??
Is this the only rest home close enough for you to work at?
sounds like you will either find another job or continue to take whatever she dishes out to you.
2007-04-11 08:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jo Blo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋