We have 4 kids! So time is always lacking! How do I tell Him I need more! Please keep in mind He is a preacher! So I have no one other than ya'll I can ask this to! He would freak out if He knew I ask such a question! Thanks for all your help!
2007-04-11 01:06:59 · 13 answers · asked by Amy E 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I love Him so much! I could not take hurting him! Or for Him to be dissapointed in me!
2007-04-11 01:19:23 · update #1
ok...i am assuming that taking to him straight up about it is not the best option here? So what i would do:
1) make at least 2 "date" nites per month...no kids...you go out to dinner, movie, whatever...that way the family life isn't there and demanding attention (not that that is a bad thing, but it gets to be overwhelming - and I only have one kid). Give yourself time for "it" either before you go out, or when you get back before you have to pick up the kids.
2) tell him what you do like as he is doing it...tell him you enjoy whatever it is...tell him don't stop...things like that. guys do love encouragement...this way you are not "critiquing" and he will not feel threatened or inadequate
3) write him a note saying "i would like to try..." and slip it into his lunch or whatever, so it will be a nice surprise.
Good luck!!
2007-04-11 01:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Niffer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a good sit down and maybe a video on the subject.
You can teach an old dog a new trick or two.
Just because he's a preacher has no bearing on his bedroom, God wants us to be happy w/our mate. Just talk to the man.
2007-04-11 08:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you guys maybe get away from the kids awhile so you won't worry about being interrupted? Maybe suggest what you want to try and see if he is ok with it. I would say he is very busy and has a lot of work he has to do with the church and has just maybe forgotten about those things. Good luck.
2007-04-11 08:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up with him....Honey, I love you a lot but, I'm not reaching orgasm..or whatever the problem is. It is a mans nature to want to be a good lover. Don't critize...just point him in the direction of what pleases you...;). Good luck sweetie!
2007-04-11 08:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try guiding him to the area that needs attention and tell him that it's important to you. he may be a preacher but he's also a man. he needs to be told what you need.he can't read your mind. a couple should be able to discuss these things. just bite the bullit and say something.
2007-04-11 08:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he were to freak out just for asking this question, i am not sure how to help you. i would never tell someone that i am not fulfilled in bed, however, there are ways of saying that without really saying that........like, just try something new and see how he responds. be the agressor is my best advice.
2007-04-11 08:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you want him to do in bed and then start encouraging or guiding him to do it. Don't tell him he's not satisfying you. That will only make him more inhibited. Instead when he does something you like tell him to do it more.
2007-04-11 08:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you wouldn't be able to just talk with him, especially if he is a man of the cloth, he should be more understanding than this.
2007-04-11 08:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I guess cheating on him is out of the question.
tell him what you want, straight up.
know what you want first.
if it's more sex, try to entice him.
if he's just not doing it right, he'll need instruction. oh, bore.
2007-04-11 08:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....you could try your own little sermon on him....he might get the message better that way! Good luck
2007-04-11 08:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋