end a relationship? me and my bf have been together for 4 yrs and living together most of that time. recently he got his licence back and has been leaving around 8pm and not calling or showing up until 4-6 am. it's not like once a week, no, it's every single day now. in fact now it's running 5 nights strait. he didn't even call me on easter. he got back into town on sunday night and just went out. i think he may be cheating, he has absolutly no excuse or even tried to lie about were he's going. i even stopped by a few of his hangouts looking for his car but he's always MIA! he says i'm over-reacting but i just can't be with a guy that obviously has no interest in being with me. but my question is, how do i tell him it's over? I'm so used to this that i don't know what to do..i mean even being with him, i'm not because he's always gone. i find myself alone all the time. how do you fill that void? what are somethings to keep me busy so i can have an easier time getting over him?
2007-04-11 00:28:44 · 15 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your relationship as you call it is over and has been for some time. Four years?.....that has to be some kind of record to put up with a jerk. Please do yourself a favor, get some self-respect and toss him. Getting over this poor excuse for a man should be easy...get a hobby.
2007-04-11 01:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first you obviously think you deserve better than to be left sitting on the couch watching the clock tick bye so pick up the phone call up the girls and stay out late drink a lot dance even more and let him know that you are not sitting at home pining over him ,if he thinks that you are partying he will want to find out why and then tell him you are celebrating coming to your senses .and that just like him your going out and getting your life back and is wants to be part of it he better start by being there for you . after all a partnership takes two .
2007-04-11 08:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start packing now. If he happens to wander in before you leave, tell him good bye. Otherwise he doesn't deserve an explanation.
Go out with friends. Just have a good time. Mr. Right is out there. You may have to date a few Mr. Right Now's before you find him. Just forget the creep who shows you such disrespect.
2007-04-11 07:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him jealous make a male friend and hang out with him (no I'm not saying cheat on your bf) but it might wake him up and start spending more time with you ... however if this dosent work ... you obviously have plenty of time during the day to pack your things and move out (i know this can be a hard thing to do as I've done this myself i was with my ex for 4 years) you need to get ready emotionally as well for you to get through it and have a friend to move in with ,having a friend there to comfort you helps allot ... give it a try ...good luck
2007-04-11 07:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans and arrangements for where you are going to move. Start getting boxes and packing. Or, if you want him to leave, put a big note on a pile of boxes where he will see it and tell him he needs to move out by, and put the date in. Good Luck, sorry he is treating you this way.
2007-04-11 07:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he seems to be looking after him, so it's about time that you looked after you. Decide what is in the place you share that you can do without, and what you are prepared to sacrifice for your own peace of mind, and then plan your exit carefully. I don't think, from what you've said, that there is any other reasonable course of action for you..
2007-04-11 07:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a stand and leave or kick him out. Do not let him try to sweet talk you into another chance. Be very firm and GET RID OF HIM.
2007-04-11 09:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though the relationship is already over just pack up his things and when he comes home tell him to take his things to wherever he's been spending his time.
2007-04-11 08:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your name is on the mortgage or lease, then next time he disappears for hours, you change the locks on the doors and place his personal belongings on the front lawn. He'll get the message!
If your name is NOT on the mortgage or lease, then move out.
2007-04-11 07:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either set his things outside and change the locks or move without telling him and let him come home to find you long gone.
2007-04-11 07:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋