I feel like something isn't quite right. I'm 14 weeks pregnant with 2nd baby (1st is husbands) and our sex life hasn't been what it was for a while now. We have been married for 5 years and he says he still loves me but i feel very uneasy. He has started working 2 hours overtime every night - i know we need the money and he could just be being a good husband/father but he's never there. He seems to be ok with not as much sex but i find that worrying too! If i ask him about cheating he shrugs it off. How can i believe him? Is there anyway to be sure he's telling the truth without something drastic like spying on him?
2007-04-11 00:19:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't need insensitive answers about my pregnancy. If he is cheating then it's over - i've got a little more respect for myself and my kids than that. I also work and provide for the family financially.
2007-04-11 00:31:45 · update #1
If you feel something is not quite right, then it isn't. Go with your gut. I gave mine 8 months believing him rather than my gut and it was the wrong choice. I spent time looking for proof and every time I found something, he denied it or worse still I tried to rationalize it (like you're doing - is he REALLY being a good husband/father?). If he is working OT, it will show up on his paycheck. If you don't have access to the bank account, get it right away. Don't try to rationalize anything. And don't waste time and energy trying to find other "evidence." Protect yourself and kids - make sure you set some money aside for yourself. If he is cheating, the sooner you get rid of him, the better it will be for your health and the health of your child.
2007-04-12 06:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by stuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is a way to tell if he is being truthful, when he claims to be working those late hours randomly show up with some dinner or a special treat he likes. The you will know if he is working or not. Men do go through stages where the sex slows down and he could be tired from working those extra hours. He sounds as though he is being a good man. Only you know him and if you feel something isn't right then check it out.
2007-04-11 00:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a guy having his first child, he probably is doing what he thinks he is supposed to do with a pregnant wife. He isn't crabbing about less sex, he is trying to bring home more money to help pay the bills. He isn't cheating. He is trying to do what is best. If this isn't what you want from him, you have to tell him. If you want more of him at home, you have to let him know. More then likely you're stressed with a child at home and being pregnant and you are reading things that aren't there. Don't start spying on him to see if he is cheating. If he isn't and he catches you spying, do you think this is going to help the relationship? If he is cheating (and he isn't) you won't have to spy or try to read between the lines, it will be obvious to you at some point.
2007-04-11 00:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are not any clues and he is at work most likely he is stress as the new baby is coming and money is needed. Talk to him how you feel set up romance time just for the two of you. Make a effort to spice things up in the bedroom show him not through sex but words and touches how much you love him. Your sex drive could be low because you are pregnant but make special time for the two of you to get that spark back
2007-04-11 00:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just be having those pregnancy "fears"..
how about you do show up at work - and surprise him. Or say listen I called you and you were not there, where else would you be?
When I was pregnant with our first child - my husband was on a team where there was a girl who was infatuated with him.
It was very hard on me (paranoid and pregnant) but he didn't cheat (although she did all she could to try)!
It's so stressful - but you are married. People don't get that it's a vow. Hopefully he is working hard but something in your relationship makes you doubt him - so find out.
Be a little detective and if he isn't being honest that isn't fair to your or your baby!
Sex comes and goes - but he should be madly in love.
Excited about his new life with you -
2007-04-11 00:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by kelly e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why could that's significant to tutor infidelity basically to get divorced? If he provides financial risk-free practices now, then a decide could anticipate him to grant that when divorce. My feeling is he does not have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and does not even call abode to envision on the youngsters? great Dad you chosen to your babies. call it quits and concentration on your self and your babies. document for divorce so which you will get an order for newborn help for the youngsters and you will start up getting your existence back on course. Who cares if he's a cheater. he's clearly no longer an excellent husband or an excellent father. do no longer waste any further time.
2016-10-21 14:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by rosen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don,t want to jump straight on you and say yes he is, the lack of sex maybe just because of the pregnancy some men feel like they might hurt the baby if this is the case just reasure him it dosn't, as for the working late my partner is like it it's true every-one needs the extra cash and i've explained to him that i would rather have him and it seems to have worked for us, i think you just need to sit down and have a good chat i think its maybe all down to stress of family life and work and with the extra pressure of a new baby. i think you should try not too worry too much ..remember you are pregnant, i hope this helps you.....
2007-04-11 01:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's with women and cheating? so what if he is cheating? does he bring u enough money? does he take care of u and your kid? do u look pretty and very well maintained or u re 100 poinds overweight now? so what if a guy is having a little fun - don't u have more important things to worry about like whether your unborn child will be healthy? do u know how many abnormal pregnancies re now due to bad enviroment and bad genes and stuff like this? so concentrate on your and your baby's health. i could never understand what's wrong if a man is having a little fun a s long as he provides for his family and entertains his wife
ps. an by the way this advice by the previous person was the dumbest of them all - so u appear with your dinner at his work place and he is cheating. then what? so presume u already know he is cheating and then what? how will it help u except it will hurt u even more? thnk that first
2007-04-11 00:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
check his paystubs. If his pay doesnt show the extra hours I would spy.
Hormone levels during pregnancy can cause us emotional instability too so...unless there is more evidence just try to be the person he married and try to have fun with him.
2007-04-11 00:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by damommyxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he is stressed about the baby and pregnancy does not turn him on. Check to see if he is working OT and if he is than kill your paranoid thoughts. If he isn't....game on.
There is nothing abnormal about a guy not being turned on about pregnancy, after all we are pigs, so don't take it personally.
2007-04-11 00:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by austin596 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋