I know other people this has happend to as well. He was never in a million years going to leave me for her, she cannot give him anything I cant. I would be more upset if she was beautiful but she is really quite ugly.
2007-04-11 00:12:28 · 34 answers · asked by Miss Fit!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO! She was there, so was he-he. It's not just about looks, but availability. Sorry honey, us guys do mostly think with what's in our trousers. Always have, always will. Any man who says different is either in love, hen-pecked or a liar.Δ)
2007-04-11 05:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Spike J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No offense honey but if you’re chalking this down to the basic superficial comparison of body to body you really do have problems. Looks are not everything. This is coming from a woman who’s usually the attractive one so don’t misread here. All of the men I’ve ever had an interest in were what you’d consider unattractive, but after a while the physical grows on you & eventually an interesting, smart, funny, witty guy can be more attractive & appealing than a model. I think your missing the point that just because you are attractive you don’t have to try & have the whole package, a little personality or character. This other woman just might have those things. Beauty & sex fade. Which means a relationship with a person would have to be based on something with substance. I guess he decided to seek out substance. I’d say at this point he’s sticking it out with you because you’ve either got kids or the divorce would be too financially painful. Sound about right? People can be ugly & still be hot looking on the outside, be ugly in the flesh but have an Adonis for a soul. Think about it.
2007-04-11 05:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
firstly it was wrong of him to cheat, but you should be upset if the girl is beautiful to if the girl is ugly, the thing is that it still don't make it right, you are only concentrating on the fact the girl girl is ugly. remember looks are only skin deep and under the skin leaves personality, a guy can fall in love with a personality, your boyfriend just wanted someone different.through his eyes is what he sees, its not your place to call someone ugly even you are angry,every 1 is beautiful in there own way,one thing that you should be flattered by is that he couldn't find someone better than you,if he would never left you then trust and go on that,it was your boyfriends fault and you either talk and work things out or give up. your choice
hope you make the right one
2007-04-11 01:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by LiL_mZ_Sa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men cheat on their partners because they feel that they are in their shadow. Very beautiful women are betrayed and the 'other woman' isn't attractive at all. It is very likely that you make him feel threatened in some way, if you are attractive, funny, clever etc then it could just be that he can't be proud and show you off, he actually feels that he isn't good enough for you. This isn't by any means an excuse but cheating is often about power struggles, insecurities not always about sex. If it was purely sex then she may have to be beautiful. I would put it down to his inadequacies as a man and you are better off without him. Neither of you can give him what he needs - he has issues which will probably end up biting him on the ****!
2007-04-11 00:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Second, it wasn't her looks that made him cheat, but the way she makes him feel, which is something you aren't able to do. Apparently, she was able to give him something you can't--his self-esteem. You think that you should be more upset if she were pretty, but I say you should be more upset by the fact that, even though she is ugly (according to you) she was still able to tear him away from you. Just goes to show, beauty isn't everything, and it doesn't count for much if a man is unhappy with a beautiful woman.
2007-04-14 18:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often attitude is more important than appearance.
Do you suppose that maybe she was grateful for the attention where you are probably more more inclined to act like you are doing him a favor.
It is clear from the tenor of question that you will never really understand the mentality of us " ugly" people. I can tell you that we find your attitude distasteful and shallow.
2007-04-11 01:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would add that beauty comes from within. Sadly, from bitter experience, I find it more common that beautiful women that know they are PHYSICALLY beautiful, can miss the real point and focus only on their appearance and not character. Perhaps you should take a long hard and honest look at yourself and consider what is truly appealing about you, other than your looks.
2007-04-11 00:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by gloopoo 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother use to say ''why drive a Volkswagen, when you have a Mercedes at home''? I don't know. My husband did the same thing. I was so shocked, until I wasn't hurt, I just picked at him allot. Now he get mad if I pick about it and he'll say '' I didn't want her''. So then why would you mess with it if you're shamed by it now? I don't know why they down grade, instead of upgrade.
2007-04-14 15:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what does that tell you? he thought nothing of you if he took the first ugly fanny that was willing to give him it, he's a losser you should move on and forget about him he has no respect for you tell him to have his ugly bird see who will be feeling like **** then
2007-04-11 01:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraifd that he was a shallow and unpleasant character. He probably did it just because he was bored of your body and wanted to experience a different body. Unfortunately he didn't take your feelings into account. You will have to move on and find someone who cares for you more than themselves.
2007-04-11 01:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋