my boyfriends mother died a few months ago and his 6 year old brother is having a hard time lately, he told me last night he cries alot on his own and dosent know why (he never cried in public over his mam) does anyone know what i could say to ease him?
2007-04-11 00:02:15 · 12 answers · asked by butterflykisses.ie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a really hard subject to try to ease someone on. My fiance's dad died and when he gets down just listening to him tell stories about the good times they had and letting him cry on my shoulder makes him feel better. Nothing will ever cure the pain, Everyone has their own way of grieving for a lost one. Losing a parent is not easy and probably a lot harder for a 6 year old. I would try to see if you could some how get him involved with a counselor or maybe even devote as much time as you can to listening to him and comforting him as best as you can. It isn't easy to see people go through tough times but letting them know they have someone to lean on tends to make things a little easier on them. Unfortunately there isn't much you can say to him, except that his mother will always be there for him although she cant talk back to him, show him how to pray to her at night which could be a good way to keep him connected to her at a young age. Good Luck and I am so sorry to hear about the loss.
2007-04-11 00:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by cbella06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother at an early age, 9. I can relate to the little brother's pain. Just tell both of them that if there is anything you could do to comfort them that you are available. Your boyfriend may be going through some personal trials he had with his mother--his emotions will be all over the place. Time does heal, though. I know that may seem untrue today, but just be there for them both. You don't have to really say anything except to comfort them with a smile or a hug. You deserve a star for this question. You all deserve hugs..
2007-04-11 07:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not put your arm around his shoulder and tell him it's alright to cry? The boy has a tremendous amount of loss and grief, and he's reaching out to you for whatever reason for some comfort. Just give him a hug and offer to listen to whatever he has to say. Let him do most of the talking, and be sympathetic and supportive, and just say that his feelings are absolutely normal, and perfectly okay to have. If he confides in you that he doesn't seem to be feeling better, or finding a way to heal, then I would go to your boyfriend or the father and suggest that they give the child some extra attention.
It's also possible that counselling is needed. Overall, the kid probably just needs someone to talk to.
2007-04-11 07:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Orrianne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a very diffacult time for everyone you have my simpathy and condolence`s for the boyfriend i would say give him all the love and support you can he needs it as well as time talk when you can leave it alone when he doesnt want to talk he has to figure it out for him self it wiil take time but it will come for him after he has delt with the loss as for the 6yr old hold him love him talk to him as much as possible maybe seek advise of a pro if you are overly concerend about him i suggest you local curches or family counseling center good luck this is a hard time for all concerened
2007-04-11 07:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by onemoharleyfreak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to include him with you and your bf whenever you can. Take him to the park, play games, go get ice cream, etc. Your being with him will help occupy his mind until he can get over a little of the hurt. He needs to know that he is still loved by others. It's a horrible thing for a child to go through. Just love him. Good luck and how nice to know you care.
2007-04-11 07:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no words that can ease his pain. All you can do is be there for him. Let him talk about his pain if that helps. Tell him you are t here for him whenever he needs someone to talk to. As for his six year old brother he is still grieving and the best thing maybe for him to get some counceling to deal with his grief. A trained therapist can help them both deal with their mother's death. All youcan do is be there to listen and help him when he needs it.
2007-04-11 07:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you're talking about your boyfriend, you should just be there for him, be extra caring and sensitive. Be willing to talk to him if thats what he needs. But don't smother him either, give him space to settle his feelings.
As for his brother, I guess all you can do is be as nice as you can.
I wish you the best, and my condolences to your boyfriend's family.
2007-04-11 08:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him everything will be o.k, u have probabley tried that but its worth another shot. Nothing u can say will bring his mum back, but nice words and comfort will help him get through those tough times. I say spend alot of time with him and try to take his mind of his mum.
Hope everything goes o.k.
2007-04-11 07:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is so sad..you want to talk to your boyfriend or his brother?? His little brother should see a professional to help him and he should be able to spend time with a female relative like an aunt or gramma...he needs that loving care that a mom can give
they absolutely should have family counseling..this is too big for them to carry themselves...way to big...god bless them
2007-04-11 07:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by enchanted mermaid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cant really say or doing anything you just have to be there and make sure the brother knows that your bf is not going to leave him and that he loves him he needs to know just because his mum has gone doesnt mean that he hasent got loved once to look after him and love him.......hope i have helped if u need any more advice ask me
2007-04-11 07:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋