My best friend went on holiday and asked me to check on her kids 23 and 15 years old while she was away. The 15 year old went to stay at his gran's so I went round a couple of times to take the older one to the supermarket, check that he wasn't having wild parties, took some food round as he can't cook etc. One day I went round he was sitting indoors when it was lovely outside saying that he didn't have any money so I stayed and watched a film with him.
A few days later he started sending text messages saying how much he enjoyed my company, that he wanted to spend more time with me, that he hopes I don't paint him a bad light to his mum, that he trusts me and he hopes I can trust him, that he wants me to cook more for him… you get the idea.
I have not replied. His mum is back any day now. She is really protective of her sons and I'm scared if I tell her she'll think I did something to entice him. He's 22, I'm 31. I could never and wou
2007-04-10 22:50:55 · 11 answers · asked by Mesh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just think about it for a second: biting your own nail off your finger...hurts hein? now that is how the mother is going to feel if you ever ever do something about his apparent crush... give him a stern telling and warn him that you would tell his mother if he carries on... tell him you are not that kind of a woman, threaten him in anyways that could really scare him so he knows you have no doubt about not wanting to be with him!
2007-04-10 23:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Hitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look! U did ur responsibility well and u did nothing wrong. 2ndly, ur friend's son is still young and imature to have actually thought abt what he had msged u and really felt. I mean, I know there are some guys who's interested in a woman who is much older but sometimes its just infatuation or bcoz they feel comfortable with someone older that take care of them (but who is not their family members). They tend to feel more secure and free in front of the person, thus it might develop into a certain kind of feelings. Whatever it is, do not be involve with ur friend's child. Pls don't. Lots of unpleasantness will arise if u take the 1st step! For the time being, u could just keep the msg to urself and not tell ur friend, till her son keep msging again...Good luck
2007-04-11 06:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well nothing wrong in dat u r a young woman and he is a young man and dats very natural,age is just a number and should not come in between the bonding however it sometimes become the only stumbling block.
I advise if u wud like to indulge then there is no looking back if not u r just doing the right thing by not replying.
The choice has to be made and u r the best judge of the situation!.
Cheers!!!
2007-04-11 06:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by sociallshy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a face-to-face conversation with the young man. Discuss the problems and fears that you feel are important to you. Ask him what his intentions are. Both of you are considered adults. What happens between both of you would be consensual. I wouldn't worry too much about the opinions of the mother because she has to realize that her older son has a right to make a determination about his own lifestyle. Again, he's an adult male. He's going to be expected to do adult male things! I would talk with the guy. Clear the air NOW so there wouldn't be any misunderstandings about how you feel--or him for you. Go from there...
2007-04-11 05:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything to his mum, but I would definitely discourage him. Tell him something like "that's sweet, but you need to find someone your own age to spend time with" Call him son or kiddo when you talk to him or something like that to emphasize to him that you think of him as a kid and not as a potential mate. That's all I can think of right now.
(There is nothing wrong with dating a 22 or 23 year old, but since he's your friend's son, I agree with you that he's off limits).
2007-04-11 06:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steer clear of this boy. You will eventually get into plenty of trouble. He has a crush on you. Be nice, but very distant. You will lose your friend if you don't.
Remember that you are the one with the experience in life. He probably doesn't even know how he will feel a year from now!!
2007-04-11 06:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Really Slow But Sincere At Last,
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dear ask him if he is a taurus what does he think of this greeting and reflect in your answer
2007-04-11 06:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell her anything. It's an infatuation, you're probably touched and flattered, but it's healthier to let it pass. You'll soon gain perspecive and know that it was best to act mature for the sake of your friend, her son and yourself. Don't get carried away and regret it later.
2007-04-11 06:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Amelie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your best friend don't tell her but tell him not to think that way about you because you love them all too much to ever cause any problems but tell him also that you are flattered but it cant happen--end of story-and that if he brings it up agoin your going to kick his *** and tell his mom
2007-04-11 06:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well----you didn't do anything wrong-are you married? because 9 years is not too much of an age difference.
2007-04-11 05:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋