First, thanks for taking the time to read this. It's long, but this is driving me nuts!
I'm a guy who's totally crazy about my best friend (a girl), and have been for awhile. We first met in 11th grade, dated soon after meeting, broke up 3 months later, but became best friends in 12th grade. Since then (almost 8 years), we've NEVER been single at the same time.
She set me up with my fiance, but found out she had cheated on me several times, and told me this before I made the mistake of getting married into a complete lie (so she's my ex-fiance now).
Basically, she is the girl who has looked out for me through thick and thin, and stood behind me through everything I've done, and I trust her more than any other woman I know. I love her so very much, and she makes me incredibly happy when I'm around her.
But she has a boyfriend, and they're a great couple, and I love her too much to mess that up. But I'll go crazy if I don't tell her how I truly feel.
What do I do?
2007-04-10 22:15:49 · 8 answers · asked by fieroturbo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would recommend telling her what this really smart, sweet guy said -
"Basically, she is the girl who has looked out for me through thick and thin, and stood behind me through everything I've done, and I trust her more than any other woman I know. I love her so very much, and she makes me incredibly happy when I'm around her."
I think it might just make her day and be less pressure than I really want to get with you since it can be taken as either as something a good friend, or a potential lover would say. Frankly, I can see wanting to be with a guy that would say that to me.
Goodluck, HTH and she's a lucky gal.
2007-04-10 22:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds of it, she loves you too. Just talk to her, I mean she is your best friend. If she feels the same way, then you wouldn't be messing up her life. If she doesn't, then as a friend she will tell you that and as long as you are respectable you won't loose your friendship. You don't want to look back in the future and wonder what could of happened if you only told her how you felt. Some of the best relationships started as best friends. I have been with my husband for 17 years and we are still each others best friends. We don't even like hanging out with other people that much. He and I are one of a kind and I could not imagine what my life would be like if he was not part of it. I cannot even fathom that. This girl is obviously worth the risk, TELL HER.
2007-04-10 22:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by lily_florance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I wouldn't mess up a good thing (her and her boyfriend) imagine if you were in his situation. Let her know when things have ended with him, if they don't then you 2 were never meant to be together. I think your just a little on the down side, would you rather lose her as a friend, or date her then maybe have to end it and never see her again. Trust me wait it out..
All the best.
2007-04-10 22:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by tanitious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there,
Mate, to be honest, i think you really like this girl, and that you too are very close.
consider the fact that she is trying to make something work, you'll have to respect that, reverse the situation when you were in love with you ex fiance would u have liked her to tell you about feelings??
so unitl she's single be there for her as she has been for you thats firendship.
remember all things chang in time, nothings to say you'll feel this way forever.
cheers
J.T.
2007-04-11 00:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by J.T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, can i just say WOW, your situation sounds like something out of a drama serial...
Ok, I don't think you should tell her especially if she and her bf and really happy and blissful together. It would just cause a lot of heartaches, both on your side and hers. Think about it this way, if you really love her, you would want her to be happy. You wouldn't want to see her stressed out and upset about having to choose between the two of you... You wouldn't want to see her upset because now the friendship that you two have is lost forever... I really advise you against telling her unless there's someway you know FOR SURE that she and her bf and not happy. You have to be sure first, if not you'd be the one who causes the uphappiness and the breakup.
If you lost a moment, you could lose a lot... but make sure the moment is right, and don't just think about yourself, think about everyone who would be affected by this.
2007-04-10 22:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by flames_to_dust 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry Sweetie - go crazy.
If you tell her, there will always be something between the two of you. And if she doesn't want you, her boyfriend will find out and ... just don't go there.
There's a time to suffer in silence. This is it.
Wait your chance. If her relationship doesn't work out, then go for it.
2007-04-10 22:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a note telling her how you feel. Tell her that if it is too late for the two of you, you will understand, but you needed her to know how you feel.
2007-04-10 22:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously love this girl
I think you should tell her because if you don't you will go through the rest of your life wishing you had
Life is so short and if we don't express our inner feelings the moment just passes us by.
2007-04-10 23:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by ambidextrous25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋