How can I change this about myself.?

Question

I'm sort of a shy girl. Don't get me wrong, I am friendly.. but only when I feel comfortable and confident.

I've heard from a lot of people that I know said that before they knew me, the perceived me as "mean" or even "a b*tch". I guess maybe it's because I don't smile too much if I'm alone.. I don't know why.

And I think guys feel intimidated by the fact that I seem UNFRIENDLY.

How do I fix that?

Answer 1

Smile! Smile! Smile! Not to over simplify it, but make a conscious effort to always have a smile on your face. Practice!

Answer 2

try to smile more even if it is not a Julia Roberts smile-all big! have a positive attitude, wear something colorful if you wear dull colors and also be friendly!the only reason people think you are a biatch is because you are shy and maybe keep a lot to yourself and it shows when you are worried or did not so good on that test and it shows thru your personality. be more laid back,and do not be so entimidated...make small talk with classmates and show them that you are not so bad after all and that looks are deceiving.and as for the fact that you are intimidated to what some morons have said is sad.have more self esteem and do not let the small things get to you!laugh more, smile more, have a positive attitude and outlook on life,be more friendly, make conversations!

Answer 3

People will tend to notice you when you appear friendly so now I give the best way no practice needed. Each time you are going to meet someone buy a nice set of comic book funny ones you know the ones that set you laughing till you hit the floor. So while waiting and as you flip thru you will already be blushing giggling your way thru till he appears. WHen a woman flirts they always tend to giggle alot so if you have start up problem then tis is your solution

Answer 4

Smile. Smile, smile, smile. There is nothing more beautiful, friendly, and inviting than seeing a girl with a gorgeous grin on her face. Also, try getting more comfortable with yourself. If you are comfortable in your own skin, you can be confdent in any situation. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

let they think what they wanna think..but to live a better live..
maybe you should just have faith in yourself..you won't lose a thing if you smile and be friendly..in fact you'll get a lot of friends after that..but just remember this..be friendly to those who good intentions but DON'T be CHEAP..trust me..because I've had this sort of experience before..you won't regret a bit..

Answer 6

You have nothing to fix! Do not try to be what others want you to be! Just be your self!

Keep your integrity, cultivate your virtue, your code of ethics are your weapons, morality your guide arm and responsibility, your way of life.

Non are for sale, non are to be compromised!

The world will hate you, because few if any of these can be found among them, but your few friends will be true and your relationships will be sealed in heaven!

The word hates Jesus Christ, all he did was ask everyone to love each other! Why do you feel that will be nicer to you?

Answer 7

Experienced the exact same situation.

I got over my shyness through work. I have to talk with a lot of people including guys, so I've learned that they want to be your friend first.

Maybe join a group or find a job where you have to converse with others.

Answer 8

You shouldn't have to change yourself to please others. Those who are quick to judge usually are not people you would want as friends. On the surface they seem to be but once you get to know them you'll see how they judge others also. Like you said maybe it's because you don't smile. So smile more often.

Answer 9

I know I'm not answering your question, but I have the exact same problem. I don't smile so I either look mad or unhappy. I just asked the same question on here too. I hope you find something to help!

Answer 10

Be more freindly. Smile more and make eye contact. and to be shy, just throw yourself out there.