A real good friend of mine (little over a year) doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. When i ask him what's wrong, he completely ignores me. I can't even reconcile with him. I have absolutely no idea why he's acting like this.
The thing is, my friend has an image problem and he thinks he's obese, but he's not even fat. It's not just that. He feels pretty worthless, but honestly, he's a really intelligent person. I think this has something to do with it, somehow. Sometimes, i think it's my fault; something i did. But i've done nothing wrong.
Could anyone please give me some advice? I don't make many good friends and he is the one best friend i've met who i talk to everyday and share the same interests with. It's been eating away at me.
2007-04-10 18:37:52 · 9 answers · asked by Palliewallie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to him... Show he is not obese....... Show him what obese actually is... Prove to him that he is intelligent... Bring hope in him... Dont lose patience..... probably thats goin to help......... good luck
2007-04-10 18:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chetan S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes more than a year to make a best friend, dear. Best friends are people that go through years with you, ups and downs of the past, that makes a vintage best friendship. Why does this friend feel worthless, other than what you say is not a weight problem what is it. See, a long time, best friend would know the past and be able to put at least some type of label on what is going on. You don't have a clue, so you say, and you do not feel that you have done anything to deserve this treatment from your best friend, then, you know what, it is his lost, move on, at the rate you are going, in another year from now you will have another best friend. Also be careful who you consider a friend, more than less a best friend. God Bless.
2007-04-17 21:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear that's sad. I can tell you do really like & respect this person. Maybe someone said you said something about him or he got the wrong end of the stick about convesation you were having. Dont let it go too far. Buy a card & write how you feel & say if i have done something pls at least reply! put me out my misery cos i am so very fond of you as a human being. good luck
2007-04-15 08:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by sarahmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is apparent that this friend/friendship means a great deal to you so don*t give up. Your friend may be going thru an extremely hard time right now, and not ready to open up and share. Try calling and leaving messages...thinking about you.call me. Send a friendship card...write a brief note telling how much your friendship means, and how you miss him,,MAKE SURE TO TELL HIM HIS GOOD QUALITIES THAT YOU LIKE ABOUT HIM,,,,, and pray for guidance..the words to say to reach him,,,,,state that you aren*t aware of any wrongdoing on your part but if you in some way offended him that you*d like to make amends. He*ll either speak to you to clear this up or tell you to leave him alone.
2007-04-14 18:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by lonely needing friends 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships sometimes have periods where they become estranged. However; true friendship means open dialog with candor.
If this is a important person in your life; don't brush them off as was indicated by one of your responder. Perhaps there is something of a challenge in their life; and their behavior has nothing to do with you at all. Find out as a concern person; and never as a figure pointing, or judgmentally.
2007-04-10 18:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CODA Codependents Anonymous
find a group near you.
You feel somewhat responsible and have unwarranted guilt.
People do move on for reasons only known to themselves. Accept this and make new friends in social and volunteering groups.
If he;s doing this to make a point, he;s very passive agressive and you want no part of him or her. Move on!
2007-04-10 18:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my advice would be. try talking to him whta his problem is. ask him if he has a problem with u or something else. if he still doesnot talk try sending him cards which stand for friendship. try talking him into how intelligent he isa and how important his friendship is to u.
2007-04-10 18:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by princessriddhi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave the guy alone. he clearly gave u the message he doesn't want to be disturved by u. what else do u want him to do - knock u on the head?
2007-04-10 18:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with jacqueli u should leave him alone if he wants to talk to u he will talk,dont be too pushy.
2007-04-18 15:04:00 · answer #9 · answered by kabona hoekene motha lova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋