He is 21 yrs old and met a girl and fell for her head over heels. He moved into an apartment 24 miles away. Its the 1st time we have been seperated since he was born. I looked out the kitchen window as he moved his last belongings and cried my fool head off. He is going to enroll in college next month, so I plan to pay his tuition and books. He gave me his address and told me to come up today, but I didnt because I feel like I need to get used to him being gone.
This is very emotional for me. Am I the only person who feels this way? Is something wrong with me?
2007-04-10 18:37:07 · 20 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course you're normal. Don't worry about it. You will still see him I'm sure. He needs to get out on his own and test the waters for himself. Good Luck!
2007-04-10 18:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by Vacationer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried if you didn't cry! Its OK! You raised a great kid from the sounds of it! Now give him a chance to show you you what he can do. This is not the end, it is a new page in your mommy book! Don't ever get use to him being gone, he is making his own way in life, thanks to you!! One day you will look back on this moment an laugh. As you remember that boy who drove away , think about the baby he held in your arms and see the man you know he is going to be. Share ever minute with him you can. Go see his new place, take him a house warming gift, let him know you are OK!
2007-04-10 19:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by tami3406 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats, you are now free. This just means that you prepared him pretty well for the world. And, besides it is only 24 miles away. You should be glad that you have such a good relationship with your son that fact alone makes me respect your tears alot more. You are not the only one to feel separation anxiety, I have it with really good friends that get jobs over seas, etc. When they come to visit though, it is almost always more fun than if they were there everyday.
Fear not
2007-04-10 18:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Heero Yui 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong with you. I'm sure I will be the same way when my turn comes.Go see him then you won't miss him so much, if you stay away too long he may think you are mad at him, & get his feelings hurt & the longer you wait the harder it will be to go see him.Just be nice & take them a house warming gift if you know what they need, if not go for a visit to get a good idea of what they need.
2007-04-10 18:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes! You are fine! My mom cried when my big brother moved out then when I did too. But its not as if you will ever see him again. You did your job as a parent! Your son is out on his own! Good job! Now its your turn to enjoy this next phase in his life and YOURS too. You get to still be Mom, but he does his own laundry, cleaning, cooking...you get to sit back and enjoy his company. I got along SO much better with my parents as soon as I moved out. I appreciate them so much more now.
2007-04-10 18:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by kim_faut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So very normal that they have a name for it.
'Empty Nest Syndrome"
My daughter was older 28yrs when she met the man of her dreams.
I cried for over 9 months.
Now my wonderful son-in- law is a good friend, he delights that my magnificent grand-daughter and I get on so VERY, VERY VERY, well. He told me he prefers (SH don't tell ) me baby-sitting to his Mum because OUR liitle one loves being in my company.
I hope you are that lucky. Cultivate the young lady remember you taught him HOW to choose and she is HIS choice.
With time you may know the JOY, WONDER, FANTASTICNOUS, etc of an EXTENDED family and have an even bigger nest. Oh get an air-line bag for nighties etc for those over-night stays you'll VOLUNTEER for in your extra nest.
2007-04-10 18:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by teacher groovyGRANNY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. It's normal. He's your son! There will many more anxieties. It will take time to get used to him gone and coming to terms with the fact that he has grown up. It will be OK. He'll visit!
2007-04-10 18:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by patricklyle77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are being truthful, its hard to tell around here.
My mom feels the same way, don't worry. Minus the paying tuition and girlfriend thing.
2007-04-10 18:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not the only one...my mom cried he head off when my sister left for colege and she still cries everytime my sister comes home for the break and leaves...it is totally normal
2007-04-10 18:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Girl in search of an answer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes yes yes
the first day of anything...moms cry
I totally am with you .. when my son went to university.. I cried the first week of orientation.... cause I wasn't there..his first day of school..... he called me ..or I called him everyday... but I was heart broken to not be there doing my MOM THING...
but remember.. you want him to be independant... you want him to grow and be a man( even if he is mommy boy) call him alot.. invite him and his friends over for dinner so you can get the scoop on his life...
we all want our kids to be able to go on with out us... let him... boys are never very far away from their moms anyway
we want to be raising STRONG MEN.. if you havent done it by now... it is too late
2007-04-10 18:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋