Vow Of Silence...?

Question

How long can you take them for? How do you make one? Is there rules and such?

I talk to much and I think being quiet for a while would be good for me, my friends, and possibly my school work. I think that if i stop talking for a lil bit, then maybe I can become a better person and possibly a better student/band member?

Can you give me advice about Vows of Silence, please?

Answer 1

Go away by yourself for a weekend, have no people contact.
Vows of silence are hard and take great focus and determination.

Answer 2

Some vows of silence are taken for only a day. The principle is only to speak words of extreme importance, or words from scripture for example.

Another vow of silence is taken for an extended period of penance, from one to seven years. These are often taken in a monastery.

In principle a vow of silence is a sacrifice, where you sacrifice the words of your mouth, and offer them up to be consumed, so that you can regain the power of speech.

If you feel a true need or call to make a vow of silence, you must go to a place that is sacred to you, it could be a mountain top or the middle of the woods or someplace that takes a long time to walk to. Then establish from within your heart the proper time frame, and ask what number of days is right for you, and immediately an amount of time will come to mind. It will most likely be based on a certain cycle in your life. For that amount of time you should be silent.

It is not a ridiculous thing- don't make it impossible or silly by saying you will not speak at all. Instead, make it clear in your head what is the correction and change you would like to make in your speech, and speak only those things of importance.

Good luck.

Answer 3

There are two main aspects. One is as a discipline, learning how to control a common action. The other is as a mindfulness/awareness practice. Intentionally practicing silence is a way of quieting and settling the mind. You're less likely to be jumping about and reacting internally when you can't speak with others for a few days. Like all forms of meditation, the effects are stronger when done in a group.

Answer 4

Wow that is great for you to reconize this about yourself. It can be so hard to keep quiet while listening to a person talk. Then we should not interupt lol man that is hard. It really just takes practice. Becoming a better listener takes practice. Start now. Practice listening when someone speaks.

Answer 5

Don't think of it as a vow of silence, think of it as your going to stop and listen to what the other person is saying. Being a good listener means more sometimes that what you have to say.

Answer 6

I don't think it is silence you're looking for, its lack of interruptions.

Do you know hand signaling? Well learn it.

What you learn, besides the new way to talk, is that there is a tempo to a discussion, and it is easy to disrupt the flow by turning your back. Think about it and see if that helps.

Answer 7

Well, unless you take it for a religious reason (part of a convent or something) which you don't seem to be...

It's pretty much up to you. The problem lies in sticking to whatever time you set for it. So, you should probably make it for as long as you think you can hold out, and also for as long as you think will help you in improving yourself :)

Answer 8

Maybe start out with small steps like no gossiping.... move on from there. You don't want to try to do too much too fast or you are just setting yourself up for failure.

Answer 9

Just let people know ahead of time, saves a lot of trouble writing notes.

Answer 10

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and the report is due tomorrow D=