2007-04-10 15:05:59 · 27 answers · asked by samywoo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The boyfrienf control her! she is 18th years old.
She doesn't like to have any chore around our home, she has very good grades but she doesn't want to go university, she doesn't want to work, she wants to study something fast. We support her with everything she wants. Now we took her car and money away.
2007-04-10 17:58:23 · update #1
well...how old is she?? As long as she's 18, all you can do is trust that she is old enough to make strong decisions. She wants to move out, so let her experience life and learn. She'll take on more responsiblities.
2007-04-10 15:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on age, maturity, relationship goals and who they actually are. If they both just graduated from college and they're engaged, or planning on getting married, then it shouldn't be a big deal. If she's 18 and he's 35, then that's something to worry about. Also look at the quality of a man he is. If this is a man who you would want your daughter to date, and the only problem is that they're living together, don't give it much second thought. If he's a jerk, that's a different story.
2007-04-10 15:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by uscplaywright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is over 18 there is really nothing you can do about it...kids need to learn on there on and if you taught her right then be happy she will make good decisions.... if you keep preaching at her about it then she will pull away from you and not confide in you when she has a problem if you want to stay close then let her know how you feel but also tell her you realize she is an adult and she can make her own decisions but your just looking out for her best interest....dont judge her and assume things treat her as an adult and she will make adult decisions
2007-04-10 15:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by *brandee* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt start living with my boyfriend until my 3rd year in college, my mom HATED it.. but i was old enough to make that decision.. If she is over 18 then your gonna have to trust her.. wouldnt you rather her be honest with you about it then lie and sneek around your back? Parents have to be open minded about it now a days ( only if she is over 18 ). Its probably hard for you to except because in your eyes that will always be your little baby.. but we all grow up and we all want to experience new things.. this is probably a big step for both of you.. I would say instead of being mad and aruging about it make the best of it!!! Go over there and hang out with her when he isnt home, and help her clean the house up, and even help buy things for her house ( nothing huge at all ) just little stuff ya'll can do together just so both of you can adjust to the idea of it! When my mom finally came over to our house my boyfriend went all out, cooked her dinner and we all had a good timeshe doesnt mind it too much now.. but it did take some getting use to!
2007-04-10 15:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Fashion Diva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If shes of age, then unfortunately there isnt much you can do. But if you raised her right and she has values, then she'll make good decisions. No mother is going to like all her daughters boyfriends, thats for sure. If you stay angry at her or keep on her back, you'll just push her away.
2007-04-10 15:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is over 18 and legal to make her own choices no matter how much you dislike it you will need to support her decision or you will alienate her from you. You dont have to like it but shes an adult and can and will make her own choices.
2007-04-10 16:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Blueyedshewolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old she is? But if my adult daughter does there is nothing I can say cause I tried to teach all I could. I will just be there when she needs me. It is not my position to run her life and make her mistakes it is hers. Just be there for the fall.
2007-04-10 15:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by littledueceb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she were my daughter, I wouldn't agree with it either. I would love and accept both of them, though. Being judgmental and critical will hurt your relationship with her, perhaps forever. She knows you disapprove, but she has a right to make her own choices.
2007-04-10 15:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to feel that way. It's the parents that don't care that I worry about. When I was growing up, Kid living together was almost unheard of. Our standards are different than kids today. I don't like to pass judgment, but I still don't like it .And they don't see any harm in it. I guess we are Just old fashion.
But I just don't like it.
2007-04-10 15:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jackolantern 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your just going to have to deal with it. since she is 18 she is not a kid anymore. maybe she will realize what a mistake she made and go live with u again, but if u keep pushing her away when she really might need you... she wont come to you.
2007-04-10 20:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Crys[tal]♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋