Should married people play RPG's that involve a deeper online relationship with someone other than their spouse?
Should a complaining spouse be Worried or are they Insecure?
Does a RPG relationship with someone who isn't your spouse warrant a Divorce?
2007-04-10 14:24:03 · 9 answers · asked by Esencia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
RPG = ROLE PLAYING GAME
2007-04-10 14:44:42 · update #1
Ok, I play RPG's extensively so I know alot about this. Plus, I'm married.
So given that, it depends. Has he always played RPGs or is this a new fad? How many people are playing this RPG? Is he part of a group of people who play regularly or is this an online video game where it is just him choosing to interact with people one-on-one, etc. Is this online relationship within the confines of the story the RPG is based upon, or is it something totally unrelated? Is the relationship confined to the gaming sessions or is it something that is carrying out into everyday life as well?
These are all VERY important questions. If it is just centered around the game and confined to the gaming sessions, then this is probably just harmless roleplay and acceptable. However, if the two involved carry the roleplay outside the game then this is something you should talk to your spouse about. At the very least, even if they are just having fun, they should understand how it makes you feel. By the way, taking it outside the game doesn't include some e-mails that may be planning out actions they want to take within the game, but rather continued roleplay.
This can be very confusing, especially for someone who doesn't know about RPGs or isn't at all interested in them. If you want to talk about it more, please feel free to e-mail me or IM!!
Chemtutor101
2007-04-10 14:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you are most likely over reacting to the situation. The chances of him developing any type of real relationship with a woman playing an RPG are slim and none. The typical problem with an RPG player is their failure to maintain normal every day activities. You can always play with him. I know a lot of couples that do.
2007-04-10 15:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do They assume that there's something inherently sinister about RPGs?? It's ok to be a hockey widow....
First Rule: Your spouse does not quit being a human when you marry. Each of you will have a life outside of the we-ness- work friends, hobby friends, old friends, whatever. IE I would not choose his work friends (like you get much choice at work) and I'm sure he would be politely indifferent to my knitting buddies.
Second Rule: this seperate life keeps us interesting.
Now if this game really does get in the way of life, or he gets secretive, then yes, you've got a problem. Caveat- if you make such a fuss about it that he has to go underground to play at all, then you have more problems to deal with.
Have you talked to him about this? Say things like when you play so much, I feel (threatened ignored whatever) and hash this out.
Why don't you broach the idea of you playing, too? If this isn't a thing I don't want to share, you might have fun! Personally I prefer dice/paper or LARPing to computer RPG, but I know plenty of she-gamers of all stripes.
2007-04-10 14:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by heathrydge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am clueless as to what RPG's are but any deep relationship online or otherwise warrants sufficient reasons for divorce. The internet is not a game and shouldn't be used to have relationships that could damage a marriage. And anyone who considers something done online is "deep" has serious inter-personal relationship handicaps.
2007-04-10 14:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what RPG's are, but if they cause you to bring up all these issues....................... well!
Seeking advise for these types of questions can be tricky, because what works for me may not work for you. My brother and his wife are "swingers" and they will tell you it's good for your relationship. Where as me and my girl would tell you to seek counseling because something is totally wrong.
I suggest you find what works for you and draw the line.
2007-04-10 14:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that would depend on what that "deeper on line relationship" is.
A fantasy game involving dragons and warriors and such is just fun. But if it's getting into sexual fantasies, then "YOU" are the one who should be playing with him.
2007-04-10 14:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by Buckwheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me naive, but I have no idea what a RPG is...
2007-04-10 14:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not cheating and you need to tell him you dislike the rpg or person he is rpging with etc... world of warcraft, eh?
2007-04-10 14:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is RPG and how does it work
2007-04-10 14:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋