When I wake up in the morning, I tell myself I have to get a life but when I think about it again the day is over and I'm headed to bed. I am 40 years old. When do us mother's get me time?
2007-04-10 14:13:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not married and have no kids..and I too am lonely. Loneliness effects us all. Not just mothers who are not satisfied with what they are doing now...but married and single men and women too...If you would care to chat sometime I wouldn't mind. I love to meet new people on here.
I hope i could help you.
2007-04-10 14:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a married stay at home mother of two little girls. And yes I feel lonely all the time. I know that my girls are my reason for living, and I love my husband dearly, but sometimes, I just can't stand it. The only people that I talk to anymore are my kids, my husband, and my mother. We have been living in this town for three years and I have yet to meet anyone. All my "friends" from school and my home town, don't ever keep in touch. It gets me so down sometimes I don't want to get out of bed. As for the me time, let me know. I try to remember that there will be a day when my children won't want anything to do with me, so I am enjoying all they give me now. I have a one year old and a three year old that stay stuck to me like Velcro. Maybe you could have your husband take the kids one day of the week so you can have some free time to do whatever you want.
2007-04-10 16:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lulu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mothers have to make time. Sounds like you've lost your purpose or direction. If you are lonely, take a look at your marriage. We treat others how to treat us. Are you connecting with him? Are you involved with each other? Do you have a common goal? We should all be bounding out of bed in the morning happy to be alive! Take a look at your marriage, your job, how you spend your time. Only you can change it. Have the balls to make the changes that will make you a happier person inside, within your marriage and with your kids. Just look around you. Do you surround yourself with the things that you love? Are you passionate about anything? One thing that works for me and my husband is to take a weekend "planning" trip. We get away from everything and talk about our lives. What we'd like to keep, change, make better etc. I promise you life is much better when you're both on the same page and are looking forward to the same thing. How will you know when you get there if you don't know where you're going? This is your life, don't let it pass you by being lonely and miserable about it. Do what you love, every freakin day! You can do it, I promise.
Good luck :)
2007-04-10 16:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really just have to decide what it is you'd like to do for an hour each day and do it. Or maybe an entire evening a week. What do you enjoy doing? If you knew you were going to leave the Earth soon, what would you regret not doing more often? It's difficult to set aside time for ourselves when we have so many other people relying and depending on us...demanding our time and attention. But like they say, you can't take care of anyone else if you don't take care of yourself first! And besides all that, you deserve it! To answer your question: Yes, I sometimes feel like that too. I'm married with kids too and when I start to feel like that, I know it's time to put myself back up on the priority list. Good luck!
2007-04-10 14:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get a reliable babysitter that you like? Can you sit down and budget some money for that babysitter? That's your me-time: when someone else can be trusted to care for your children short-term for some R&R that you line up on a regular basis. You don't say if you are married or single. If you are married, insist that you and your husband get out of the house together, even if it's just to go to someone else's house and watch a DVD in their rec room. Absolutely insist on it. If you are single, it is even more important to know that you have a night to look forward to every week where you just leave the house and go somehere to have a cup of coffee or people-watch at the mall or have a drink with a friend in a pub. That's me-time. Claim it! No one is going to give it to you.
2007-04-15 12:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand when you are having time to be lonely?ha ha A husband could be a wonderful friend and should be..and children should take most of your time up..taking into consideration you enjoy them. And you work fulltime? wow!
I would enjoy all i have and you have alot.Im sure you have coworkers and their company also. this is alot on your plate are you sure you dont just need to spice it all up a bit? You,your husband and kids should get away for the weekend..caming while the weather is still nice..there arwe so many things a couple can do with children..Im shocked that your lonely..Ill pray for you!
2007-04-16 00:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The me time comes after the kids are out of the house. You chose to have a full life - work, kids and hubby. The only way to get a little more time for you is to dole out tasks - like one child takes out the garbage, Dad mows the laws, etc. Or hire someone to do the extra chores and soak in a tub.
2007-04-10 14:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to be a mother. It sounds like you are doing a good job, but you have to think about yourself also. I mean you have to take care of your priorities, but you also have to think about your happiness. You should take a little more time for yourself. It is okay to get a babysitter sometimes and go out. You are still young and you can still find someone who will take away some of that loneliness. You can have kids and still have a life of your own.
2007-04-15 12:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
*wry smile*. I am not married, I have no kids, I work full time, have lots of "me" time, but I'm lonely too. The grass might look greener, but that lonely feeling can be there at any time, in any circumstance. Do you know Jesus? The reason I ask is....I feel He's the only one who knows me inside and out and that is there for me all the time.
2007-04-10 18:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm only 27, divorced once, i have a fiancee i live with and i have three boys 7, 5, and 2. just the baby is my fiancees. i go to college full-time and work 33hrs a week. I have never had free time. I feel lonely, like no one understands me and like no one appreciates my hard work. I guess we will get me time in heaven.
2007-04-10 14:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋