do you wish you had saved it for marriage, or do you think it was a good decision to have sex before marriage?
2007-04-10 13:56:48 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is good to have sex before marriage. If not you will always wonder is this what its all about? Could there be something better out there?? What if there is?? lol I think
I agree with nicepuddings answer though about being faithful through marriage. That is why yes to sex before marriage! It is fun
2007-04-10 14:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Momof2 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do wish that I had waited, but at the time it was GREAT!! Very bad decisions often influenced by alcohol. My wife and I did wait untill we were married (with each other). I think that we both regret some of the things that we did before we met. Relationships at that stage (if it is not just a one nighter) are way to fragile to withstand the new stress of sex, in most cases. My 2 cents.
2007-04-10 14:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by rat396 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering we got married 6 yrs after we met, NO. Although true to the hypocritical creed of parents, I tell my kids that it is not HOLY.
I am so mean.
I am glad that we got in some practice, but when you live together before marriage you run the risk of becoming a wife without the benefit of benefits. I cleaned the house, cooked the food, shopped for the food, paid the bills, and then if he died his sisters (the fat cows) would have gotten all of his insurance money and anything else that a wife would have been entitled to.
2007-04-10 14:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it was a very good decision...no I don't wish I had saved it for marriage, I wasn't planning on ever getting married.
2007-04-10 14:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your beliefes, and its a personal choice. I'm 17 and im a virgin and i'm not saying that i will save it till i get married because i dont belive in that. The reason i dont is because, a husband/wife could cheat or ask for divorce for whatever reason and you lost it to them, so basically it s the same thing as to lose it to a long term boyfriend/girlfriend. It is not a 100% thing that when you get married you will be with that person forever, its a 50/50 chance. and you just have to be ready and feel like you wanna experience that with your girlfriend/boyfriend because they are special and they mean a lot to you and you know that you mean a lot to them too. Thats just how i look at it, but i mean if i dont find someone spcial righ tnow, then No i will not just have sex with random guys just so i can lose it before marrige.
2007-04-10 14:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex is a very important component of marriage even though i dont suggest it if it is against your beliefs but you need to ensure that you are compatible in bed because besides money it is the biggest argument among married couples. if having sex prior to marriafge is smrthing you are totally against sit down with your partner and talk about how you envision your sex life will be after marriage to know you are both on the same page.
2007-04-10 14:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do regret it now...Because the first time was not special. It's just i'm sooo in love right now with the guy i'm with...my fiancee..i wish i had met him earlier on in my life as well...It's something else i would've loved to share with him. BTW i'm 22. I do wish i waited for marriage...nothing good came out of doing it before not good but like extra or exciting i should say
2007-04-10 15:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wish I had saved it...
It seemed like a stellar idea when we discussed having it in the backseat of the car...
Sex is not the be all end all of life or marriage.. whether you are a virgin or not at the time of marriage doesn't matter, what matters is that you are marrying your true love and that you have been honest with him/her regarding your past..
When I married my husband he knew that I wasn't a virgin ( I already had 2 children).. I was however honest and upfront about my past everything from sexual relationships to stupid boneheaded moments... He accepted my past as the events that made me who I was, just as I accepted his past as what made him the man he was... Neither of us fell in love with delusions about the other, what you got is what you saw blemishes, scars and all...
2007-04-10 14:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had sex before marriage, but the only person that I've ever has sex with is my husband. he was my first and only. We saved, sex without a condom for marriage and that was WOW>
2007-04-10 14:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i have kids so saying that i wish i would have waited means that i wish i didnt have my kids but it would have been nice to only been with my husband only. But I think experience counts for alot becuz then i dont have to worry about him getting the fancy idea that he wants to try other women cuz hes only been with me. But in anycase I would advise anyone to wait until marriage the heart and headahce of sex without commitment is jus not worth it.
2007-04-10 14:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋