Married Women and Married Men only?

Question

What advice can you give to a 27 year old woman who is soon to get married or what advice to you wish some gave you or would give to ur self before u married if it was possible?

Please include how long you have been married.

Answer 1

just love each other with all your heart and and that u all ways talk 2 each other

Answer 2

Almost 8yrs first and only marriage:
Remember always to be honest
Remain faithful even in the rough times.
Never go out without each other your single life is over
Consider that this will be the person you are to spend your life with that means until you die!
Make sure you have no unanswered questions before you tie the knot.
Make sure you are marrying for love and not money.
Always give compliments.
Be loving and respectful
Be open to a wild sex life just the two of you though!
Ask yourself this question can you see yourself growing old and gray with this person, do you see yourself never cheating on them. These are important because marriages fail because the people get tired of each other or they end up cheating on there spouse.

If you can answer both of these with a positive feeling and no
second guessing then you are ready for marriage if not then you may just be ruining both of your lives.

Really though marriage is like a big rollercoaster ups and downs twists and turns etc. If you feel like this is the man for you then congrats and enjoy your special day and your marriage.

No one can tell you if you have made the right choice or not it is just something within that lets us know that this feels right.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

Don't set out to change him. You are marrying for who he is, not who he may be or could be, or is gonna be. There will be changes in both of you as your relationship matures, it's called compromise. The changes will be subtle and take as much time as a glacier moving. With regard to the wedding, don't worry about everything being perfect. The people will be there to see you and yours tie the knot, and no one will remember what the centerpieces looked like, whether the bridesmaids wore the right makeup, etc. And the whole "perfect wedding night" is a fantasy. You'll be so tired from talking to everyone, and dancing, and maybe drinking, that at the end of the ordeal that you will likely fall asleep before the fireworks start. Don't sweat that either, you have forever to make your memories. The biggest advice: remember that marriage is not disposable, it's one of those "death til us part" things. It will take mutual work, mutual faith, mutual integrity, and mutual respect. Please note that's a lot of mutual - because now you two will be one. Best of luck.

Answer 4

1st of all you dont need to be interested in any other women if youre married, thats just nasty and wrong!!! 2nd of all most women who are decent will yeah maybe glance at a guy whether or not hes married, if a guy looks good were gonna look no matter if he has a ring on or not, 3rd and final, if the woman is married and shes looking to score with some married man then shes nothing but trash, im sorry i have to be mean like this, but you know what the truth hurts.

Answer 5

We've been married over 17 years, and I was 28 when we got married.
Don't live separate lives - do everything together. Don't ever leave or meet each other without a kiss and an I love you.
Try figure out those man/woman differences early in your marriage - how each gender handles emotions differently, resolves conflicts, etc. That understanding will make things really easier in the long run.
Good luck!

Answer 6

I think that the best advice I have ever gotten was, when you get mad about something and want to argue, think to yourself, is what I am fighting about more important then my marriage. If not then drop it and go on. Now there have been times where I felt something was important enough to stand my ground.

I have been married for 5 years, I was married to my ex for 8.

I wish you all the luck in the world, I think marriage is a wonderful thing!

Answer 7

Honey, I've been married 18 years and I honestly wish my mother and grandmothers would have been honest with me. Marriage isn't the fairytale we envision since we were little girls. After a few years, that night in shining armour turns into the knight of the recliner. The idea of getting up each morning to make yourself as pretty as possible before he wakes up has you opting to rather chew and swallow broken glass after a few years as well. And once the children come,you had better learn to laugh... and laugh alot, because "if it ain't broken, it ain't yours" is going to be your motto until they leave the house. And that's only the bitter truth. But that's not the half of it.

When you are married, and you marry "the one", you also have someone who is there to share EVERYTHING with. You have someone to come home, someone willing to eat that burnt meatloaf with a smile on his face. You also learn tolerance and acceptance. You get that mindset that "things could always be worse". You learn to want what you have, rather than what you don't. It's far from what you'll ever envision, but it will also be the greatest thing that could have ever happened to you.

I'm still knee deep in the middle of the child rearing. We have five...and we laugh alot. We've been through hell and high water and he's been my rock and I've been his compass. And when I close my eyes, I no longer picture myself on a beautiful beach.....just the two of us, when the sun is setting. Not because I don't want to be there...it's because I now know life doesn't work that way. Nope. When I close my eyes now, I still see us together, but it's on a porch swing, we are old and wrinkled and watching our grandchildren playing house, carrying on that fairytale that started my journey.

Answer 8

30 yrs. No Kidding 30 !!
I wish someone had told me that there would be days that I did not even want to look at his face. But that goes away. I wish someone had told me that men are visual and a little honey goes a long way. I wish someone had told me that anything that the two of you do in bed is OK, as long as you both agree to do it. Someone did tell me to establish your relationship with the in-laws early and be steadfast in your convictions or they will run over you like a Chevy truck with a bald tire. Congratulations Some one did tell me to keep your business your business and not the family business. The only man that should be involved in your marriage is GOD and the only woman is you.
Have a Happy Life

Answer 9

Hmm. Most of the advice I wouldn't have listened too anyway.

Apparently the biggest causes of divorce are issues regarding money and sex, so I'll give you advice on both.

Make a budget. Adjust it if need be, and have some discretionary spending for each of you, but every month track where you are, where you're okay, where you're not. This is a priority.

Make time for both sex and intimacy. I'd suggest not trying to 'compromise'. Sex and intimacy are critical, try to completely meet each other's needs, not out of guilt, not as a reward, not because they didn't annoy you that day, but because you love each other and you treasure the connection that you share.

Answer 10

Well I've been with my husband for 8 years known him for 9 years and been married to him for 2 years we have 2 children together and I have 2 other children from previous relationship. We were friends before we moved into a relationship and I studied how he interacted with my children and he loved them instantly as did they love him. We lived together for 4 years before we got married and learned about each others habits and quirks and our love grew, my advice would be the same advice my great aunt gave me on my wedding day, Don't let anybody come between your marriage, remember your vows when times are hard, don't go to anybody about your problems in your marriage, not even family, work out arguments and disagreements before you go to bed, don't go to bed angry, and always keep yourself looking nice for your husband, your body, your hair, nails, and make up flawless, your over all appearance to keep your husband's eyes on you. And don't let your husband leave out of the house hungry, angry, or sexually deprived because what you won't do for your husband another woman will.

Answer 11

I've been married over 25 years. My best advice would be to keep each other first in your lives. Lifes events and milestones can slowly creep between you. Before you know it, you start down different paths. It's very important not to let anything come between you. Not jobs, money, homes or even kids. If you don't keep each other number one in your lives, nothing else will matter. Finally, pledge to do whatever it takes to keep each other happy. May you always be open minded enough to accomplish it! Don't let the doom and gloom of this place of failure snd despair discourage you. The happy couples don't visit here. Good luck to you!